Quite frankly, that's none of her business. How utterly disgusting of her to think she has any right to determine how you show up for your family and what your grieving process should look like. Does she have a boss? Is there HR? I'd be done dealing with her at this point.

Just said this to my dd. I can't imagine not taking advantage of using those years to do things that aren't work. The only thing I can assume is that her identity was so wrapped up in her position, she just couldn't leave it behind.

Boo. Hoo. Don't you dare put yourself in the position of driving all night just so this lady doesn't have to teach one class. You deserve to not be exhausted going into the funeral. Your supervisor can eat dirt, as far as I'm concerned

There's no place like home!

I'm bummed about them eliminating the consideration for multiple kids in college. That's gonna stink for us.

Does anyone have details on this? The website is vague. So far, all I'm seeing is that filing will open in December instead of October.

Smokers are bed ridden all of the time in facilities and they are provided with nicotine gum or patches, but not permitted to smoke. No worker should be forced to endure second hand smoke. If a family member wants to take over for that period, that’s fine.

We have a home health nurse who works in our home caring for ds. Part of our contract is that we agree to provide a safe environment, where she can walk without hazard, has clear exits, and is not exposed to hazardous materials. The agency can drop us if we fail to do so.

Did you notice the season 2 finale was almost 1 continuous take? It took me about 15 min to realize that there were very few/almost zero cuts. I was blown away

I was not ready for the Christmas episode. The mom is super triggering to dh because his mom is very similar. We loved the show but definitely felt the tension. Richie is an incredible character, played by a gifted actor. I love him.

I have colored my own hair for decades. I stick to my natural shade and use semipermanent. The reason for semi is I have found that the grow out line is less harsh and it gives me good variation with natural highlights. It’s about a 40 min process from start to finish. If I could afford it, I would get it done professionally but I simply cannot. In my area, that would be at least $300 every 4-6 weeks. What I have looked into lately but super intimidates me is coloring with henna. THAT looks like a full day process.

In my house it’s ma/mom/mama/madre and dad/pa/padre. Mommy and daddy faded out but it’s also not a cultural norm here. What I think is weird is requiring that your kids call you mother.

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With an MCV of 65, they don't really need to see a low ferritin to know that she is iron deficient. I would probably stay the course but also reach out to the doctor just to be sure. I also agree with Arcadia that it would be a good idea to push for thyroid and celiac screening. Cook on cast iron, try to get a little more red meat into her. I really like Thorne Ferrasorb to help with iron absorption.

....mulling this over more. Is she still bleeding? Is this level of exhaustion (missing school) a change or a continuation of her previous symptoms? I wouldn't say she's not tolerating the iron (it can take a couple of weeks for supplementation to help with symptoms-even with infusions), but I do wonder if she's had a change in status. I would call the doctor to discuss. I work in hematology/oncology so we sometimes get these admissions. We don't transfuse unless their hemoglobin is under 7. Iron infusions don't instantly raise hemoglobin and it's the low hemoglobin that's making her feel rotten. Her body is going to need a minute to build things back up.

Did they check MCV? Serum iron? Transferrin? It’s strange that they didn’t check ferritin, even though it’s a somewhat misunderstood lab value. MCV tells them more as far as microcytic anemia than ferritin but high ferritin in the setting of other labs that are out of whack can be a big clue about other diagnoses. There’s a whole picture that really gets pieced together when you have all the values. I would make sure she’s taking her iron with orange juice or vit C, and D. Personally, I would probably wait to push for an iron infusion just because I would want to see how her body responds to this. That will give you more information on the big picture.

Love the meme, but you should delete it. Our wonderful host has previously been sued over celebrity photos being posted on this board. I think there’s still a pinned post explaining what happened. She’s asked us not to post anything with celebrity photographs.

Ds used an expired-expired test and it still worked (later confirmed by an unexpired test. This was Ds’s second time with Covid. The first time was a little over a year ago. This round was WAY milder than last. A cough that lasted 5 days, fever for 12 hours, no sore throat, no head ache or body aches. He really only felt bad for 2 days. He had a very close exposure to dh the night before he tested positive and dh still dodged it. DH has yet to catch Covid and this is definitely his closest exposure (in a car together, sharing drinks the night before the positive test). We managed to get the household through without spread and ds was immediately back at baseball practice after clearing it. It was 6 days from day 0 to testing negative. If not for home testing, that would have fallen in the category of mild cold, especially compared with our spring bout of metapneumovirus that lasted for months and netted 2 weeks in the hospital for SN ds.

Exactly. Broadway shows, concerts, sporting events, museums (we have great ones!)...I don't hate living close to SF and I'm also happy to not live IN SF.

I would put it in the fridge and do the smell test before each pour.

Congrats! What an exciting change! I know we’ve hit on the hard stuff (housing costs, homelessness) but I just want to say that I absolutely love it here. We’ve been in the Bay Area for 14 years now and I don’t plan on leaving. People love to hate on California but living here is not as dramatic as all that. I hope you love it, too!

The trajectory I’ve seen is kids live at home a lot longer. Basically until they have meaningful employment. I know very few people who live alone. They either live with their parents, a partner, or at least one roommate.

The anti-law enforcement movement has netted unsurprising consequences. It turns out that people don’t just do the right thing and live harmoniously all on their own. I do think it’s getting dire enough that the tide may eventually turn back to some moderate ground.

We hire out for a ton. Like almost everything. Neither dh nor I are all that handy and dh has injuries that are not worth aggravating to save a few dollars. We have a yard guy. Pest control isn't a huge deal here but we did hire out when there were critter in the attic and again when they were under the house. We don't fix our own cars beyond replacing a battery or headlights. We take our cars to the car wash. We hire a guy to clean our gutters and solar panels. I hired junk removers to save us a dump run. We hire out for hvac, water heater, appliance repair, electrical, plumbing, etc. The only thing we don't have is a house cleaner and that's not for lack of desire. Will we survive a zombie apocalypse? I doubt it.

You roofed your own house?!