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KathyBC

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  1. Your point was strangers can't judge a book by its cover? Well then we certainly do agree.
  2. Oh absolutely true to the bolded! Many on this thread have made great points about the dangers of people's rushed judgement of others. As to your last paragraph, what I actually said was: I meant you can't let other people's inaccurate assessments sabotage your efforts at that which is important to you. I fully agree with all the other posters who have said that life sometimes has more important priorities, and have made those choices myself.
  3. This is *exactly* why personal responsibility is a moral quality. Persistence and finding work-arounds may not lead to the same result as someone else, but you won't get anywhere at all until you accept your unique situation in this world and work with the hand you were dealt. Dealing with the ignorance of others is certainly an unneeded challenge, but you cannot let it sabotage your efforts.
  4. That's not something I'm remotely qualified to comment on, nor was I trying to.
  5. I think that's part of why motivation has been a bit easier for me: At this stage of life (approaching 50), nearly EVERYONE I know has to do this to stay at a healthy weight, even my previously lifelong underweight dh. So I don't feel alone, I feel like as you age your metabolism slows down so it's a natural stage of life. I enjoyed eating everything when I was younger, now that the kids aren't littles I actually have time to exercise. I still plan to balance moderate enjoyment at Christmas and other special days, and when my aging parents or young adults need me, might have to drop all my ambitious exercise plans for a skimpier version (FlyLady exercise, lol). I've made the mental adjustment. I think. Fingers crossed.
  6. Okay, thanks so much for that Maize, because I think I understand the article's author a bit better now. For her, size 16 *is* a sign she is conquering an area that is difficult. It looks the opposite from most people. It shouldn't be necessary to explain all of your personal back story to people, so how frustrating to get mistaken comments.
  7. I see what you're saying, I think, but the whole "If it is meant to be, it is up to me" concept of personal responsibility is in there somewhere too. I'm not saying that anyone can do anything, because obviously they can't, but if you can find methods that work to tackle even in small measure an area of life that doesn't come naturally to you, that does seem to have some moral quality to it. If we are not going to call it self-control or self-discipline then what would be a more accurate term or description?
  8. More ramblings, maybe you just need to reframe their comments. Like instead of thinking, "Great, how crappy did they think I looked before?" you could consciously think, "Wow, people are really noticing all my hard work and consistent effort."
  9. Wasn't sure if this was JAWM or if you would like a discussion, but here's my rambling monologue, lol. I can't really relate to the gist of this article because my issue is not appearance and control from eating disorder, but rather, like probably most people, from loving food beyond healthy eating. So for me, self-control, self-discipline (which are moral qualities), are likely going to lead to being at least somewhat thinner, but also stronger and fitter. And it's not just selfish. My family should be better off if I'm not hoarding all the treats; if my joints last a bit longer from carrying less weight; if I am more productive at work because I've eaten in a balanced way and am fit enough for a busy day. Anyway, I'm only talking 20-30 lbs (which is a lot really), but maybe not enough that I get the comments. Or maybe it's that folks in my world do recognize a stronger, fitter body but are too tactful to say anything because it would point out the time before when life got crazy and there was not enough space for self-care and poor choices were made, but everyone has made poor choices, so why draw attention to any of that? Small town, we are all well aware of each other's hardships and poor choices, so safest not to judge out loud in public, lol. ETA: Or maybe it's just my RBF? You should get one, stop the comments! 😂
  10. All folded down and put inside of one of them, then replaced in the back of the vehicle for next time.
  11. My dd and her friends are really into tapestries right now. Most are kind of hippy/boho, which may not work for you or your dd, but they are an inexpensive and quick way to decorate if you can find one you like. ETA: Hey, a HTTYD tapestry! https://www.amazon.com/TRE-ONE-Tapestry-Decoration-Apartment/dp/B07RP5WJ99?th=1
  12. When companies support charities, even that can get political. If Wendy's supports the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption, for example, no problem. But I haven't bought a bottle of Yellowtail wine since they donated money to more extreme animal rights.
  13. No, that makes sense. If you had to submit as .docx and lost your formatting, that would not be the most convenient. Those are the times I really miss Office.
  14. My kid also has Chromebook, no Office. In Google docs, when you highlight Download as ---> or Email attachment... it gives you a list of ways to save or attach your document (or spreadsheet or slideshow).
  15. Okay, I am a little confused. I save my google doc to .docx for easier editing by others and relax about formatting. When I want my google doc to keep its formatting, I use .pdf. That doesn't always work???
  16. Edited: Pretty much already been said. As is getting to be a habit, I'll throw my first instinct out there before reading the rest of the responses. But at least initially these responses seem to be hung up on appearance. I think Rogan and Peterson are using shorthand, since they have discussed this topic before, to reference females looking for someone who would be a superior provider to future children. One class up, then, could also refer to intelligence, ability, education, finances, or just the physical work ethic indicated by a biological reaction to a strong jaw.
  17. Yoga class and reading for pleasure! I love those, too. So much good advice already given: find exercise to get your heart rate up 1-2x week, that works for your body; more protein, less sugar and carbs; time outside/sun exposure/vitamin D. Have you read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People? The author divides activities into four quadrants, and hones in on the need to build relationships. I'm working on even just body language (a deliberate smile at someone I value even when my nervous system is pushing me to finish a task). Also carving out time to give someone a foot massage, or listen to their lengthy story, and let the dishes sit. That kind of thing.
  18. I use Spotify. I type in a mood or activity and they pop up a song list that usually works for me. No Alexa experience, so not sure how that would work together.
  19. I got a *really* cheap knock off pair at Ardene's thinking I would just wear them getting in and out of the public pool, but I really like them. I would want the real deal to hike the Great Wall, lol, but perfect for schlepping around the local grocery store
  20. I'm satisfied with our Shark Navigator.
  21. Yup, I will take a thick yoga mat that's a bit bulkier to transport any day!
  22. I agree with either making a big pasta dish ahead of time or something in the slow cooker/rotisserie chicken for Saturday. For Monday, what about Greek? Buy some pita bread, make (or buy) Tzatziki and a big Greek salad, marinade and BBQ some chicken. Greek Chicken Marinade: 1/3 c. plain Greek yogurt 1/4 c. oil 1 Tbsp. lemon juice 3 cloves minced garlic 1 tsp. oregano 1/2 tsp. salt 1/4 tsp. pepper Marinade 30 min. BBQ 15 min. each side for flattened breasts.
  23. Yeah, when Iast checked there were a few posts, and when I got back to it there were three pages, and I was replying without taking the time to catch up. Sorry if my comment was confusing. Not sure what you thought I meant by that... I was obviously not being clear, so hope that makes a bit more sense! Actually, I'm not entirely sure from this post what your take is either. Like, are you saying that people on this board do look down on unskilled labour but deny it? ETA: Because I *thought* you were trying to say is that there is nothing wrong with being called unskilled and people should just get over it. But read this definition: "An unskilled worker is an employee who does not use reasoning or intellectual abilities in their line of work. These workers are typically found in positions that involve manual labor such as packager, assembler, or apprentice, or farm worker." Then tell me an apprentice or farm worker who doesn't use reasoning or intellectual ability? The people who make up these definitions have clearly never done these jobs, and it *is* a pretty presumptuous and insulting definition.
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