Thank you, Karyn. My dd4 is visually impaired, has developmental delays and mental insufficiency, and is also suspected to be somewhere on the autism spectrum. Her orphanage situation was bad, but she actually hasn't had attachment issues. I am sure she would have if her mental ability wasn't so low, but her cognition is not enough to process what her "old" life was like. I hope that makes sense. She slept in a baby bed in our room for the first six months we had her, and then we moved the baby bed into the room beside ours. Now she's in a toddler bed, which she gets out of at night. We actually don't go to her when she wakes up. Usually she just starts playing...and singing...loudly. That keeps us up! I know we could do earplugs, but I wouldn't want to NOT hear her if she did happen to get hurt. I hope no one will flame you. Anyone who hasn't been in our shoes cannot even begin to understand. I appreciate your words of wisdom. And you are so right about finding a way to take care of ourselves. I slept until 9:00 today b/c dd4 did. I actually got to sleep for nine hours last night! Pure heaven.