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  1. Since you are looking to hit the reset button / rebuild, I would probably start with a capsule wardrobe plan and shop to that. I.E: 2 pairs dressy yoga pants / athleisure pants, 1 pair cargo pants or joggers, 1 jean jacket, etc. You will get more bang for your buck having a plan and knowing what will mix and match all together. Several bloggers offer these types of wardrobe guides.
  2. Your feelings are valid, you are controlling what you can to make the visits more tolerable for you, you are giving your kids agency in choosing to go or not. Those are all great things! My FOO is completely dysfunctional and I’ve done a lot of hard work to do things differently and be a healthier version of myself. After we got home from having Christmas with them this year, my kids were all like, WTF. They see it all for what it is. I bet your boys notice your mom’s “quirks” including her favor, too.
  3. My kids each have different preferences and tolerances for a fabric’s “hand”. To layer on to that, one kid likes some compression in their workout wear, one kid likes skimming the body and one kid no one can tell their true build because of how much they size up. It’s always a bummer when the kids are committed to a piece of clothing they like - fabric, cut, etc - and the feel of the fabric changes after being washed 😕
  4. We went to St Lucia just over 20 years ago. It was beautiful but we mostly stayed on the resort and excursions arranged by the resort. We are glad we went and experienced it but isn’t on our list to go back. My two cents would be to prioritize some of the other locations suggested on this thread.
  5. Could you bring her a coffee or pastry and tell her, “I may be mistaken, but I feel like we maybe got off on the wrong foot. I’m (insert name), smile handshake? and say you admire her commitment to her work / efficiency / something and you’d love to learn more about what her office does?
  6. Quick no labor involved idea: buy a money gun off Amazon More labor intense: make a money lei - lots of how to videos and not as challenging as other origami projects
  7. Could you tell your mom you all truly love the family and would like to visit again and need to structure the visit in a way that everyone’s needs are met - would she prefer you come visit solo or you all come for a shorter visit and stay in a hotel?
  8. This must be so hard and hurtful, I’m sorry you are going through this. I agree with bolt, and I’m saying this really gently, is there any chance that dd6 is in the middle of a desire to be in control dynamic between you and dd3? I think being consistently loving to dd3 and dd6 and letting them own their decisions is a great next step. And make room for the siblings’ feelings if they didn’t get the time with their siblings, but those choices are solidly with dd3 and dd6. Big hugs!
  9. I always look for a deal on something, so I do that with gifts too, to stretch our Christmas budget. I am very impassioned to spend the same $ on my kids. My FOO is very inconsistent across the board and many hurtful experiences have happened from holidays / gifts. I have a dear friend that one year (adult, married couple) they was really struggling with $ but didn’t want to let on and worry their family so muddled through. At the extended family gift exchange, the parents gifted one adult sibling many gifts and sheepishly said later, “they really needed it more” not knowing their child was struggling too. That has shaped my resolve that I will spend the same holiday money on each child regardless of what I know about their circumstances.
  10. Not sure what the set up is for the young adults ie college roommates or young professionals, but a couple of ideas are magnetic dart board, hot cocoa kits, Sherpa or wearable blankets, or puzzles (not sure if that counts as a game?)
  11. Hi, my youngest is really interested in learning ASL. What resources do you recommend to learn it? I have some Christmas gift $ in the budget to put towards an online class, books, videos, whatever is effective and makes the learning approachable. Thanks!
  12. My peanut butter blossom recipe is gluten free - 1 cup sugar, 1 cup peanut butter, 1 egg. Mix together, use a small scooper to portion dough and bake. Press the Hersey kiss in after baking.
  13. I am simultaneously taken aback at the directness and have a little respect for her gravitas. Not knowing any details about this person, if I was planning on giving her a gift before the email and hasn’t purchased anything, I would honor her ask and give her money. If I had purchased something, I would try to think of another person that would enjoy that gift and repurpose it and if I had the money in my budget, I would still give her money. If I didn’t have it in my budget, then I wouldn’t gift anything because she’s been clear other gifts would not feel like a gift. I might also tell myself a story that she really needs money to be so direct and I would pray the money I gave her would bless her in how it was used.
  14. Oldest in college - yes, I have the other mom’s number and we text with purpose like if they are tailgating with us and what can they bring etc. Otherwise, the couple handles logistics and communication between the families. FWIW, we like the parents and my child’s SO is very happy we get along bc they have seen some doozies for couple parent dynamics.
  15. My Le Creuset Dutch oven has been a work horse for me, and the bottom is stained deep brown to prove it. I want to restore it back to its creamy white original condition. There are a lot of posts online for how to do that, but I know the Hive knows best!
  16. Are they going for the day / Thanksgiving dinner or staying overnight too? If they are going for the meal, she could ask what she can bring for the meal. Flowers always make a nice hostess gift. Or a Kringle from Trader Joe’s 🙂
  17. Nice Bluetooth speaker Fitness tracker watch
  18. I would be tempted to send principal an email summarizing your conversation from today. He can decide to respond to it in a way that is CYA for him or double down on his lie. It gives you something to stand on later if anything comes up and he has “amnesia”.
  19. I would do something like, “hi gang, we are going to have our family Christmas celebration earlier this year, on x date at x time. We will have bean dip and more bean dip so please come hungry / bring your favorite bean dip. Please let me know if you’re able to join us by y date so I can have enough bean dip for everyone. Xoxo” and let them know sooner than later because they may want to impose themselves on someone else Christmas night.
  20. How is your sister safely communicating with her friend? Do they have a backup plan if that channel is discovered by the husband? The friend’s husband is deplorable and I pray everything goes in her favor when she gets out with her kids.
  21. Exactly this. Working in an extra two hours of work…on top of a regular 9-5…on top of any personal responsibilities? It’s a rare day I could randomly fold in an extra two hours of responsibility in the house of cards that is my life.
  22. I am completely unfamiliar with this kind of interview. I have a hypothesis for why a company would perhaps try to have these “interviews” (dove tails into your comment about unpaid work), so I’m really interested to hear from those that have had them and I am prepared to hear my hypothesis is wrong 😊
  23. I’m going to keep some details intentionally vague, but including the most pertinent info: I have a pair of tickets to a type of event that occurs as a series over several weeks- think performing arts or sports type event. I look forward to attending and build my calendar around this. Because it is important to me, I’ve invested in good seats. DH, SIL or a friend will go with me each time, rarely the same person during the series. SIL was invited to join me a few weeks ago - we went together another time and it was really fun. It didn’t work this last time for SIL, so she declined. SIL and DN will be located near this thing in a few weeks, and they want to go. You can buy individual tickets to the event. I told SIL I am going and if her and DN want to go too, an extra ticket can be purchased, though we wouldn’t all be able to sit together. SIL told me DN is not comfortable sitting with friends they know and SIL is thinking she will buy an individual ticket and hope a seat by us is open. I know the seat monitors won’t allow that. I looked and there is not a seat for sale near us. I was thinking the “right” thing to do is let SIL and DN have my tickets and I get an individual ticket. It doesn’t bother me to sit alone, but I will be giving up a much better seat and better experience. DH thinks that is silly because these events make me happy and no matter what, I should have my great seat ticket and SIL can figure it out with DN. I’ve tried putting myself in SIL’s shoes and to be honest, I would probably just decide to buy two individual tickets to be together with my kid, but SIL hasn’t gotten there yet. What say the Hive?
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