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  1. We would need a well, septic, and electric. We have a month and a half yet before closing on our current house. We are friends with the guy that would do the well and septic and he says he can get them both done within a month. Not sure on the electric. There are electric lines on the eastern edge of the property, so I wouldn't think it would be a huge deal. My husband sent them an email on Friday...waiting to hear back from them on price and a time frame. We don't need plans stamped...only inspections are for septic and once the interior electric is finished. Like I said, pretty laid back around here. :001_smile: We have a 12x24 storage barn for extra storage. And for our 2 chest freezers. I have been on a real minimalist cleaning spree the last half year. Gotten rid of so much stuff. So we really don't have much.
  2. 28x39 is the advertised size. You are right....that seems really big. I haven't seen it yet, just saw a used one advertised on our local craigslist for a really good price. It's a Wildcat Brand. I'll have to look into that. Maybe a mis-print? How would that even go down the road? Hmm... ETA: I just looked up the website for Wildcat 5th wheels. From what I can see, the biggest that they make is 8' wide by 34' long. That's a lot smaller than what I was picturing. There are some with awnings of up to 19 feet...so maybe that's what the ad was talking about?
  3. Wow! That's crazy. We live in a very relaxed part of the country (rural Montana). There are very few hoops to jump through. We plan to be breaking ground the day we sign for the land.
  4. This would be the 4th house we are building together and we have come to know each other's tastes very well. And yeah, I agree with you...on our first house every thing took forever because we couldn't agree on A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G. I think we mostly have it all figured out now. :001_smile: No subs. Dh and crew would do everything except sheetrock.
  5. These are all really good ideas. My family...well, at least the guys....are all into camping so we have a lot of supplies already. Lots of camping chairs, at least. Kiddo loves playing with dirt so I am thinking an acre or so of woods would be all he needs to be content all summer long. :001_smile: DH also talked about building him a swing set with slide and sandbox. He used to build a lot of those as a side-line business. I am not sure though if he would actually find the time for that.
  6. Ha! I have my doubts, too, that it would only be 3 months....but we are building relatively small, less than 2000. Ranch style so nothing fancy. An we would probably move in well before it's finished. Been there, done that. :tongue_smilie: The 5 acres are almost completely wooded. I meant fencing first thing after things like well and electric. No way am I living without running water. I'm glad so many think this is doable - my husband thinks it's an awesome idea and I want to go along with it if I can get my mind around it. I'm sorry for those who had a bad experience with this....
  7. Is this a crazy, crazy idea? We are buying land and building. My husband is a general contractor with a small crew. He thinks he can have the house livable in 3 months. (He would say less, but this is his busy season) So we could rent. Closest place available would be 15 miles from our land. Or we could buy a used 28x40 trailer and live in it for 3 months and then basically sell it for the same price...so no lost rent money and we would be living right next to where we are building...which would be a huge plus because much of the work will be done evenings and weekends. We have 5 acres and plan on fencing part of it first thing. Plus its summer, so our youngest (ds4) would be outside much of the day. DH and two older boys gone from sun-up to sun-down. So it would only be me and DD16 home during the day. And again, it being summer....we would be outside a lot. Dh thinks it's doable....me, I'm not sure. What do you all think? Is there another option we haven't thought of?
  8. I have them. I got them for free and am no longer using them. I would be glad to pass them on to you for the cost of shipping. :001_smile:
  9. No worries, AnnE. We've been keeping careful track ever since things started going sideways....which was pretty much right from the beginning. Most (if not all) our communication is through Facebook messenger. And I keep a journal. But thanks for the reminder.
  10. That made me smile and groan at the same time. Because I thought about that....I don't have a very good phone voice and am often mistaken for my children. So you're probably right and I will ask my husband to call next time. I'm going to give it 24 hours.
  11. I just heard back from the police department. They stopped by and talked to the boyfriend who said that she is okay, just doesn't want to talk with us and is out running errands. The officer left it at that. Which doesn't really answer things one way or the other. She doesn't have a car or a license so unless she went on foot? or, possibly public transport? My daughter just reminded me that another reason that we all started worrying is that she hasn't posted anything on Facebook since last Friday. Which is really, really out of the ordinary for her. She usually posts multiple times a day. I tried to tell dispatch all this, but they kind of brushed me off and said that they don't like to bother people too much. So I guess I am no worse off than I was before, but also no better. :confused1:
  12. So you all talked me into it. I called the police department and they said they would send someone by. I'm feeling a bit like a drama queen, but I guess it can't hurt.
  13. Your imagination is just as wild as mine. :001_smile: It's crazy the wild scenarios my mind has come up with late at night when I can't sleep. I honestly don't think there is anyone interested in the child. It's rather sad, but true. At least not any family. I guess you never know about strangers, though.
  14. Yes a voluntary placement that was supposed to be very temporary but has turned into more than a year. And yes it has become very sticky. And sad. And confusing. Hence the lawyer. :crying:
  15. I agree with everything you said. That's definitely been our experience as well. I guess the only reason I am stressing about it this time is that although she has often ignored our messages before, we knew that she had at least seen them. And that she was just ignoring us. It just feels different this time. But you are probably right....it seems like the only thing we can do is wait and see.
  16. We thought of doing a wellfare check, but I am not sure how that would work with someone who is basically a transient. She has only been at this address for the last 2 or 3 months. Would the police even take us seriously?
  17. By unofficial, I meant that we never went through social services, although they are aware that we have him. We have a signed POA from bio mom and are working with a lawyer to get guardianship. Bio mom was supposed to sign some temporary papers on Friday, but then, of course, never did.
  18. Please Don't Quote We are (unofficial) foster parents. We were supposed to meet with bio mom last Friday. First meeting in 3 months and it was 6 hours away. Bio mom seemed eager for meeting, kept texting to see if we were still coming. Last text we got from her was half an hour before we got there. Basically just asking if we would get there by the time we had said we would. We replied yes, see you in half an hour. She had given us her address and we were supposed to pick her up at her place and go out to eat. When we got to her place, she wouldn't answer the door and when we texted her to let her know we were there, she replied "Sorry, I can't meet with you today." We hung around town for 4 hours. Texted her multiple times. She never answered. Eventually, we just left for home. It's been a week. We haven't heard from her. According to DH's phone, she hasn't seen those last couple of texts yet. On one hand, she has a history of drugs/alcohol and maybe she is just bingeing. She has never been very reliable with meetings, missing 3 out of the last 6. On the other hand, she seemed very eager for the meeting. As evidenced by her texting us half a dozen times leading up to the visit. She knew that this was a big meeting and that we had driven a long way to see her. Also, she is married to her phone and generally sees a message within minutes of sending it. Sometimes longer if she is on a binge. But it's never been longer than a day. That whole day just seemed weird and I can't shake the feeling that something more was going on. I've worried enough that last evening my husband and I spend some time scouring news articles online from her hometown. We didn't turn up anything. What would you do next? If anything. Oh, her address was a very run-down trailer park. Lots of chain link fence, trash, and fierce looking dogs. She doesn't have her own place or a job that I know of. Generally she just hooks up with guys so that she has a place to stay.
  19. And :grouphug:, Misty. I am feeling so overwhelmed with my one son. I don't know how moms with more than one learning disabled child do it.
  20. Interesting questionnaire. 79% probability that the child has difficulty with directionality 65% probability that the child has difficulty with sequencing 97% probability that the child has poor ocular motor skills 76% chance that the child has poor visual motor skills 68% probability that the child has difficulty with simultaneous processing So, I guess that's why I am thinking VPD. See I guess I knew he was having all these issues, but I thought they were all due to dyslexia. I am learning.
  21. Elizabeth, I wish I knew the answers to half those questions. I am so confused right now. It seems like not even the "experts" agree....so where does that leave me. :confused1: I will pm you. (Again) I hope that's okay.
  22. A ped opthamologist - I thought that was the best choice. He's local. Because he is in-state our insurance would cover it. Waiting time to get an appointment is not too long. We talked about visual processing and he sounded knowledgeable about being able to diagnosis. At this point, a diagnosis is all I want. Then work from there. Not a good idea? I could cancel yet and look elsewhere.
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