mom4him Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 Life can be so fragile and yet we(I) so take it for granted. We assume that we will see our children grow up, get married and have children of their own. How do you look at any other prospect? This week some friends of ours received a diagnosis of an inoperable tumor in their 13 yr old daughters brain. They did a 6 hr surgery Saturday just to get a biopsy of the tumor to find out exactly what kind it is. They have been told that she would not survive surgery to remove it as it is so entwined in her brain starting at the brain stem. She can have one round of radiation one time with the hopes that it will shrink it but not much hope that it will totally destroy the tumor. That is the medical diagnosis. Not much hope given them. She is 13! We can accept that as her bleak future or.............we can turn to God. This is what they are doing and have in fact done from the beginning. The Word says that He(God) has a hope and a future for this child.(Jer. 29:11-13) It says that Jesus bore His strips for this very time.(Is. 53) It says that He has not given us a spirit of fear but a spirit of love, power and a sound mind. (I Tim 1:7) Well, I could keep going but you get the picture. I once heard a pastor say you have the facts(these are the things that we face in the physical) and we have the truth(this is what the Word of God says about our physical circumstance. We have to deal with the physical, they didn't refuse to allow her to have the biopsy but it is the truth, the Word of God that rules our hearts. I remember when Richard was first injured and his Dr kept telling us that this was the worst neck injure he had ever seen. He had come from a big hospital in a big city and had practiced several years at this time. He over and over told us how fragile the situation was and that Richard could die at any moment! I kept telling him that Richard was going to live not die, over and over. I look back and I know that this Dr was trying to prepare us for what in his eyes was almost inevitable. Well, guess what! Almost 18 yrs Richard is still alive and well, doing all he can for his Heavenly Father. I am setting my face like flint to being able to see this young girl grow to adulthood. I am not able to do anything to make that happen except pray but God is well able to do it all! We spend the day Saturday going to Devil's Tower and walking around it. The kids had so much fun. It was a very enjoyable time. As I knew that this dear child was going through this surgery I kept thinking of how blessed I am with two such healthy energetic little people(except they are getting to where they aren't quite so little any more). I am blessed. If God lays it on your heart, pray for Aubrey. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BikeBookBread Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 Thank you so much for this post! I'm not just saying this, but not fifteen minutes ago, I was standing at the counter thinking, "it is amazing how much I love my children...I never knew it was possible to love two little people as much as I do!" What a gift from the Lord our children are! I will pray for your friends -- that their family will recognize the Peace that Passes All Understanding... (Philippians 4, especially verse 7) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 How tragic! :grouphug: Praying for her, and thanking God for my sweeties... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iquilt Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 I second this post. Today a little girl at our church lost her 1 1/2 year battle with an inoperable brain tumor. She was 5 when she received her diagnosis. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katemary63 Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 We too have a small child, age 4, with inoperable brain tumors at our church. They are benign, but probably incurable. She has multiple tumors in her brain and spinal column and will probably die from them. She gets chemo 1 day / week. ( not sure what "benign" means if this is all true?) It is so tragic. She is in constant pain. I can't imagine. I am so very, very sorry for your friend's child. Prayers and hope to her and her family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom4him Posted July 1, 2009 Author Share Posted July 1, 2009 Thank you so much for this post! I'm not just saying this, but not fifteen minutes ago, I was standing at the counter thinking, "it is amazing how much I love my children...I never knew it was possible to love two little people as much as I do!" What a gift from the Lord our children are! I will pray for your friends -- that their family will recognize the Peace that Passes All Understanding... (Philippians 4, especially verse 7) I so take having mine for granted. I have been trying to not do that so much. For us to have them is a miracle, I need to never take that for granted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom4him Posted July 1, 2009 Author Share Posted July 1, 2009 This is so difficult on any level but one of the things that makes it even more difficult is this is their oldest that they waited about 10 years for. She is adopted and was gotten after multiple no go adoptions. Her daddy is having a difficult time as I understand it. I am sure her mother is to she just deals with it differently. Thanks to everyone that is praying for them and I am thinkful that you are all giving thanks for your blessings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginevra Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 mom4him, I don't take having mine for granted. I cannot, because I do not have all of mine here on earth with me. The reality is already there for me. We can accept that as her bleak future or.............we can turn to God. This is what they are doing and have in fact done from the beginning. The Word says that He(God) has a hope and a future for this child.(Jer. 29:11-13) It says that Jesus bore His strips for this very time.(Is. 53) It says that He has not given us a spirit of fear but a spirit of love, power and a sound mind. (I Tim 1:7) Well, I could keep going but you get the picture. But, here is what *gets* me. They can turn to God, true, but that does not mean she will be miraculously healed. God may have hope and a future for the child, but it may not be for the child to remain here. I can't understand what any person is supposed to do. If we say we "trust God", what does that mean? It means we trust God will do the right thing, heal our child, make the terrible thing go away. It is a rare person who does not mean this when they say they trust God. I realize this is my own little personal wound, because God did not save my child. But I think it is also a question for many, certainly for most who have had God say "no" to the only prayer that really ever mattered. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom4him Posted July 1, 2009 Author Share Posted July 1, 2009 mom4him, I don't take having mine for granted. I cannot, because I do not have all of mine here on earth with me. The reality is already there for me. But, here is what *gets* me. They can turn to God, true, but that does not mean she will be miraculously healed. God may have hope and a future for the child, but it may not be for the child to remain here. I can't understand what any person is supposed to do. If we say we "trust God", what does that mean? It means we trust God will do the right thing, heal our child, make the terrible thing go away. It is a rare person who does not mean this when they say they trust God. I realize this is my own little personal wound, because God did not save my child. But I think it is also a question for many, certainly for most who have had God say "no" to the only prayer that really ever mattered. I am so sorry for your lose. I surely don't have all the answers. The one thing that I do know is my Heavenly Father is a giver of life, the enemy of this world is a liar and a theif. Please know that I didn't start this thread to hurt or upset anyone. I don't know how or what I would do if I lost one of my children. I do know that God is a good God and He is faithful all the time. He is the one that would have to get me through it and He will get you through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gretchen in NJ Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 :grouphug:Very sad:grouphug: My cousin had a diagnosis like that when she was 16. She past away in her 30s. 7 years after giving birth to her daughter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginevra Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 Please know that I didn't start this thread to hurt or upset anyone. No, I know. Of course you wouldn't. This is just my own struggle with the faith coming to the surface. I just don't get the "God is faithful" or "God is good, all the time and all the time, God is good." People say that all the time. I once believed it, back when I could close my eyes to the tragedy that goes on constantly all over this world. I could pretend it wasn't there because it wasn't my problem. But I don't know how those who have been through something like this can go on believing that God is faithful and good all the time. I recognize that there are some who suffer horrific wrongs and still do believe this, but I don't imagine I know how they do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyof4ks Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 Prayers for the family. Brain tumors are so devastating. We were faced with the possibility of losing our youngest 2.5 years ago to leukemia. We are so thankful that he responded well to treatment and he will be finished with chemo in 7 months. There is not a day that goes by that I don't thank God for my kids and feel blessed for whatever time I have with my kids here on earth. We know too many people who no longer get to hug their children because of this ugly thing called cancer and other causes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted July 1, 2009 Share Posted July 1, 2009 No, I know. Of course you wouldn't. This is just my own struggle with the faith coming to the surface. I just don't get the "God is faithful" or "God is good, all the time and all the time, God is good." People say that all the time. I once believed it, back when I could close my eyes to the tragedy that goes on constantly all over this world. I could pretend it wasn't there because it wasn't my problem. But I don't know how those who have been through something like this can go on believing that God is faithful and good all the time. I recognize that there are some who suffer horrific wrongs and still do believe this, but I don't imagine I know how they do. ahhh Quill, I'm so sorry. :crying: Truly, I am. I can relate to some degree, but I will not go there right now. This is a very sensitive topic and one which begs you to hear the sincerity and love in all I'm about to say(write)... I see you struggling, and can only say this: that your precious sweety is happy. They're safe in the arms of Jesus. We know this to be true because of every prophesy fulfilled through Him. He has proven to be the Redeemer. Yoru child is experiencing such bountiful joy that we can't even imagine. Honey, what do you think that child would say to you right now, if they could? What do you think that child would say about the King of Kings, the Lord of Lords? Don't answer here, just answer in your heart. Know that I'm praying for you, for you to find this next step in your journey, for healing, for a soothing balm for your soul. Blessings sister...:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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