Heather in Neverland Posted June 21, 2009 Share Posted June 21, 2009 (edited) UPDATE ON #25 OK, so here is the background... My husband and his sister are not close at all. Never have been. The only time we ever see or talk to her, her husband, and her kids is birthdays and holidays. We have polite conversation at these events but that is it. Dh and his sister never got along so polite conversation is a big step. Today, out of nowhere, her 16yo son (our nephew) called my dh and asked him if he is taking his golf clubs to Malaysia when we move. We have decided not to bring them for now (we have good reasons) but we may bring them later. Nephew wants to know if he can "borrow" the clubs while we are gone. My dh, who has issues with setting boundaries with people, says yes (he always says yes to everything). Right after he gets off the phone he starts to regret it. But he feels like he already said yes so he has to do it now. 1. Dh's clubs are a very nice, rather expensive set. 2. When you "borrow" something from someone for TWO YEARS (maybe longer) I think that is called owning it? 3. After using the clubs multiple times over a two year time span the clubs are not going to be in very good shape. This family is not known for taking good care of their belongings. Personally, I think it is rather presumptuous to call your relative that you only talk to a few times a year and barely know and ask to "borrow" and use a very expensive item for two years! I think dh should tell nephew he changed his mind. Dh feels guilty aboout saying yes then taking it back. What says the hive? Edited June 21, 2009 by Heather in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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