I am so sorry. I hope she does agree to help.

I agree with @bolt. the interaction in its own is no big deal. The long standing disrespect to you as wife and mother is a huge deal. Maybe she is sending him the add to show him what a bad decision it would be. 😳

I love this thought. Just this morning I saw a cheap picture frame in my closet still in cheap plastic and I thought, why am I saving that.

Exactly. And any time a ‘lifestyle’ looks too perfect we need to remember nothing is perfect. The trad wives kind of creep me out while at the same time showcasing some things I really like about being a SAHM.

AND! And why do the anti trad wives have to act like a SAHM is so stupid she will be living under a bridge if the marriage fails. I don’t know how many times I see videos of anti trad wives saying she was the perfect wife for 25 years and the husband left her and she has nothing. On one such video I commented, ‘ I don’t understand this. Did you have no marital assets?’ You know what she replied? ‘’Sshhhh’. Lets find some balance people. You can live on one income and stay home to take care of your kids and still have a general plan in case he dies or leaves you. Or becomes medically or mentally disabled. Or looses his job. All sorts of things can happen to any of us and our lives will be completely turned upside down. I did not even have a good husband or marriage when I chose to stay home with our son. But he was there, living and breathing and needing his mom. Those other possibilities were just that—-possibilities.

@Spryte I just wanted to say I think you get the situation better than anyone. I do not regret my kindness. I think she has made a mess of her life and my life is pretty great. I don’t know what will happen to her but it is largely, mostly not my problem.

Quoting myself to correct the bolded because I think it is important to the story. I did not take her around. I asked her if dss had saved her a seat…..she said dss’s girlfriend had. So I said well let’s find gf. I handed her off to gf and then in a few minutes saw her sitting alone….gf had gone off with her friends. So I then took several people over…one at a time….to introduce them to dss’s mom. I felt sorry for her.

Weeeeellllll. I can tell you my favorite pair currently are quite cheeky. But I much prefer that to soooooo much coverage of my booty and having panty lines.

I think the sizing is wacky. I accidentally discovered that in something like Hanes (bikini—-I can’t stand it to touch my stomach.)I need an extra large….even though I am not that large of a person. I wear a 10 in jeans and I am 5’6’” and weigh 150 pounds. Is that extra large? But at any rate they fit. Bras are a nightmare for me. I usually accidentally find one that fits. I hate the full coverage kind……I feel smothered. Then I get a 38 and it is too big but a 36 cuts me in too. I keep saying I am going to go to VS and be fitted but who knows if I ever will.

I can hold two thoughts in my head and they are……..I am secure with my relationship with my Dh and I also don’t like another woman trying to put out feelers to see if he will bite. I am not ‘worried’…….I am annoyed that she has so little respect for marriage that she feels entitled to attempt that. But then again why am I surprised. Her history is pretty consistent.

Part of the reason I felt like being kind is that it took a lot of courage to walk into a group of people that are all my friend’s and dh’s friends. They are all very well aware of what she did to us because they lived through it in real time with us.

Well obviously if I thought she would be putting feelers out to husband the next day I would have been less accommodating .

Hopefully she will pm you and tell you

I think if any of us talk about our lives we would be recognized. A few never tell anything much about their lives but still have a unique voice. Like @Catwoman

I have had people threaten me as well.

Well sure no moral problem, just difficulty doing so. Lol

It has been three days and I am pretty calm but I definitely don’t trust her.

It really really annoys me because I have been working so hard on letting go of anger and grudges. She really put us through heck back in the day. She is the cause of dh’s 7 year estrangement from their oldest son. And do so much more.

So. The boys are grown. We have no need to ever see her— for years now. Heard she divorced the man she left Dh for. That affair did not last. She lived with another man for several years —-she recently moved out and is alone now. The another night she showed up at a public event where we were. Invited by her son. I greeted her warmly. I even inexplicably hugged her. Took her around and introduced her to several people as dss’s mom. The next night she texts Dh ‘accidentally’. A text intended for dss23. There is zero chance it was an accident. Dh did not respond. Forwarded text to dss 23. But all my kind feelings toward her have left the building. Anyone experience this out of an X spouse or your current spouse X spouse?

I agree. I argued with Dh because I thought it all came down from watching the video.

I thought it all came down too but this shows that only a section did. https://www.cnn.com/2024/03/28/us/visuals-maps-key-bridge-ship-collapse-dg/index.html

A bridge over the AR river here in OK collapsed when a boat hit it. I think it has been 20 years now.

Awww this is all so hard. I am glad your dd was able to go to her bio dad’s house even if it is temporary. I had hoped she would get easier as she got older but I see it did not work out that way. And it seems like yesterday you got that dog. Time is flying by!

There is also a lot more to the OP’s story than she could put in a few posts. And why are you telling me that something is not my business that you posted on a public board? Very strange. I was only responding to the facts you posted.

@Home'scool I feel bad that some have jumped to the worst conclusion about you and your life and or expectations. I hope you can get something figured out soon. You have been through a lot.