battlemaiden Posted June 25, 2009 Share Posted June 25, 2009 What does this term stir up in your imagination? I am assuming this term is very subjective. I have a family member visiting who is the epitome of what many would call "ladylike." Quiet spoken, very feminine. She is not frilly, but hair and makeup always pristine (tasteful), and clothes impeccable with accessories in place. She is pleasant, patient, kind, and forgiving. She is lovely. My soul searching on this topic has arisen because she is struggling to get by in our home. We move quickly, talk quickly, we even hug quickly. We are loud, but loving. She can barely lift the baby, and the making of a PB and J sandwich takes so long that I want to cry. It takes her two hours to be "ready" in the morning, and then she can't really do anything because she is so frail- not old mind you- just physically sensitive to the bumps and jostling that occur in a large family. I have looked over at her at times, as she sits on the couch and watches the whirlwind, and wonder if we have shorted a fuse in her mind. It has been difficult for her to leave her orderly, monastic environment and live life amongst real people. By "real" I mean our family as well as our neighbors and friends- who at times can be rough around the edges, but they are real too. She has been here four days. I love this family member, but I don't admire her. I respect her and I honor her position, but I admire strong women. I admire women who can take care of themselves and their neighbors and friends when emergencies occur, and then bake a cake when it is all done.:D I like pretty things. I like comfortable homes and a well set table- but if a hurricane hit next week I would know what to do when my husband had to leave to take the boat to sea leaving me in charge. What I admire doesn't fit my image of "ladylike," but I think my image is changing. I would love your thoughts. Jo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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