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  1. Well, sort of. I gasp and sit up straight to stop the movement. I feel nothing after that point. Except soreness. The reason hernia came to my mind is it feels likes something 'rolling' through my gut. Over a 4 inch span. Have you ever seen a kid 'roll' his stomach to make it look like it is moving? It feels like a small version of that. But sideways just under my ribs.
  2. You guys have just made my night. I have decided to ignore it until and unless an alien pops out of my gut.
  3. Yes, sort of....AND it is sore like a charley horse is afterwards.....but honestly it feels sort of like an alien too.
  4. Ok, thanks you two for making me LOL.
  5. Ok, I don't think I am explaining where it is. My bottom rib, on the right side....just below that bottom rib is my intestines. It is no where close to female parts...no where close to my lungs which I believe is where plerisy develops. Who knows though I am not a doctor. The thought popped into my head this morning that it is a hernia. Who knows. Now, do I go to the doctor with no insurance or wait it out. It has happened several times and the soreness goes away on its own.
  6. I have had several people around me lately with bad gall bladders...nothing like this...but I know the symptoms can vary. This feels like something has rolled inside me.
  7. My dh had it at age 45 and he was very sick. He literally couldn't get out of bed for days on end and any little thing would exhaust him. He didn't work for 3 months. It has been 1 1/2 years and I think he is still feeling the effects.
  8. It is below my bottom rib. I think the above condition would be higher by the breast bone.
  9. Ha. Yes I know I should go to the doctor and I will. In the meantime I have this weird thing going on. A few times....maybe several times in the last few years......I will be bent over at the waist...for instance night before last I was sitting up in bed and leaning over toward my knees....when I get this sensation along the bottom of my right ribs that feels like a ball ( smaller than golf ball size) running through me. It is freaky and doesn't really hurt at first but it makes me straighten up to stop the sensation and then for a few days after it is really sore. My first thought is gas....but it is so BIG feeling (relatively) and always in the same spot and then stays sore. :( Any ideas?
  10. Oh I agree pitying a child is never helpful. My mom NEVER did that...she had more of a pick yourself up and make your own life kind of attitude. Life happens.....we live in a broken world with death as a possibility and imperfect people who can hurt us. And yes that is an entire other discussion. :)
  11. To me the discussion isn't about telling kids they are less than because of not having two parents....it is about impressing upon woman that they don't have the right to keep a father from their kids. I dare say there are many many on this board who would LOVE to have their kids father CARE enough to ask to see the kids.
  12. I think it is always a loss. When it is not by choice, like death, there is nothing to be done. You are right that kids survive and even thrive in all sorts of situations. But I feel confident that you would give anything to be able to have your kids father in their life.
  13. I don't think there is a higher standard for mothers than dads. As far as the bc, I doubt he had the right to put his name on there since he wasn't married to the mom. He isn't JUST an ex boyfriend Rosie. He is a biological father who WANTS to be involved in this child's life. He and the child shouldn't be punished forever for his less than enthusiastic response at first or for breaking up with the boys mom. Lots of men are scared at first and claim they aren't ready to be a dad. Doesn't mean they don't get a clue and turn into good dads.
  14. I know there are lots of pretend fathers out there. And a picture or two doesn't tell the whole story. But let me ask did your sons father hire lawyers seeking visitation with your son? Every time a story like this comes up there are lots of people with bad father stories. I get it. I was abandoned by a bio and a step father. Neither of them EVER made an effort to see me. So to me a lot can be said for a father who makes the effort.
  15. He has pictures with the child as a baby. And he claims he was never intended to be a sperm donor only. That they had tried to get pregnant for years.
  16. AR doesn't order college. And I think even if both parties agree and it is written in to the decree a parent could request a change if circumstances change and they are very likely to be granted the change request. But I'm not a lawyer and I don't even play one on the internet. ;)
  17. I am not sure I am following you. Biology alone doesn't make a father certainly. But in this case he is the bio father AND he wants a relationship.
  18. The legal part is interesting, but I am more interested in the human decency standpoint. How do these women live with themselves keeping their kids from having a relationship with their dads.
  19. Everytime I hear of a situation like this I wonder why they couldn't just stay married if they got along so well!. But I agree it is a brilliant solution.
  20. OP I would like to apologize for derailing this thread...I sort of got it confused with another one asking about marital separation. I realize you are already divorced and trying to work a good visitation schedule. Personally, if all parents and step parents are involved and available for the child, I think a week on/week off is a great schedule.
  21. I am not trying to make parents feel guilty either. My hope is to help those who haven't actually divorced realize how hard of a road it is and to do everything in their power to NOT go down that road. Some parts of my life are sooooo much beter without my XH. But for my son? I still feel sad for him about so much of it. And for different reasons I feel sorry for my step son. My son hates changing houses.....he would prefer to never go see his dad---or at least very little. And it isn't because he doesn't like his dad it is because he likes being in his own house. My ss hates that he can't be with both parents....when he is with his dad he misses his mom, when he is with his mom he misses his dad. It is hard. I really feel for all the kids of divorce.
  22. Such a good point --- it is what we are asking our kids to do. Go back and forth between houses. My son hates it.
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