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I would help him by finding an OT who specializes in retained infant reflexes and have him evaluated. It was night and day difference after OT. It wasn’t cheap and it wasn’t easy, but wow, what a difference. I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat.
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On 2/3/2024 at 2:46 PM, HomeAgain said:
Because this is the chat board and there doesn't seem to be a diagnosis, I'd say I would not let the child quit. They are needed there. They don't get to go somewhere else. The lesson that I would be focusing on is pushing through discomfort and dealing with it, and I'd explicitly tell that to the child, too. If they quit, we all quit. The job then becomes theirs to finish. Deal with the snow, alone, but I watch. Deal with the math, it's going to follow you to your bedroom along with me. There's no escape from learning how to develop socially appropriate behavioral skills. I'd emphasize different ways to deal, but the 'punishment' would be the consequence of not being allowed to escape.
It sounds harsh, but it's a necessary part of life that needs to be dealt with. The problem ceases to become to initial discomfort, but how it is reacted to - and that's where I'd pt my focus.
I don’t view it as quitting, but as their way of handling their emotions. They recognize that if they stay, it won’t be good. I had one who really needed space, even if he caused the problem or hit somebody etc. He couldn’t take correction in the moment; it wasn’t a cop out and it wasn’t quitting. He really really couldn’t handle it. He did outgrow it but we also did therapy for retained reflexes. His fight or flight reflex was HIGH! The therapy was amazing- OT exercises from someone who specialized in infant reflexes. OT was around age 11 or 12 years- first time we heard of it.
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What about those little prescription cough pills that supposedly numb the throat a bit? (helps me not feel that tickle). Tessalon Pearls.
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Transaction downloads are bank dependent. Banks/Ccs provide the schedule to ynab. One of my banks/Cc doesn’t seem to provide new downloads to ynab over weekends/holidays.
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2 hours ago, TexasProud said:
Ok, it looks like I put 700 a week instead of a month. And the truth is that there are NO transactions since it didn't download any. It just has the lump debt on the credit card or lump sum in the checking account. We haven't spent any money on groceries since I created it. It is green now... I am not sure why changing it made it go from yellow to green since the money was in the accounts to cover it whether it was 700 or 2100. I will need to have some expenditures, which I don't have yet or rather they haven't posted yet. I know my husband has made some Amazon purchases that are showing pending in Monarch, but are not showing in YNAB yet.
You had the money in Ready to Assign, but you didn’t have $2800 assigned to groceries (your original target), so that’s why yellow. The red/green/yellow tells whether you’ve assigned the targeted amount or not (if you have a target) to the category. It doesn’t look at what you have in Ready to Assign. It turned to green once you changed the grocery target to $700 and you had at least $700 assigned to it.
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3 hours ago, TexasProud said:
Ok, I cannot do what half of you say. And I am so confused because I put in my budget yesterday, but now all of the screens have 0 for assigned. So do I have to enter the amount for every single category every single month?????? Here is my screen:
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Yes, you typically assign money to your categories each month. If the green amount is already enough to cover this months bills (since you did assigning yesterday), then just wait until Feb 1.
I assign money throughout the month, after paychecks come in. Next to phone for example , I may have Phone bill -4th, to show me it’s due on the 4th of the month. I would find that category before something due on the 25th.Your groceries issue looks due to a goal you set. You have not spent $2000 and you are not in red. It appears your ‘goal’ was $2800 for groceries for a month, so it is saying you still need to fund $2100. Just change your goal to $700 if that’s the correct amount instead.
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5 hours ago, TexasProud said:
So how is going to reconcile it?? So I am just making up numbers. So for Mint, when I spent the money on the credit card it put it in December budget so if I paid 250 to Walmart, it put it in Groceries.
So now, it shows me with a debt of let's just say 3, 457 on one card. I will pay it out of the checking account January 7, but the money was actually spent in December . So it will just show 3, 457 out of checking account... But they should be from 30 or more different categories... I am so confused....
I use mostly credit cards and pay off monthly. And I do linked accounts.
both checking and Cc are listed as accounts. I reconcile my linked accounts several times a week with the button. If all transactions are entered properly, it reconciles. If not, you investigate to find why.
if you buy gas, the transaction is entered as (example) Payee- Mobile Gas Station, category -Honda Odyssey Gas Money, Account- credit card 1234. Then that $40 is ‘moved’ from Honda Gas Money to Credit Card 1234. And so forth for every transaction. The money moves from your budgeted category to your Cc category.
(I have a main budget category as credit card payments, and then my credit cards are listed under that. I ‘think’ ynab did that based on my Cc accounts, but I can’t remember.) so when you pay your Cc bill the next month, the money to pay it has already been accounted for.
Not sure if that helps or is just confusing. Watch the videos for credit cards.
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I find it awesome for saving. I have lots of detailed savings categories that I contribute something to each month for those ‘not a surprise surprises’- car repairs, new car, new roof, roof repairs, new AC, new furniture, vacation, college visits, funeral flowers and flights, painting, home repairs, eye glasses and contacts, medical copays, dental costs, subscriptions, new computer, clothing and shoes etc.
I use it for our regular expenses too of course, but staying organized and ready for future expenses is the best part for me. For big items like a roof/car/ac, I take an estimated cost and how many years before we might need to replace it to get a monthly estimated savings amount. I also like saving a little bit per person for clothing and shoes each month so I don’t have $100-$200 future ‘surprises’ if someone needs a suit or new shoes. Each family member has their own category.
If we ever have extra unassigned money, I zero it out by assigning it to a category called Unspent Monthly Money which is a generic pot of money.
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On 12/28/2023 at 10:58 AM, Farrar said:
Adding another thought to my post about the absurdity of what we expect of our high schoolers. In Florida, where dual enrollment is pretty common and growing, the department of education unhelpfully decided to determine exactly how many high school credits each dual enrollment course is worth. We expect college students to carry between 12-16 credits per semester. So, like 4-5 classes, maybe 6 if the student has these 1-2 credit type requirements. That keeps a college student on track to graduate in four years in pretty much any institution and is legally defined as full time for financial aid purposes.
In Florida, each course is defined as a half credit only. So for a high school student to take all their coursework through dual enrollment, they'd need to do 6-7 classes per semester. Not 4 like a lot of actual college students. A minimum of 6. I think obviously the department of education didn't fully think it out. But also, this is our crazy thinking about high schoolers. We pile on them like mad. It's not that those 100-level gen ed classes are that hard necessarily. But they take the finite resource of time.
I don’t see that at all. Most core courses are worth 1 credit- English, math, sciences with labs. Many art, music, pe courses are 0.5 credit. And then there’s a mix.
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My elderly dad always wanted candy and ice cream. I think a lot of food tastes bland as they age, so the sweets still tasted good.
He also used to like those small handheld poker games or solitaire. 80s era simple electronics, just push a button.
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7 hours ago, scholastica said:
You could try The Social Dilemma. The “story” interspersed with the interviews is cheesy, but the interviews are informative. My youngest saw it and wants nothing to do with social media.
I second this. We watched it as a family with my young (at the time) teens. They had zero social media until the last month of high school. It’s pretty necessary for college because IG is how the university and clubs communicate.
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1 hour ago, mommyoffive said:
HURRY over to Amazon where they are offering up to $5 instant savings automatically at checkout on select children’s books! Prices start as low as just 9¢ after the extra discount! 😱 Plus shipping is free for Prime members!
Look for books that say ‘Save $5 at checkout.’ You can buy multiple books and the savings will apply to each one!
Take a good look around as there are lots of book options including cute Christmas titles that make perfect stocking stuffers!
The Very Hungry Caterpillar Board Book $5.90
Less $5 instant savings
Final cost 90¢!I love you like No Otter $5.37 (Regularly $8.99)
Less $5 instant savings
Final cost 37¢!How to Catch an Elf $6.94 (regularly $10.99)
Less $5 instant savings
Final cost $1.94!Do you have a link? All I’m finding is $5 of $20. Thanks
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I do, but via the ynab app which makes it so easy. Recently I found an $800 mistake. I deposited a check via the banks mobile app, got an emailed receipt that it was deposited, but it actually wasn’t. They don’t know what happened but they had no records of it and I had to deposit it again. Sometimes it’s smaller ones. A duplicate entry at a restaurant or a different amount. Until ynab, I just used to eyeball it and consider it good. I like reconciling it much better.
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We had a similar living room in our cape cod. We had our couch on the window side- it’s nice to curl up and read by the window or look out while sitting there. I like that better than sitting across from the window. My grandmothers hope chest was between the end of the couch and the front door.
we had our tv in an entertainment type unit (with bookcase/cabinets)across from the couch (where your couch is).
we had an oversized chair floating between the end of couch and the end of the entertainment center.
basically, I’d flip-flop your room. If you do, then you have a wall area to work with instead of windows. It’s much more usable than low space under a window.
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I wouldn’t know. I went from 0 to 3 with my triplets 🤷♀️.
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I used to use Shutterfly and this past time used Mixbook. I like the Mixbook software a bit better to use, but my Shutterfly books always came out fine. I do think Shutterfly is less expensive.
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What about a poinsettia?
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14 hours ago, chiguirre said:
Dd is gearing up for starting classes in January. She met with her General Ed advisor (who is distinct from her CS advisor) to see what would transfer and how to meet the distributional requirements. The guy doesn't seem to have read the UF catalog. It very clearly states which CLEPs/DSSTs fulfill which requirements. There is a chart. There are footnotes. It shouldn't be this hard.
What worries me most is that there are a few areas that are not explicitly spelled out in the UF catalog about out of state AA holders and he is just not a reliable source of information. If you can't count on your academic advisor, who can you count on to make sure you're squared away?
The only bright spot is that dd's first semester classes are obvious and pre-requisites to the whole chain of CS classes so she doesn't have to stress about what to take right now.
I knew this was likely, that's why we went over the catalog carefully. But it's still disappointing.
My kids go to UCF, not UF, but they have a student portal and can run an audit report to see what courses they still need to take (major and minors) for graduation, and what courses are showing as already satisfied due to incoming credits. Is it possible your dd has something like that available?
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My kids did Raise Me but then couldn’t use it since the merit aid they got through the school was higher. It doesn’t stack.
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We kind of do them. The kids wore the same ones for years even if they had technically outgrown them. So I only had to buy two sets over the years. For us, the fun tradition was in having some kind of Christmas Eve/morning outfit and not the buying of new ones all time.
Now we each just have Christmas tshirts from Walmart because we live in Florida and hate flannel/fleece pjs. The kids tshirts all match (elves) and me and dh have Mr/Mrs Claus type ones. I expect we’ll wear these for a very long time, lol.
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cds and workbooks and lots of questions/stuff to think about
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Maytag. Stainless steel interior and a food grinder/disposal. Ours is about 5 years old right now.
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1 hour ago, Calizzy said:
FIL is turning 70 in April. Dh is from a family with 5 kids- 2 are in the midwest, 3 are in Idaho. FIL is in midwest. Dh is the oldest and wanted to take his father to a Boston Redsox baseball game for a birthday weekend getaway. He invited his siblings but asked for it to be siblings only- no spouses. That way they can rent an Airbnb and all spend the weekend together. The siblings are all pushing back that they want to bring spouses. It's a long flight from Idaho and to get their $ worth they want to make it a vacation. Dh said, "That's the point. It's not a vacation for you and your spouse, it's about dad."
1st question- would you find it unreasonable to be asked not to bring your spouse?
2nd question- if that is what they want to do, dh wants to not be involved and just take the trip alone with his dad. The whole thing was his idea. How does he get out of this?
1- not unreasonable to ask, but also not unreasonable for them to want to bring their spouses especially if the money is coming out of the family bacation budget and it’s using vacation days.
2– I would suggest dh just say- I understand, it’s not a great idea. We’ll do a local party that all can attend. And then at a later point, do his own thing with dad.
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I’d leave it be. Maybe the grandfather just comes from a generation where you do a tux for a super special occasion and it’s an honor in his mind. I couldn’t care less what any of my guests wore. And would have not taken anything negatively.