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Not sure this is exactly a K-8 topic, but since we had the Classical Ed/Circe thread here, I thought I might as well. I have been thinking about this partly as a result of my ds requesting to see Hunger Games and dealing with my feelings about letting him (or not) see/read something so dark. But, back to thinking about the Great Books (or even some of the semi-greats), .... I think back to some of the things I had to read in high school and so wish I hadn't read them at that age.... not even sure I would want to read them now. Anyone else feel trepidation at the thought of trudging through a bunch of gut wrenching literature just to pull out a sliver of slime covered shining something? (Yes, I'm being purposefully vague about which works I'm remembering.)
Well this 9 year old kid, (used to be my neighbor) always somehow manages to say mean things to my kids. Since they've moved we don't interact much but even when we do (once a month or recent once in three months) she initially plays nice with my kids (6 and 5) but then somehow manages to say something mean or bully them somehow every single time. Well the most recent incident is when as we were leaving she asked my girls if they knew who she likes most and my 6 year old answers her 5 yr old sister and the 9 yr old says yes and I look at my 6 year old and her face just got so small :sad: but then thankfully her mother overheard and for once stepped in and said something in her language (they speak a language I do no understand) and then the 9 yr old says "oh ok I like both of you" SO my concern is what should I do. A part of me thinks that my kids will eventually toughen up and learn how to deal with the world and not let the world walk all over them, but part of me (the part thats scared they might turn out like me which is passive aggressive) needs to know if there is something I can do to not let these things affect them. My girls don't have a lot of friends and the ones that they do are tweens who obviously want to hang out with their age group. So the basic scenario of our social life is that we "need" our friends but our friends don't really "need" us. Am I getting too confusing? My main concern is to just raise strong personalities that dont need validation from others to feel good about themselves. I tend to need that most times so I dont want my girls to turn out like me. If someone wasn't nice to me i'd take it politely but then of course it angers me but I internalize it and spend days or even weeks affected by it. Which I know is ridiculous but thats how I am , sometimes. Anyway , so any advice from you mothers out there? I am trying so hard to socialize and try to join homeschool groups and go on field trips with them so my girls can find a few "friends" but it is very hard.... we just end up making acquaintances not "friends". How do you make friends anymore? It just seemed so easy when I was in college myself but now I sometimes feel I may be lacking some serious social skills to be in this position. We've joined this homeschool group and their activities are sometimes a 45 min ride or even and hour ride away from where we live but I try to make it with my 7 mos old and my two yr old just so my 5 and 6 yr old can be around kids and somehow click but when we get to these trips most times we don't even get a smile from a few of the parents. There is just the moderators of the group who seem nice so I continue to go to these trips with them hoping that eventually people will warm up to us and let us "in". So again am I trying too hard to provide a social life for my kids? Am I doing something wrong? Thanks in advance for reading this long post and replying! :)
What do you do? 1yo is just 1. Sometimes clingy, sometimes teething. I know he'll outgrow it. 2yo is mostly fine. Unless she doesn't get her way. She's MUCH better than she was a yr ago. I know she'll outgrow it. 6yo is so sweet. But does she really. have. to. cry. every. time. something goes wrong? I mean...she couldn't think what to write for a writing assignment that she DOESNT HAVE TO DO. She insists on doing spelling w/ 8yo, then cries when she spells stuff wrong. I try to tell her that she's doing great, give her easier words, etc. But still, every. single. time. something sets her off. And I'm one of those people who doesn't deal well w/ emotions in the first place. Seeing someone crying, instead of evoking my natural maternal instinct, often makes me want to shake or smack them. NOT that I do, lol, just that I don't have that...gentle tenderness gene thing going for me. Ugh.
For those who may remember my concerns about whether I should shorten up or quit WP AS 2 for now, due to a sensitive 6 dd (7 in Nov.) who doesn't like all the talk of wars, etc.... I wanted to share with you a story that she just wrote. The Old Women Once opon a time in a forest on the edge of a clering there was a small cottege were there lived a old women who was poor. She had little food. when winter came she ran out of food. So she whent out into the chilly night and froze thier, soiled (solid) like an ice cube and died. It was that very day that it was Crismas Eve. When her family came to visit the next day they foud no one in the house ecsept her cat and bird. When they foud out she was ded they wept. That was a very sad day for them. They were so sad that they kild thereselvs and that very day they died right next to the houes. The End I mentioned to my dd that this was a very sad story, and she told me that it was from reading Jason's Gold and the Fighting Ground and books like that. It is true that these books deal with suicide and death. I feel like I have chosen unwisely in what I have read to her. Meanwhile, my 8 ds and my dh have really enjoyed all the books from AS 1 and AS 2 that we have done as RA's. What should I do now? I can tell you that my dh has sat down and talked to her about how it wasn't good that the rest of the family killed themselves, and that that isn't what God would want us to do, etc. Now I am thinking that I need to go much gentler in curriculum for her than I have been. We are on week 16 right now of AS 2. I have MFW ECC and SL Core 2 waiting in the wings, and I have to say that I am even contemplating switching to TOG at some point. I just haven't felt totally confident in MFW, SL or WP now. MFW is very gentle, but my dh has often thought it to be too light for our dc. Sigh... Brenda