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For those of you not versed in the abbreviations...JAWM means just agree with me, and that really is what I'm asking for here. I don't want this thread to turn into a debate. Dh and I did our research on the issue in question and we made our decision. I am not saying it is the decision every family should make. I am more perplexed at the idea of introducing it into the first 5 minutes of the first ever conversation a person has when attending a new church. So, here goes.... Dh and I introduced ourselves to the parents of a young family visiting our church today. Our church is very small and we try to be welcoming, especially since we need new families desperately. The mom complimented me on my Dd's piano playing. Somehow I ended up explaining that Dd has a lot of trouble with timing and that I suspect she has ADD, though I have not had her evaluated (though I've used many strategies and adaptations for ADD/ADHD students). New mom asked me if I had Dd vaccinated. I was a little taken back b/c I generally don't question people about those types of things directly after being introduced. I answered truthfully that, yes, she did have some vaccinations. New mom told me "Oh, well, that's probably why she has the ADD. Did you know that vaccines cause ADD?" I answered that I was not fully convinced on that score since my family has a history of ADD, and Ds had the same vaccines and shows non of the symptoms, and then changed the subject. But, really, isn't the topic/question a little out of line when you first meet someone? What if she had said it to someone who is a die hard 'you-must-absolutely-give-your-child-every-available-vaccine-or-you-are-going-straight-to-hell' sort of person? Furthermore, isn't it silly to ask if I knew the vaccines would give her ADD? What if I said Oh, yes, I knew, I just wanted her to have the precious experience of struggling with learning? Other not-so-nice and highly offensive responses have also popped into my head. Lastly, there are so many studies that point to various 'contributing factors' for ADD and other LDs, disorders and syndromes, I highly doubt that anyone has the absolute definitive answer at this point. I'll give the new mom the benefit of the doubt b/c she's young and obviously holds deep convictions about vaccinations. But, really, it's been a rough week and after all I've done to help Dd, and the continuing research I am doing to keep helping her, I really didn't need someone telling me I caused all her problems b/c I made the wrong choice. Maybe new mom is just awkward in conversation. IDK
at the crazy lady's house tonight. She called just after 5pm, and said "so you'll be coming for supper at 6 tonight." It wasn't a question. I was confused because my first thought was that my dh had forgotten to tell me about an invitation. But, no. THAT was the invitation. I declined. And, since I had my hands full making our own supper for tonight, I told her I'd get back to her if she could email me some acceptable dates for another evening. :D
But it happened tonight. :sad: There is a new-ish family that moved in to town. They have a boy about my son's age and one just a bit younger. The dad of the family works for the RM, as does my dh part-time. Dh suggested we have them over since the dad had said they were having a hard time getting to know people. So, I phoned up the mom about a week and a half ago and invited them over, inquiring as to which date would work best for them. As I always do when I invite people over, I asked her "is there anything special you'd like to eat, or anything that you can't eat?" She just asked for my email and said she would get back to me. So... I wasn't even sure if that was a yes or not. Days go by and no phone call reply or email. We hadn't made a specific date, and I was thinking that the non-response was probably a "no" in disguise. That was sort of okay with me. She doesn't know me. Maybe she's a little shy. That's okay. But, then I got an email from her on Wednesday saying they'd come on Saturday and with a list of things they can't eat. No dairy, no gluten, no seafood, no brassicas, no nightshades, no artificials colours, etc. etc. I looked at it and thought "okay... sounds like allergies and maybe a theraputic ADHD diet." No problem. What I'd been thinking of making just needed a couple of substitutes to make it fit the list. She emailed again this afternoon and asked for the menu. I called her to tell her and she just wanted me to email it. :confused: She didn't even let me tell her on the phone. So, I emailed it -- steaks, from our own beef, grilled veggies (no brassicas, no nightshades), 3-bean salad all from scratch (I listed all the dressing ingredients), a green salad and fruit salad for dessert. She emailed back to say that was okay. Then they came, and all through the meal she picked at every single morsel on her plate and on the kids' plates and picked out tiny bits that she'd put on their napkin to "throw out later." She asked a million questions about the beef and when dh said they were pastured, she said "oh well, too bad!" and scraped the rest of the meat off her plate and the kids plates into their napkins. The dad never said a word about anything his wife did. He ate everything. Thanked us for a great meal. The kids were polite and thanked us. She thanked us, then offered to teach me how to cook. I have never been so embarrassed in my life. I feel like I never want to have another soul over for supper ever again. FWIW, my dh has already said they're not going to be invited back, but still... I feel like a piece of pasture-flop. :sad: Umm... and I think this might be a JAWM post, so ya know... if you really don't like me already, could you just save trashing me for another thread? Thanks.