I have an only. In my circle of friends I can think of 6 other only homeschool children.

I am his step mom and my input is somewhat limited. Dss just about melts down if dh tries to get him to wear an adult depends...I don't understand why being soaked is less humiliating to him than wearing a diaper. Dh is reluctant to force him because he is with us so little.

Thank you. Yes it is pretty bad. I don't know what is wrong with her.

Pamela, I did read quite a bit about that and showed it to dh. But if we can't even get xw to take him to the urologist I know we can't get her to do that program. Not to mention it would require consistency at her house since he is there most of the time.

Dss12 was 9 when dh and I got married. He will be 13 in a few weeks. He had been dry since he was a toddler. The bed wetting started after his mom divorced dh and moved the boys in with another man. Your ds sounds like dss. We have tried before to get him up at midnight, 2, and , 4. By 6 he had soaked himself. So we gave up on that idea. Poor kid NEVER gets enough sleep because he is wet most of the night. If he naps during the day he wets. My theory is that if he would wear a depend or even 2 he could at least sleep through the night. To me there is more going on than just a kid who can't wake up. My ds14 sleeps soundly too. He RARELY gets up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. And he can sleep until 10. Poor dss never gets to sleep in. I think he lies in bed wet until it is time to get up. The question is why so much urine? I have researched it to death and the way the kidneys work is that when we go to sleep a hormone is released that tells the kidneys to slow down urine production. I believe dss doesn't have enough of that hormone. That is my theory. So to me dss is not a normal case of a sound sleeper who wets the bed. I urge you to take your ds in now to be evaluated.

Not ours. We are in the process of forcing his mom to get medical care.

Cool,site thank you.

I have a soaker pad....I should start having him use it at home. For the hotel I will just use a plastic mattress cover and disposable pads. My bed wetter weighs 200.

What do you do when your kid is a brat? You should be ashamed But you know whose to blame The mother and the father That is what is in my head anyway....actual lyrics may vary.

Yeah, I just don't think I can adequately convey how much 'wet' there is.

We use the Goodnight velcro pads. Not the Goodnight diapers. We have some adult diapers because he is a big boy but he all but refuses to wear them. I hope dh will make him while we are in a hotel. We have also used the blow up mattress several times when in other people's homes. We need a new one but for this weekend I will just take a plastic mattress cover, and pads. And adult diaper too. I am having him throw his sleep clothes away after Saturday night in hotel..he has a really ratty set that need to go anyway.

Yes. We planned to take those as well. I just wanted extra protection for someone else's mattress.

Well, we have the pad and the Goodnights with the velcro. It isn't enough to ensure the mattress won't get wet. He is a BIG 12 yo and he has more urine in a single night than most people have in 3 days. It is a big problem and he has a stupid mother...but I digress. I will just take the pads, the Goodnights pad with velcro and a plastic mattress cover we can throw away if it gets wet.

Exactly. Especially when someone is ASKING for them. They want me to bring my own. Which means I either bring one that gets thrown away or I take a urine soaked plastic cover back home.

Yes we will be bringing our own. Still very annoying. I can't believe this is the only bedwetter in the world who is staying in a hotel.

I am sooooo irritated. I called the hotel we are going to be at this weekend and asked for some consideration for my 12 yo bedwetter. You know, like, say a plastic mattress cover? Their answer? No we don't have any of those. If the mattress gets damaged we just replace it. Really? That makes sense to anyone?

So sorry Jean. I hope it passes soon.

Awesome update!

Any word on Jean?

What is the problem? Honestly I don't see a problem. She is burned out? Ok, take some time, knock around, mull things over. I am not exactly dismissing it, I am saying the solutions are easy. IMO.

The OP gave an update....they decided to build the house after all.

Well I don't know why I brought it up. Maybe because it is on my mind. And being 21 and struggling with ones choices is also not special. Being bitter at ones parents at age 21 is not special. Again, not bitter. Realistic.

A year ago you said you weren't going to do this....what made you decide to go ahead and do it?

She doesn't have a problem. She is 21 and educated and has no responsibility. If she wants to take a few years off to experience life I say go for it. Why does she need to be bitter at her parents over it? And no I am not bitter. I am rolling my eyes at her.

Maybe it is because I just returned from my 41 year old friends funeral, but sounds like she has a first world problem on her hands. Bitterness is her real enemy.