I happened on this book at the library while looking for something else and was caught by the title: Dyslogic Syndrome: Why Millions of Kids are "Hyper," Attention-Disordered, Learning Disabled, Depressed, Aggressive, Defiant, or Violent--and What We Can Do About It by Bernard Rimland. I have not finished it yet. Rather than say more at this point, other than that it is changing how I am thinking about a lot of things I see IRL and read on these boards, I'd like to put it out here and hope that others will read it too and then want to discuss it. And maybe it can help somebody here.
Here is a link: http://www.amazon.com/Dyslogic-Syndrome-Attention-Disordered-Aggressive-Violent/dp/1843108771