I was down with a cold and was not able to log in on time to thank you all for your warm hugs, your insightful suggestions, your great ideas and especially your support. I learned so much from this thread. In fact, I went through it and took notes of some of your advice. Thank you all again.

"Once you submit a request for evaluation in writing the school is legally required to respond within a certain time frame. Do it now because things tend to grind to a halt in the summer." Who should I address the request to?

She is not taking all of ninth and tenth grade subjects at once. Her schedule was made by her counselor who tried to fit a few of each in her schedule. She is taking the same number of subjects as others. Even then, I thought that would be very discouraging for her because she thinks of herself as a sophomore while in the school system she is considered a freshman.

I am grateful to all of you who have suggested the most insightful suggestions and I will evidently ignore all the negativity that emerged in this thread. For those who thought that I deliberately sent her to this "boot camp" school; this is just a public school in our neighborhood and that is the only place she could attend considering proof of residence. It is not as rigorous as some might think but it is better than others nearby. My main focus for her is not academic achievement but success in life as a whole and that is why I will seek the advice of a private psychologist and hope for the best.

I think her strong aversion to school happened when she was a brand new student in a private school who just moved from another state. She was in first grade and the kids at the new school had already been paired up when she arrived. They refused to let her play with them. They abused her both physically and emotionally especially that they thought she looked different than them. It was a true nightmare and I am not going to start on it... I have spoken to her school counselor multiple times about my concerns and how I would like her to be evaluated by the school psychologist but he vehemently insisted that she needs to take the initiative to see the psychologist herself; while he knows full well that she is unwilling to do so. Over the years, I tried to talk her into seeing a psychologist but she does not accept the idea because in her mind only "crazy people" are in need of such service. I have spent the whole morning exploring psychologists in my area and this is not the first time I have done so.

I am afraid you are absolutely right. Should we see a psychiatrist or psychologist?

I meant the school counselor. I agree with you that no person tries to be inherently self-destructive. I always try to dig deep to find out why she makes these decisions. I suggested that we see a psychologist and that we both get counseling but she does not like the idea. I had wanted her to welcome the idea first before getting her into it. I do discuss with her what her plans are about the future and what she would like to pursue. For years, she has been interested in the medical field but she has changed her mind recently. She is now discussing getting into law.

I am not sure how to begin my story; it is a very long story. My daughter was attending regular school but she could not thrive academically and socially and so I started home schooling her in third grade. I am a professional teacher and I have formerly taught in high school. Throughout our home schooling journey, my daughter has never shown a desire for learning although I always picked what I deemed as the best and most reputable programs and attended a very good home school coop. It has always been a struggle getting her ready for tests and she refused to do her Math practice. Instead she always reached for the solution manual. In the beginning, I tried not to hide the solution manuals because I expected her to mature and take education in her own hands. Unfortunately, even at seventh, eighth and nine grade, she always tried to cheat no matter where I had the solution manuals hidden. She always found a way. The irony is that she never struggled with a new introduced concept, especially Math. She always seemed to have excellent understanding and she seemed to do well in lesson practice. Last year around March, when she was showing more defiance, carelessness and obstinacy; I decided that she should go back to school. The idea of going back to school always horrified her because I think she knew that she would not keep up and find the leniency and tolerance she found at home. The school she has been attending this year is a great school with very high standards. Upon registration, they refused to accept any of her home school credits of ninth grade and required that she takes grade nine main subjects. As a result, she is now taking classes for both grade 10 and grade 9. I was hoping that she would show a positive attitude towards her education but she became worse. She is failing both Chemistry and Algebra. She refuses to do homework and her score is almost zero. Her math level is that of a fifth grader I believe because she never wanted to do any practice throughout the years. Now, I want to help her. Her counselor warned that it would not be easy for her to graduate high school with the amount of credits she has to recover (44 credits required to graduate from this particular high school) and the subjects she is deliberately failing. I do not know what to do with her. I am considering getting her into some online home school program over the summer and see how she does and decide to either keep her home or send her back to school. Knowing that sending her back to school means sending her to failure and a bleak future. What should I do? What can I do for her to help her with her Math and Chemistry over the summer? I apologize for the lengthy email although it actually does not reflect an iota of my pain and struggle. Thank you all. I am looking forward to learning from your insightful suggestions.

I am not sure how to begin my story; it is a very long story. My daughter was attending regular school but she could not thrive academically and socially and so I started home schooling her in third grade. I am a professional teacher and I have formerly taught in high school. Throughout our home schooling journey, my daughter has never shown a desire for learning although I always picked what I deemed as the best and most reputable programs and attended a very good home school coop. It has always been a struggle getting her ready for tests and she refused to do her Math practice. Instead she always reached for the solution manual. In the beginning, I tried not to hide the solution manuals because I expected her to mature and take education in her own hands. Unfortunately, even at seventh, eighth and nine grade, she always tried to cheat no matter where I had the solution manuals hidden. She always found a way. The irony is that she never struggled with a new introduced concept, especially Math. She always seemed to have excellent understanding and she seemed to do well in lesson practice. Last year around March, when she was showing more defiance, carelessness and obstinacy; I decided that she should go back to school. The idea of going back to school always horrified her because I think she knew that she would not keep up and find the leniency and tolerance she found at home. The school she has been attending this year is a great school with very high standards. Upon registration, they refused to accept any of her home school credits of ninth grade and required that she takes grade nine main subjects. As a result, she is now taking classes for both grade 10 and grade 9. I was hoping that she would show a positive attitude towards her education but she became worse. She is failing both Chemistry and Algebra. She refuses to do homework and her score is almost zero. Her math level is that of a fifth grader I believe because she never wanted to do any practice throughout the years. Now, I want to help her. Her counselor warned that it would not be easy for her to graduate high school with the amount of credits she has to recover (44 credits required to graduate from this particular high school) and the subjects she is deliberately failing. I do not know what to do with her. I am considering getting her into some online home school program over the summer and see how she does and decide to either keep her home or send her back to school. Knowing that sending her back to school means sending her to failure and a bleak future. What should I do? What can I do for her to help her with her Math and Chemistry over the summer? I apologize for the lengthy email although it actually does not reflect an iota of my pain and struggle. Thank you all. I am looking forward to learning from your insightful suggestions.