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M Hello, I'm new to all of this. I'm a mom to an incredible 6y/o and 3 y/o Aspies. My 6 y/o (my son) started out at public school. We had been promised the world, but given nothing. To make a long story short, we finally (through a nasty legal battle) were able to free him from the Public School. The first month or so was a battle to break him free from his autistic shell that the school that left him with (his teacher was a sadistic freak who bullied him mercilessly). Once he started to become himself again, I started trying different curriculum.* I know my son has unmedicated AD/HD, sensory issues, and little to no auditory abilities. So, since he is constantly on the go, I tried a whole hands-on learning curriculum from Learning Resources. When that failed, I tried Time4learning, apps on an IPad, multi-media unit studies on his "special interest," lap books, and the classical school method of text books and workbooks. Nothing works with my son. (By the way, we did attempt to medicate his AD/HD. Unfortunately, he stopped eating altogether, and had a horrible attitude while on it. We did try several different ad/hd meds, but all of them had the same results.) I love my boy. He is smart and very interesting (i.e. when I find the sunshine in his rants that go *on and on and on about his special interest for hours). He can't pay attention worth a darn. He is not just a reluctant learner, he is all out resistant. Unless I were to go "Clockwork Orange" style and strap him down with his eye pinned open, there is no way he will learn from me. Please. This is not about me not following through or not setting up the proper routine, etc. My husband and I pretty much majored in Behavioral Psychology in undergrad., and worked together at a group home for severely disturbed/ assaultive kids. The bottom line is that there is no reward in the world that he cares about enough to work for. *There never has, and there may never be.* I have been letting him do his own thing lately, since I've run out of ideas for him. Can anyone, who has a child much like mine, make any constructive recommendations? By the way, the school district insisted he start Kindergarten when he was still only 4 years old.* Since being left alone by me to pursue his own interests, he has started to do things he was never capable of doing before. He now feeds himself most of the time (he needs OT for his hands, but the school district never provided it). He brushes his own teeth and is practicing (on his own) to put on his own clothes by himself. He actually started to pedal his tricycle! He even has been trying some new foods! Despite his sensory issues and ADD, he asked that we bake cookies together from scratch. And, he even tried them! Most importantly, *for the first time ever, he actually wants a playmate. He has actually cut back on his monologues to me, and started to play real imaginative pretend play, with his 3 y/o sister. She is Aspie too and is easily frustrated by the world. He has been talking her through her freak outs and helping her problem solve. He does this better than most psychologists I know! Besides these "adaptive living skills"' he has spent a lot of time building circuit boards out of his Snap Circuits. He won't read, but will "look at" reference encyclopedias of military airplanes and vehicles of WWI and WWII constantly and has inadvertently learned about the history surrounding the wars. So, I guess what this long rant of mine is really about is, isn't this enough for now? Do I really have to push him to meet the insane expectations and standards that the public school was insisting upon? I mean, do all incoming Kindergarteners read full chapter books fluently and already can do double digit adding and subtracting? I understand that to the school district, he is very behind. But, in reality, is he really? Would it really hurt his future to just let him take the next 6 months off to just be a kid (like all his peers did years ago at the "appropriate" age? My son is the type of kid who just gets easily overwhelmed, anxious, and shuts down. That's why I had to throw out our mass quantity of "routines" and "daily schedules" that all the *so-called professionals insisted we do. He hates structure and thrives on a flexible schedule only. It's probably because he needs lots of alone time to process what is going on around him mixed into his day. And, *he never knows how much down time he'll need in order to face the world again. * The one thing that I have noticed about my kids and the few other Aspies I've had the pleasure to meet, is that they all talk about that they can't learn from others. They just can't open themselves up to it. They have to teach themselves. So, I have come to the conclusion that I just haven't figured out how to help him teach *himself.* Do any of you (who have kids like mine) use a curriculum based approach? Do you unschool? Do you use IPad apps, BrainPop, Discovery Education videos streams, etc?* So, *please, any constructive, supportive words of advice or guidance is welcome.*
First of all, thanks for the recommendations here for "Temple Grandin"! I put it in our Amazon cart when we first heard about it, but we have been waiting for the price to come down from a nosebleed level before purchasing. We got it this week and watched it as a family last night. What an awesome woman and an awesome movie! Immediately after the movie ended DS13 asked, in front of his siblings, "Do you think I might be autistic?" Our reply: "Yes, we think you have a very mild form of autism." Although we have long thought that DS13 was on the far end of the autism spectrum, we have never discussed it with him. Rightly or wrongly, we decided that we did not want to give him any excuse for inappropriate behavior. After that first question, we had a very good discussion about the topic with all of the children. Interestingly, all but one of the other children started chiming in with "Don't you think I might also be autistic?" :001_smile: "No, we don't think so." At the end of the discussion I asked DS13 how he felt about this new revelation. "I feel great!" "I'm special, but not less!" He was literally beaming! What a great way to introduce autism to our children! None of them have a negative image of it and hopefully they will be sensitive to people with ASD that they meet in the future.
Hi All, Long-time lurker, first time poster on this board... :) I suspect my 7yo DS may have Asperger's Syndrome. We've known DS was different from other kids since he was about 2, but just always chalked it up to "quirkiness". Now we're thinking it might be more than just that. We have an evaluation scheduled at a local Autism clinic in November (the soonest we could get in). In the meantime, I'm doing more research (reading lots of books, reading posts on this forum, surfing the web, etc.). I've listed his primary "symptoms" below - would love to hear from parents of Aspies and/or people who know kids with Asperger's Syndrome as to whether this fits with an Asperger's diagnosis. - Socially very awkward. Has difficulty entering into play with peers (usually barges in, comes on too strongly, and has difficulty integrating into play). Often interrupts other kids' games in his attempts to join in. For example: he'll see some kids (even complete strangers) playing soccer, and then run in and take the ball away from them and try to play with them - and then he'll be surprised that they're ticked off. Despite all this, he's very socially inclined and loves to be around other kids/people in general. - Can't read non-verbal communication. He is unable to see when others are upset with him, annoyed with him, or are trying to get away from him. He will continue walking after kids trying to engage them in play or conversation, even when it's totally obvious to everyone else that these kids are uninterested. He will also strike up conversations with complete strangers (adults and kids alike) about his topics of interest and he is unable to tell when they're uninterested and when they want the conversation to stop. - Does not seem to learn from his mistakes. He makes the same mistakes over and over and over again - 1000 times. Especially in social situations. We can coach him until we're blue in the face on what he should/should not do or say, he can repeat all that information back to us perfectly, and yet when he's back in a similar situation he makes the same mistakes again. - Low tolerance for frustration. He becomes frustrated VERY easily (especially when asked to stop doing something or transition from one activity to another - or when asked to do something he doesn't want to do, e.g. chores). He can turn from a perfectly pleasant boy into a screaming, tantruming mess in 1 second. And then he can pop back out of the screaming/tantruming just as quickly and be back to normal. - Very, very stubborn and argumentative. He is extremely strong-willed and will argue for what he wants for exceedingly long periods of time. - Encyclopedic knowledge in his interest areas. He "cycles" from interest to interest (usually spends at least a couple months on each one) and absorbs TONS of information about his topics of interest. Not only does he learn and retain lots of information, he's able to synthesize it and come up with new ideas. concepts and creations based on what he's learned. - Lots of sensory issues. I posted in the other thread on the General Board about this. He's sensitive to sound, certain fabrics/clothes, tastes, textures, and has a high tolerance for extreme cold and extremely high tolerance for pain. - Food sensitivities. We had him tested for food sensitivities (via an IgG blood test) this year, and he's sensitive to all gluten/wheat, eggs, milk, peanuts, almonds, and oysters. - Some "stimming". There was a period of several months (when he first started preschool at age 4.5 - an awful time but not relevant to this thread) when he would pace back and forth from one wall of the room to the other, sometimes up to an hour. Just back and forth in a straight line - and he would continue until we would stop or redirect him. He rarely does this now (I think because we homeschool now and his life isn't stressful anymore). He also chews on non-food items constantly - toys, pencils, the TV remote, whatever he has in his hand. I don't know if this is stimming but it's something he does non-stop unless I tell him to stop (and then he starts up again 5 min. later). The above list just lists what I consider to be his "non-neurotypical" symptoms - aside from that, he's a very happy, loving, energetic and all-around amazing child. :) Academically, he's right on track or ahead in all subjects (especially science - he reads our old college chemistry and engineering textbooks and retains it!!). Thanks in advance for any experiences or insights you can share!
About some of the stuff you read on homeschool boards regarding the amount and level of work kids are doing? Recognizing that many people are homeschooling precisely because they want their children to have access to higher level / more intensive schooling (eg: profound giftedness)... does anyone else ever feel like the proportions are just a wee bit... um, skewed? I just read a post on another board where a mom said something akin to their 16 yo having almost 70 college credits (was this in addition to high school credits? That wasn't entirely clear - I just scanned it). Maybe things have changed - I only needed 125 credits for my entire baccalaureate. Yes, there are kids out there who can do calculus at 8. I don't know if they understand the ramifications of it, but they can do the calculations. There are kids who have read the unabridged Iliad at 10. I'm certain some of them found it to be thrilling. Could they write a paper commensurate with a book of its level? Who am I to say. But I'm having a hard time swallowing the idea that so many kids are supposedly finishing high school with 8 AP classes, 2 years worth of college credits, half of the Western Canon read and understood, sport, etc. and... STILL BE A KID Someone please tell me that there are some other parents out there who just want their kid to be a kid -- even if they "have the potential" to do harder and harder and harder work (we did that at first, decided it wasn't worth it). I'm seeing a future wherein we will have a whole bunch of burnt out kids who are really going to miss not having had the time to just hang out and be twelve. a