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http://www.biglolz.com/funny-pics/7099/ This is what I post on my wall/timeline everytime someone does a 'vague post'.

I have a 12 year old. I try to have him in his room by 10, but if he is wound up he can read or draw for an hour. I like him up by 8 a.m.....9 at the latest, so I don't like to let him get in the habit of staying up too late. I don't know how public school kids function! Or public school parents!

Nowhere in this story do I hear that you made plans and did not follow through. THAT is the problem with RCs son. Or that you felt it was your parents responsibility to finance your dreams. Rc's son is angry, antsy, unhappy and has no sense of direction. She is NOT trying to keep him 'down'. She has been willing to support, financially as she can, and otherwise many of his ideas. HE is the oen who doesn't do the research to make them happen or to the work for the follow through. Your story is really cool. I never had that kind of umpfh myself.....and I like to see it in a kid. But that is not what the problem with RCs son is....

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I noticed this too....I see NOTHING in how RC or her dh are dealing with this adult child that could be considered kicking him. They have gone above and beyond what is required and/or normal for parents to do for their adult kids especially when there are 3 more the same age who also need help.

All the above sounds good, but will not happen if he drops out mid semester at a CC.

I love the name August. Love it. But hey, you've already used that one. ;) I love the name Jude and I think it goes well with your other names. I don't hate Ronan. And if that is what is 'in your head' go for it!

Just got a call from another case worker at Prudential. She seemed slightly more helpful. She is waiting on the additional records from the specialist before they deny the claim---in hopes that the new info will be enough to approve it. If it gets denied we have to begin an appeals process and that will just take that much longer. The maddening thing is that Prudential won't accept email documentation...has to be faxed...and when anything is faxed to them it has to go into their mainframe in order to be processed into the individual's claim. That process takes 24-48 hours. So several times the very inept GPs office would fax something and then 48 hours later we would find out only the cover page went through or some such.

I know this thread is over a year old, but the above bolded has become a favorite here in my house. We actually now say it instead of the correct idiom...if someone overhears us they will think we are insane. Makes us laugh every time.

:iagree: I think RC is a fantastic mother. As someone else mentioned he is just spewing on those he knows will not abandon him (he doesn't know this consciously of course). It is hard to take, but I think RC is doing the best she can.

Well, the nurse from the specialist's office read me the file notes that will be sent to Prudential. They sound much more comprehensive than the GP's notes so I am hopeful that the new info will be enough to get it approved. Dh also called his HR department and they are getting involved. This is just so ridiculous that at the time you are the most sick you have to deal with this kind of red tape.

Well, we do have a preliminary diagnosis just as of this Tuesday. And still I just got the call from Prudential saying 'the documentation does not support impairment. He appears to be self-limiting.' I almost started crying. I could very easily collapse into tears right now. I have to keep going though for dh. They didn't bother asking the specialist for the records from Tuesday's visit. So that is what I am working on right now. What a nightmare.

Thanks everyone. You have made me feel better knowing it is common.

Very large engineering firm. Is that good or bad. :confused: Hopefully calling his HR will help....if not that is a good idea going further up the chain. It is ridiculous at this point. Part of it is the incompetence of the GPs office...they took forever getting paperwork turned in...but now it is the insurance company.

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I agree with this. My only issue is how he expects RC and her dh to pick up the tab.

They will do direct deposit so that will help speed it up....and if we had confirmation it was coming I could relax a bit even if I had to borrow some money in the meantime.

It is through his employer. He is going to call them tomorrow. I am just beyond frustrated.

:iagree: I was astounded at all the right things she said to him! Wow....especially with no sleep lastl night and as upset as she is.

Wait, was he angry at RC or the ds? Either way it sounds a little hopeful that the dh is willing to discuss consequences with/for the boy if he doesn't get a real plan.

LOL. I know right? Thanks for making me laugh.

Thought I would tell this--- Got home late yesterday (from taking dh to specialist) to hear a message on my answering machine to call the nurse at my gyno. Since I had a check up 2 weeks ago all I could think was bad news. With everything else that is going on I about collapsed with fear. So when I got hold of the nurse this morning and she said, 'everything is fine, just a bit of yeast and I called a Rx in for you', Wow! I about fell over from sheer relief instead. All I can say is I am VERY grateful for such mundane news.

Sadly I don't even recognize that name...:( So many killings....so horrible. The one I got blown away by was the Whitney Heichel. Ugh. When she was missing for 3 days before her body was found, a link was sent around on my FB friends. When I woke up Sat to hear that her body had been found I was so sad I could barely read the article to dh.

Am I the only one who is seeing that RC isn't really trying to run his life? That she would be ok if he just got out and supported himself however he sees fit while he learns some life's lessons? I think the problem is that she sees HER future as the mom stuck dealing with this kind of adult/kid who is still living in her home for years eating her food, not contributing and just basically mooching off his parents..