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  1. Non-negotiable And while you can waive it at many schools, if there is a confirmed case and you have opted to waive it you can be forced to leave campus until there is no longer a threat of it spreading. I'm not sure how a kid would weather missing 2 or more weeks of class in college.
  2. I would consider offering to forgive a portion of the back rent he owes, or even all of it (minus any security deposit you are holding), and to release him from the lease, if he is out within 10 days and the property is turned over in good condition. If he doesn't accept that offer I would start eviction proceedings based on the unpaid rent and prepare to file in small claims court to collect what you can. If he has a real estate license the issuing board likely won't be very accepting of an eviction. I wouldn't bother listing the property for sale until he is out.
  3. We hired a "nanny" for my aging grandparents. She is a local college student majoring in nursing and she truly is just like the babysitters I hired for my kids when they were young. She stops in Tuesday and Thursday afternoons from 3-7 and helps with whatever they need. She does the housekeeping things their house cleaner doesn't do (laundry, odds and ends of organizing that my grandmother directs), random tasks (helping decorate for holidays, etc), and drives them to appointments and errands (haircuts, bank, post office, grocery store, etc). My grandparents love having someone they can ask for help of any kind without worrying that they are imposing on the family (though we would never feel that way they hated asking us for help) and she is pretty willing to do whatever they need and chat with my grandmother while she does it. We have also hired her boyfriend to come do handyman type chores that don't require any special skills one Saturday a month. He has changed light bulbs, carried boxes to and from the attic, etc.
  4. There is no way I would gate check needed medical supplies or equipment. I would ask your doctor for a note indicating the condition she has and the necessity of the medical supplies and equipment she is carrying. I would also request a note indicating that the doctor recommends pre-boarding for her. This would allow her to get settled onto the plane and ensure there is no issue with finding space for her carry-on with the medical supplies/equipment. Finally, I would probably request that the doctor list any supplies that are liquid (such as the prefilled saline IV's) on a prescription. Liquids are the only thing I can really see them giving you a hard time about and if they are prescribed that should reduce the chance of their being an issue.
  5. I completely understand how stuck you feel because I divorced 6 years ago and felt the same way. We were living somewhere a few hundred miles from family and my ex relocated shortly after we separated. It was a pretty unstable time and hard to figure out which path was the right one. I found a house that I felt the most comfortable being in and signed a one year lease. It was a little more expensive than I wanted long term but for 12 months it was worth it. It allowed me to start feeling settled, get used to working, build a new community and find the resources to help me with my kids, feel a little more settled and ready to make longer term decisions, work out the kinks in my budget, etc. Overall that year cost me a bit of savings but allowed me to be in the position to make really good long term decisions when my lease was up. Over that first year I figured out where we really wanted to live, my kids and I got used to me working and found some great people to provide rides and babysit, etc. When my lease was up I was able to move into a place that was perfect for us because I had the time and mental energy to really figure out what that would look like then find it. If you would feel comfortable and secure in that apt then the extra $200-$300 a month might be worth it for a year. Don't underestimate the value of being comfortable during this transition time.
  6. I would be incredibly unhappy with that since I don't support mission trips. I would be more accepting of the teachers retaining the supplies for the next year. I do not do supply lists for my kids in public school. I see no need for the teachers to collect the ridiculous number of items on each list up front so I now supply only what my child needs. I check with the teacher on back to school day to see which items will be retained by the student and which are dropped off with the teacher and send in only the individual items. I also send in a note to the teacher to let her know what I have chosen to do and why (wastefulness) and provide my email address with a note to let me know if/when she needs supplies as I am more than happy to send things in. I also include a $10 -$20 target gift card so she can grab things she needs that aren't on the school lists. I have had a universally positive response to this approach. My kids teachers love being able to grab the things they need rather than getting yet another 20 glue sticks, and they appreciate knowing there is a parent who they can email mid-year when the flu hits the class and they need tissues or hand sanitizer who won't be irritated at being asked to contribute more to the class.
  7. The only other thing I can think of to try might be positive reinforcement with the mail carrier. You said you have one carrier who is okay with dogs and isn't phased when he barks. Maybe try having that carrier offer a treat each time he comes (leave a box of them in the mailbox and have him start by just taking it out and setting it down where your dog can see it, work up to actually giving it to him if that becomes possible). We had decent luck acclimating our dog to a neighbor who he absolutely hated this way (the only person he has ever growled at). They still aren't friends, but my dog can now see him without wanting to eat him which is all I needed.
  8. That is a reasonable thing to want and expect from a partner. I married into a similar family. I'm divorced in large part because of this same issue. It would take too much time to list all the issues it caused and the ways that it affected our relationship but I can say without hesitation that if one of my daughters were ever considering making a relationship permanent under similar circumstances I would strongly advise against it.
  9. I've always just washed the clothes a bunch more times on hot (sometimes with a little dawn dish soap, sometimes not) and eventually it almost all comes out.
  10. I would contact the person who has your cats immediately and tell her you will be picking them up today (assuming you have someone who can do so). Offer to pay her a boarding fee for the days she had them and thank her for caring for them. If she resists let her know that you did not leave them in her care or authorize anyone to give them to her and that they belong to you so for her to keep them would be theft of property (which animals are considered).
  11. My first thought is that you and the kids could stay where you are short term to allow your son to finish his black belt and to allow your husband to get settled in the new job and research areas to live (commute times, housing prices, etc). Can you sit down and show him your budget now and a sample of what it would need to be if you moved to the new location so he could start to understand how much more he would need to earn to make it work?
  12. And it depends on what her teaching credential is in. If she is high demand (math, science, special ed) she will have better luck than if she is an english or elementary school teacher.
  13. It would depend on the circumstances but in general I would be proud of my child for standing up for what she feels is right. There have been minor issues in the past she has stood her ground on with her middle school and we have discussed how to weigh the risks and repercussions and how to protest respectfully and appropriately. I would expect her to call or text to let me know what she was doing and she knows this. As far as the school, I would expect that she would not be physically restrained to prevent her from leaving but I would expect a very prompt notification that she had left campus without permission.
  14. An interesting aspect of this issue is that this drug company did not develop the product. It was developed through the DoD for military use and then allowed to be produced for public use. This company is not in any way trying to recoup R&D costs. They are merely making a profit.
  15. What about just having him attend for three years (through what they would consider his graduation) and then having him do a homeschool senior year with you and making his homeschool graduation his official graduation. Another option would be to have him graduate in three years then do a gap year where he interns or volunteers, works some and takes one or two DE classes if you want to keep him in "school mode."
  16. My 11 year old is 61 inches and 86lbs. A 00 juniors size is loose on her. After a few discussions with the managers at some of the more popular teen stores around here I have learned quite a bit about the fit of juniors clothes. A 00 is equivalent to about a 12-14 as far as waist size, a 0 a 14. Both sizes in regular length pants are made to accommodate someone between about 63 and 66 inches. Most of the "brand name" teen stores (Hollister, American eagle, etc) also carry tall and short sizes. Hollister and Abercrombie are the same company and cut the narrowest, American eagle is cut a bit wider, gap and old navy tend to be cut very generously and run at least a full size larger than other companies. You might be surprised by what you find and the deals you can get if you shop the teen companies carefully. They always have good sales and plenty of jeans, t-shirts, etc that are no different than I was finding in kid stores.
  17. I have one who used to be like that. Turned out she had a vitamin deficiency that was contributing to her feeling cold all the time.
  18. https://www.yogaville.org/ https://kripalu.org/ http://www.ntnretreats.com/retreats-workshops/fall-foliage-meditation-retreat/
  19. It sounds to me like your sister thought she could just drop the new girlfriend and her kids into the family without giving anyone time to adjust and get to know them. By doing so it seems like she is making things worse instead of better.
  20. I've often wondered this. If there is a point that women reach when they are so drunk that they are incapable of making choices but still capable of action wouldn't it be logical to think men can also reach a point that they are incapable of making choices but still capable of action. At what point is it rape and at what point is it a mammal making an unconscious choice to follow biological urges that they would never act on if they were capable of coherent thought? (and I have daughters so I see it from that side but also from the side of friends who are very, very worried that their truly wonderful sons will make the poor choice to get drunk and act in a way that ruins the rest of their lives even though it would be completely out of character for them if they had retained any level of coherent thought)
  21. No oils should be used in the first day or so because it can actually hold in heat and make it worse. After the burning process is over (it continues even after you are out of the sun) coconut oil has essentially the same function as aloe which is to keep the skin moist so it can heal. Just make sure whatever you use is clean so you aren't introducing infection if the blisters pop. I always mix a bit of vitamin e into whatever I put on a burn to help the healing process.
  22. I decided exactly what I wanted and looked online to find the dealer incentives and holdback information. Then, I decided exactly how much I was willing to pay (I included some profit for the dealer) and started making phone calls. I called the closest dealership and worked my way out in concentric circles until one agreed to sell me what I wanted for what I was willing to pay (47 dealerships over a few weeks). My offer was decent and I explained to each one how I arrived at my number and let them know I wasn't negotiating but if they wanted to call me back they could (four did end up calling back but I had already made the purchase).
  23. Kayak and similar sites will let you set a fare alert. Just put in your dates and location and the site will send you an email if the fare changes significantly. I have gotten some decent deals this way.
  24. I would post an ad on my county facebook page asking for arborist recommendations.
  25. I see nothing wrong with asking for a start. If you feel a little weird about it then just say something like "I love your ferns. If you ever thin any out I would love to buy a start from you or trade you for something I have." My experience is that 9 out of 10 gardeners will be flattered and just grab a trowel and dig up a piece on the spot but it gives her an easy out if she doesn't want to.
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