SonshineLearner Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 Hey There, I'm curious what your parents/inlaws do with your children? My parents always were taking care of my daughter when I was single...picking her up from daycare and such...Although I was her mother and they weren't her "parents". They did have a lot of influence as they helped me, since I had a salaried job. Fast forward to my son, who is now almost 6. My mom watched him while I took my daughter to ballet and other such errands. She is the kind of doting g-ma who takes care of kids by playing with them...baking cookies...etc. She was going to take him from church one Sunday about a month ago, and because seating arrangements weren't as he wanted...he ended up bolting from the van and running back to us. She was calling him and he wouldn't come back to her...He was angry. So, she said that when she kept him, if he didn't obey her...that she would spank him. She had already told him that in her whole life...she had never been defied like this before. No child had ever run away with her calling them...(on and on...she was ticked) I asked her what kind of disobedience she'd spank him for...and basically it was anything. Now, if that's how people think...that's fine...but we've only been spanking for particular things...not just anything. Maybe that's why he doesn't listen "as he should" and maybe since we're the parents...doing the best that we can....we should get to raise our son... SO, I can leave him....if I can pick him up right away if he doesn't obey. Basically that is very artificial, as I don't need to drop him off and stay at home. If you don't spank very much, would you still be ok with your parents spanking your child? I mean, the funny thing is...if he was with a friend...and she really thought a "spank" would work..I'd be ok with it....(Like wouldn't hold hand in the parking lot) But not because I'm not doing my job like they felt I should. I'm just kinda sad right now, thinking about what kind of relationship they can have...if they're together on Sundays at church... I wanna move to another part of the planet... I'm sure we'd have a great email relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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