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  1. If this was an every day dinner party, I would probably be annoyed.  If this was our family's only Christmas get together, I would probably be the one who showed up with a traditional Christmas dinner because most of my own family members wouldn't be happy with a non-traditional dinner if the hostess deviated from our traditions.  We would all want an actual Christmas dinner.  Other parts of the family does a roast for Christmas dinner and they would be upset if they didn't have their Christmas roast as has been tradition for at least 5 decades as well.  It really depends on the circumstances.

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  2. 1 hour ago, Pawz4me said:

    Ehhh . . the cat is what we refer to as fully loaded? What most people would call . . . not declawed?

    If so I'd be much more worried about pup's potential injuries than cat's. A fully loaded adult cat can inflict some very serious injuries on a dog. If they're both enjoying it then IME it's unlikely either will get seriously hurt. Adult cats are very good and very capable of teaching acceptable boundaries to a dog.

    I would think differently if you had multiple dogs.

    You can work on "leave it" but that's a really high bar (aka a great temptation). You need to work on it with pup on leash so you can enforce it. Every time you say "leave it" and he ignores you it makes it harder to teach successfully. Ideally you want to give him the "leave it" command a second before he reacts. So you have to set the situation up carefully and watch pup like a hawk (and be very fluent in his body language to anticipate his reaction a split second ahead).

     

    Yes, the cat still has his claws.......and I literally just heard the cat start fussing at the puppy to come play with him.  Puppy does really well if he laying/sitting by me and not going after the cat when he fusses if I tell him no or leave it....

    The cat definitely outruns the puppy 99% of the time. DH just freaked last night when he saw puppy grab cat's leg as he was headed over the gate.

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  3. 39 minutes ago, gardenmom5 said:

    the puppy does this and the cat STILL lures him?  eventually the cat will get tired of this game.

    when you see the car trying to lure the puppy (before the puppy falls for it) - i'd send the cat outside and ruin his "fun".

     

    Yeah, the cat is a butt😂.  He sits in the chair under the dining table and fusses.......or fusses on the other side of the gate, then makes a run for it to jump the baby gate to escape.

    He walks around crying when we put the puppy in his crate in the bedroom for the night too.    This is the same cat who has gotten mad at us before for not paying attention to him & peed on the tv stand right in front of the tv while we were watching it.

  4. We have an almost 6 month old Aussie puppy, who so far has done very well with training.  He does a sit, down, stay, rollover, and seems to finally be learning leave it and no bite.   The issue I can use some guidance with is..........chasing the cat.  Our cat likes to lure the puppy to play with him by sitting and crying, then running.  Of course puppy is a monster compared to the cat (45 lbs vs 8 lbs).  Puppy has started grabbing the cat by the back with his mouth or trying to grab his leg and DH is really worried puppy is going to injure or kill the cat.  I am home for the next several days so would like some solid ideas that I can hit this hard to attempt to break the chasing & practically mauling behavior.  Thanks!  Oh and we have been using treats for training and puppy is VERY food motivated, but has started consistently doing his sit, down, and stay with no treats.

  5. Taking Melatonin regularly can effect your body's production of your own melatonin.  It is ok to take it short term to help reset your sleep.  However, first I would try, 30 minutes of exercise daily combined with 30 minutes of sunlight.  Dimming the lights in your home at 7 p.m. and making sure you either avoid screens altogether or put blue light filters on everything since blue light inhibits the release of melatonin.

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  6. 9 minutes ago, maize said:

    You are overreacting.

    You can politely decline the visit but most people, including elementary teachers, do not have the flu just because it is flu season. I think it is more reasonable to suggest people not visit when they are actively sick. 

     

    This and ask people to wash their hands prior to holding baby as well as don't kiss baby on the face.  I have an asthmatic kid who always ends up with pneumonia if he gets the flu.............but I can't keep him sequestered for 6 months out of the year.  Flu B was still going around in MAY this year.

     

    ETA:  If she has been a teacher for many years, she probably has an immune system made of impenetrable steel.  Teachers are usually very well protected from illnesses after a couple of years of working around kids.  I NEVER got sick after working in childcare for 6 months.  It took 10 years for my immune system to decline enough that I pick up stomach bugs, etc now.

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  7. 1 hour ago, madteaparty said:

    BTDT. But was never actually called to testify. Waiting outside with the family as witnesses for other side come and go was awful enough. I hope you don’t get called. Just focus on your friend otherwise, it’s far worse for her ? family court is the stuff of nightmares 

     

    I honestly hope they DO call me. I am a good witness so who has unfortunately had a front row seat to the events as they have unfolded.  I have been on the phone with my friend all morning trying to calm her and remind her what the end goal is.  I just pray this judge sees things clearly.

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  8. 12 minutes ago, Sneezyone said:

     

    Just out of curiosity, how big is the other group?

     

    Last I heard, their Facebook group has over 100 people in it, but some of those could be spouses.  It's big but apparently she couldn't get enough participation to pay for it completely.  Some of her members are coming anyway.  The facility is allowing them to come independent of the group leader.

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  9. 6 minutes ago, SeaConquest said:

     

    This is all I have been saying. I am not sure why I seem to have given the impression that no discrimination is allowed anywhere. Unfortunately, that is sadly not the case. You well know that the legal rights of LGBTQ vary widely across the US. I asked the OP for her state because I wanted to look up her state's laws specifically, as I am most familiar with CA law, which is quite broad in its antidiscrimination requirements. Also, I agree with you that the language is also in a contract for indemnity and insurance purposes. 

    Livetoread, I am also a [retired] attorney. And some of the people in this thread are also attorneys. It *is* complicated, which is why we are going back and forth about it. There are many ways to look at the issue, and the answer will likely vary depending on the laws/caselaw of the OP's city/state. ?

     

    Let's just say I live in a state that actually passed a bill prohibiting muncipalities from adopting anti-discrimination ordinances that create protected classes not held within the state law.   A local law was struck down because it included LGBTQ individuals.

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  10. I want to thank you all for your input.  I really do genuinely appreciate it.  My non-homeschool friends don't really understand the dynamics and I can't really talk to my homeschool friends about it since I am trying to avoid causing a crapstorm of drama for our group.  We get looked down upon so much and excluded (waterpark days, book sales, skating days, etc that the Christian groups coordinate to do, which are for sure private rentals) that I don't want to cause more divisiveness than there already is.  I have worked SO hard to make every other group feel like they are welcome to join us for our events and refer new members their way when they are seeking a faith based group, etc. 

    On another note: I think I now know why attendance has been poor at another facility's homeschool day.  I am the one who sends all the information out to the groups for them.  So far only 1 faith based group has attended besides us.

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  11. 14 minutes ago, StellaM said:

     

    But what is the facility ? Not enough info. Is this a library ? Who is the organiser - the facility or the leader of the Christian group ?

    If it's just an event for Christian homeschoolers, by invitation, and it's in a private facility....I still don't see the problem. There's Christian homeschool conferences here - I just don't go to them. Why would I ? I'm sure they are lots of fun, but I'm not the target market.

     

     

     

    I did explain upthread. It is a publicly own amusement facility run by the county government.  The question of who is the organizer remains unanswered until I speak with the facility.  MY personal only contact has been from the facility and the flyer and sign up sheet I was sent was created by the facility and does not mention the word Christian or the group by name at all.  Myself and the other groups invited were instructed to send our signup sheets to the facility by their marketing manager and we are paying the facility directly.

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  12. 2 minutes ago, SJ. said:

    This is what I am envisioning happened:

    Non inclusive homeschool group contacted a local nature center* to do a class/guided hike.

    Nature center thinks what a great idea let's have a homeschool day and invite all local homeschoolers thinking - more money for the class, possible increased funding for possible future visits, and let's get some kids excited about nature.

    Multiple groups are invited and accept while noninclusive homeschool group leader is miffed because she only wishes to socialize with her own kind.

    If this is what happened I would view it as open to the public and have fun attending the event.

    *Substitute nature center with any other plausible county run activity.

     

    This is very close to what I suspect has happened.

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  13. 9 minutes ago, SeaConquest said:

     

    You have zero issue that protected members of your group are being discriminated against in a public facility? Please tell me that I am misunderstanding.

     

    I have zero issue if there is a private contract renting the facility to a private homeschool group that can designate who they want to be invited to their party.  I don't expect to be invited/allowed into the corporate events or private birthday parties there either.

    I WILL have an issue if this is a facility sponsored event and we are barred on the basis of not being a group that proclaims a specific faith.

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  14. 4 minutes ago, Lady Florida. said:

    From your subsequent posts it sounds like the facility is running the show. Even if the other woman encouraged them to have a homeschool day it appears to be a public activity. If that's the case she has absolutely no right to decided who can and can't come. 

    As for what the public facility can allow in terms of discrimination, I'm not sure. I do know that when I tried to get a library room for our Campfire USA meetings they said I could only reserve it if it was open to the public. 

     

    Our library has the same policy that we had to sign to get a room for our board meetings.  Not that anyone would want to attend a homeschool group board meeting.

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