what about the people here at the hive that you've called lazy?

yes i do believe it https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/lazy that does not make your declaration of these people being lazy or stupid correct or appropriate

1) No, because you call people lazy or stupid if they are not like you. 2) That isn't true.

I have never seen such a device in someone's house. I would never use such a device to clean a residence. You are unkind.

I have worked as a professional cleaner (church/office) and have also worked in offices with other jobs. I am not above cleaning - I have done toilets, floors, windows, kitchens, stairs, etc. When I am not employed as a cleaner, I do the bare minimum cleaning up after myself - because I am employed to do a different job and other people are employed to do the cleaning. If it were explained to me that I was expected to empty trash in addition to doing my other non-cleaning duties, I'd be happy to. Especially if the cleaners didn't come in frequently enough to do an adequate job. Or if my non-cleaning job afforded me a lot of down-time to take on other tasks. Mine never did. YMMV People who don't know how to use industrial cleaning supplies are not stupid. Office workers who are not employed to clean are not lazy if they don't empty the trash.

I would find it NORMAL for people who were unfamiliar with industrial cleaning supplies. Which is most people who have not worked as cleaners. You have very high standards for everyone else, but apparently your standards for yourself are quite low because you come across as very unkind and ungracious.

I grew up with a bunch of Mike Dave Jeremy ETA: Mark, Erik, Steve Heather Jennifer Kendra Amy Mandy Beth Susie Kathy ETA: Becky (Rebecca) and Shelly (Michelle)

I don't use bows. I do use (& re-use) ribbon & any significant pieces of wrapping paper or tissue paper. I also try to use fabric gift bags whenever possible.

"And you're both Catholic, so it makes total sense." Is also part of the equation.

And if DSS knows that DS is hiding food in his room so DSS can't eat it, that can also lead to even more issues about food and one's own worth.

Possibly. Or not, since I do have experience with being overweight, living with people who are overweight, food addiction, family dysfunction, and teenagers who eat a lot. In any event, if you think it's just about the food - what are you asking about? You know that you cannot control what someone else puts in their mouth.

How are you qualified to know what it's about when you "have never had to deal with this" and "have never lived with anyone who is even one pound overweight."

And I don't believe that it's possible for you to feel this way and not send that message to your boys.

Do you think the only indicators of food problems are being too heavy or having high blood pressure? Actually, I will add that not only are your attitudes about food unhealthy, but I think your attitude toward your son is pretty horrific. You are teaching both of your sons that a big chunk of their worth as a human beings is about how much he weighs.

Honestly, I don't think your attitudes about food are very healthy either. You aren't doing your other son any favors by putting his "special" food in his room. Nobody is going to die without their "special" food. It should not be so traumatic to give up these things.

Yes, Scarlett. Some teenage boys eat this much. The point is, don't keep buying the "everything else in the house".

No, I don't think you're stupid. I think you are overcomplicating things. Have you never had to skip a meal due to parenting duties? At least weekly, I am not able to eat breakfast, lunch, or dinner when I would like to because of parenting. I can't be the only one. And you've never lived with anyone who is even one lb overweight? Ummm, OK. This sounds really traumatic for you.

Yes, I did. He is a teenage boy. Most of them eat a lot. You aren't going to stop that happening. You *can* provide foods that are going to do a better job of nourishing his body and helping him feel full.

He is part of your family. He is your child (yes, I know this is your SS). Yes, you may have to change what foods you will keep in the house - even if you like it, even if your other son likes it. Yes, you may feel deprived - see above.

Taco Bell was seriously your only option? Grab something quick from home before leaving the house. (sandwich, granola bar, fruit, yogurt) Get something for yourself at the store while shopping. (sandwich, granola bar, fruit, crackers) When he chimes in with a snack at the drive-through, you say, (to Taco Bell) "No, we don't want that last item". To your child, "Hon, you ate at school. You can have something at home if you're still hungry." You are making this way harder than it needs to be.

Not sure if I understand you. Are you saying that xmas is about removing the religious part of the holiday? Because it isn't. The letter 'X' is the first letter of the Greek (from the New Testament) word for Christ.

How fun! And I LOVE lemon bars. Maybe I'll make some too - a new xmas tradition.

How about, "Hey, renters, just letting you know that rent might be going up on ##/##/#### due to the ballot initiative. Depends on if it passes or not." No mention of how anyone is voting necessary. Edited to fix text color.

If Margaret wanted to be nice and inform her renters of a possible increase, she could have left out the part about a friendly reminder to vote however they felt led. As if she's the one giving them permission.

This is NOT the same as a renter voting to increase property taxes for a school bond. Don't be obtuse. Nobody needs to remind renters or anyone else that they can vote however they feel led - and if you feel the need to remind people, followed up with consequences of certain votes, then you are going to sound like you're threatening them. So, in this thread we've had landlords state that renters do NOT pay property taxes (which they of course don't pay directly, they don't get the bill) and other landlords threaten their renters with a rent increase when their property taxes increase. Why do people not understand, indeed.