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I'm very thankful for WTMF community! I'm seeking wisdom from parents of any 2E kids who have experience with this scenario: 1) DS (or DD) homeschooling through high school to college; 2) highly gifted, loves learning, willing to work hard; 3) but is "low energy" (like many Aspie/ASD), needs plenty of down time alone; 4) considering pursuit of admission to top tier STEM colleges; 5) is very capable of the LEVEL of work that requires, but parents have doubts about ability to handle QUANTITY needed to be a competitive applicant; 6) Christian (student and parents). Ultimate goal is to most glorify God and benefit man, by best use of God's gifts. Specifics - DS finishing 10th grade. 11th grade is "make or break" year if he's going to load up on dual-enrollment, AP, etc. Given 3-4 subjects, he could handle all of them at a high level - math, science, writing, reading, foreign language - literally anything. His only time-consuming extracurriculars are Boy Scouts (starting Eagle project this summer), church service and youth group. He's not a kid with a spectacular "hook". Stellar academics and test scores, his ability to write quality essay answers on apps, and just being a good kid that adults really enjoy are his strengths. DS and I had a conversation about "big fish in small pond" at college, garnering more attention, opportunities, professor relationships, etc., vs. being around more resources and people as smart or smarter than himself at a top-flight place. He wants the latter. Dilemma: he will be happier the next 2 years if we don't press his curriculum too hard, meaning no more than 2 DE or AP classes at a time. I think he'll be happier long term (college and career) if we push him beyond his comfort zone for 2 years. He's not lazy, and doesn't have a traditional learning disability (he can read, write, type, etc. quite quickly); he's just inefficient and has a true neurological need for more down time than most. Our counselor believes DS is on the autism spectrum (though no formal diagnosis), but it's a close call. Any experience to share? Wish you had pushed a little more or less? Did he/she land in a college that is/was too easy or too challenging? If you did push, what effect did it have on your home? And one more thing - did you have DS/DD report to Student Services on campus for any "disability" assistance? We're starting to feel like we're obsessing/idolizing these issues. Once 11th grade starts, we won't have much room to course-correct.
I've posted for years about my son. Today, I think I have a complete picture. We had him evaluated again in January, and today got the diagnosis of HFA (Aspergers). No real learning disabilities, though he is behind in math and writing/spelling. His verbal comprehension and spatial reasoning are superior, but working memory and processing speed are low. The evaluator's recommendations were to explore medication to help with anxiety and go to school. I will discuss meds and psych referrals with his doctor next week, but I don't think we are to that point yet. I want to keep working on self-awareness, exercise, controlling environment, etc. before we use meds, I think. She recommended school to help him learn social skills and have more structure, as well as get therapies that might be needed/available. She felt that keeping him at home would increase the gap in social skills between him and other kids his age. Thoughts? Are there others ways I could address these with him? We aren't totally against school, but my husband who is much like my son, hated it and isn't eager to try it. Finally, any advice on what to do now is helpful!