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  1. Today I will go for a walk with dd nearby. I keep forgetting that I'm scheduled to go see a therapist this afternoon - I finally made an appointment after receiving my recent news about my sister. I guess this will reduce stress, via weeping and grieving. Hard to know.
  2. I went for a longer-than-expected walk with dh and dd. The woods are so beautiful right now! The red and orange foliage is lingering.
  3. My living room is a warm nasturtium, which is the opposite of fashionable gray-beige. It makes me happy though. https://www.myperfectcolor.com/paint/66137-sherwin-williams-sw6899-nasturtium
  4. If your best friend told you this story about herself, would you judge her? Or give her grace and compassion?
  5. Yes. Stress-reliever. I'm sorry though.
  6. Agree! I feel like I'm breathing easier reading each post.
  7. Or yesterday. Or will do today. I'll start: yesterday I cleaned and vacuumed out my car. It was real bad. Now it's peaceful.
  8. Thank you for this, it's the hardest thing to prioritize when others have needs.
  9. Humor, a few sayings, and occasionally enforced gratitude when I hit rock bottom. Humor: I'm sure you know this but teens are really funny. In all their smelly, wolf-pup, arrogant glory. Slow down by noticing what's funny in the moment, share funny memes with your teen, even by yourself find humor in situations. Ask yourself what's funny about what you're looking at. Narrate it like a football game. Now Proven By Science! https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2556917/. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S266594412100016X. Sayings: not exactly proverbs but my mother always said "this too shall pass" and it can become a mantra. I have one I used to say during really stressful times that was based in my midwifery practice: "is everybody breathing and nobody bleeding?" (Unfortunately with teens and with your history, I know this one isn't always reassuring but you get the gist). I would ask this of myself when my teens would be pulling me into their drama and I needed to wind myself back onto my own bobbin. Enforced gratitude: when I really hit rock bottom I go ahead and compare my situation with others. I don't live in Gaza. I have a warm house. I eat good healthy food. I know this sounds annoying and basic but when I'm down and out emotionally I use it. You need some taller cups. Do you draw, paint, or do pottery? Make some tall mugs, tall water glasses, tall wine glasses in your mind and visualize them getting taller as you enter a stress response. Hugs to you @Soror
  10. This was my family, though not entirely intentionally. I was the only daughter of four that had children for many years and I was very intentional about creating holiday rituals here at home. Meanwhile my sisters and their hubbies and my mother were doing things like going to Hawaii together for Christmas (we had a cousin in Maui) or similar. Eventually they all had one or two kids and we once hosted at Christmas but never went anywhere. Last fall was the first time we had ever traveled at Thanksgiving and it was to oldest ds's house. So reading about folks having giant holiday events together is like reading a story - I can imagine it but never did it. Because this is what I did, I can only visualize this will be what my kids do when they have kids. Oldest spends Christmas with ddil's parents and has for many years, that was hard when he started that but I had three more who were here. Our house is unnaturally small so maybe I need to start building some spaces to host in when my youngers start their own families. I'm making plans to create a magical garden to share with grandchildren when they arrive. I hope to read, build fires, and sing with my future grandchildren. We live in a gorgeous place so I know my kids will always want to travel back here wherever they end up, and there's so many wonderful things for children to do here that I envision being the Grandma camp location in the future.
  11. I'm curious if you like the way this makes you feel?
  12. Yes to nettle tea, yes to food goals, yes to keeping the house clean and the little projects. I used a good number of the apples this week and will get the rest processed soon. Lovely to have all my peeps here for this weekend. What's hard this week is that my most beloved sister's cancer has begun to progress after 4 years of stability. She was originally given 3 - 6 months and has lived and thrived for four years. We knew this day would come but I am devastated anyway. I may travel to see her soon, all other goals and desires have paused.
  13. Dd is here, and all of her sibs which is lovely. Oldest ds leaves today but we had family dinner last night and everyone got caught up on her day to day. Dd is really happy, loves her classes, loves her profs, loves the lifestyle. "Nourished, hydrated, in my lane." I asked her about speaking in class and whether all the kids do it and she told me that there's not a small number of kids who are scrolling on their phones in class, even in the front row. I guess I should know this but for goodness sake! They or more likely their parents are paying north of 80K a year to be on their phones??? Speechless. She gave me the biggest most deserved eye roll I have ever received when I asked her if she ever had her phone out during class.
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    My God, where are they supposed to go?
  15. Get rid of all of it. Archeologists of the future will be baffled by why our particular layer is drenched in this substance. There's an old municipal dump near my house that stopped being used in about the early 70s. It has a lot of scary rusted metal and weird things festering away, but there is no plastic at all in it, it's really striking. Keurig cups and the extra inside layer of plastic on vitamins or juice containers are especially annoying. I also hate those individual stickers on pieces of fruit. Violence against women: very traditional, very much time for it to end. I'll go out on a limb here and say if I could wave my magic wand and make only one thing disappear forever, this would be it.
  16. The internet. Maybe not that traditional but humans are far more competent than moral and the internet has ruined the world. [ducks and says thank you for being my invisible friends on the internet] Cars. See above.
  17. Help, fleas Please help me get these cats in line. I promise to never bomb the house again if you guys will just give me a hand here.
  18. In my apocalypse visions, my daughter with type 1 diabetes runs out of insulin and dies in a coma. I never get much farther than that.
  19. I've pulled up most of what remains and stacked up the black beans to dry a little longer. I want to buy some good bulk compost as my pile was taken over by garlic mustard, ugh. It was a hard year for gardening, too much rain, very little sun, not enough time. Leeks and basil were happy, tomatoes almost non-existent. I'm putting my garden into my contemplation hopper for the winter to pull it into my bigger life plan and hope for some inspiration.
  20. In idle moments of prepper fantasies, I've found that there's a bog rosemary plant that grows all around me that is mildly caffeinated and there's plenty to share.
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