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  1. I’ve come across the same attitude from time to time & also find it shockingly awful. I like to think that most receiving that advice would react similarly. It’s espousing educational neglect - and yes, it absolutely tarnishes people’s (and institutions’) perceptions of homeschooling. We’re more traditionally academic than many other homeschoolers we meet IRL, but what we all have in common is our dedication to providing a quality education. I would refuse to associate with homeschoolers with this attitude, and I would absolutely call them out in a group environment (digital or face-
  2. We’ve been very fortunate to be able to meet social / emotional needs through extracurriculars (sports, Scouts, etc) without handing over control of academic material. Access to a robust homeschooling community was a major factor in our recent move. The local social co-op we’ve selected has a membership of >100 families, a chock-full calendar, & costs just $40 / year.
  3. Agreed. If you’re a secular homeschooler, you’ll want to stick to major cities (Houston, Dallas, Austin) & their suburbs or your community resources will be severely limited. In both of the latter two, aim north of the city proper for the best access (not sure about Houston).
  4. Please don’t quote. I would describe my DS as precocious. He was full-on running at 9mo. At 18mo he had >300 words. At 2.5 he was self-teaching reading & discovering kindergarten math concepts. He consistently works 2-3 grade levels ahead. He picks up skills easily & early. I’m not certain whether or not he’s gifted. If so, he’s 2E. He was evaluated during ADHD testing, but of course he was untreated at the time so he spent the entire meeting bouncing off the walls; the evaluator could hardly get a word in.
  5. Let her write on her own & grant extra time to read. If she hasn’t already participated, look into NaNoWriMo’s Young Writer Program for Oct/Nov - I bet she’d get a kick out of it 🙂
  6. From all you’ve said here, it seems the smaller school has quite a few valuable intangibles to offer - more individualized attention, a peer/mentor already at the school, straightforward communication between departments that makes double-majoring feasible (further supported by the number of double-major dancers you’ve noted). If I’ve read your comments above correctly they are transferring around double the credits as equivalent, rather than elective-only (19hrs vs ~9hrs, correct?). That’s huge! What she’s attempting isn’t easy; each of those things has the potential to streamline her e
  7. Precisely. I have no qualms outsourcing, but if I do so it’s with the understanding that I am purchasing experience &/or expertise which makes them vastly better suited to presenting the material.
  8. I’ve seen these described as “need conscious / need aware” (as opposed to “need blind”).
  9. My DS will be in 3rd next year. His free writing ebbs & flows. Sometimes he’ll get on a writing kick & write little notes to us. Other times it’s math quizzes. Once he wrote a list of “rules” for friends coming over to play in his bedroom 😂. He’ll make game cards & include basic instructions. Lately he’s been drawing mechs or super cars & writing out their stats / specs. Never anything as in-depth as stories. He loves writing for NaNoWriMo each year, has good writing stamina, enjoys poetics... but those things only happen during lessons.
  10. Seconding @BaseballandHockey’s recommendation. Could you spend time focusing on ONLY idea generation for language arts? Hand him a topic & generate a list of words / ideas related to that topic? Or hand him exactly what to write about, & have him fill in outlines based on that? I don’t know what LA you’ve tried in the past, but IEW methods focus a lot on overcoming the “blankly staring at the page” issue & do a ton of list-generation. Their Key Word Outlines could literally be scaffolded to the extent of pointing at every word of a sentence & him nodding “yes” or s
  11. Sure! We have just begun using Thriving with ADHD which starts off discussing what ADHD is, then moves on to identifying strengths & weaknesses, managing emotions, focusing / maintaining attention, impulse control, creating habits & routines, tackling interpersonal issues, & functional goal setting / long-term planning. The other two books I purchased, Growth Mindset & Mindfulness for Kids, have a similar structure with a bit more focus on reframing situations, positive self-talk, building frustration tolerance, & managing emotions.
  12. I both agree & acknowledge the privilege inherent in being able to agree. My time overseas gave a great deal of context to that sort of relentless achievement. Mothers leaving their children with extended family in their home country for the luxury of being treated like a pile of dung another family had stepped in (while rearing their children in the parents’ absence, no less) so that perhaps one day they could return & purchase a family property & allow their children to not have to do the same. Grandmothers & grandfathers working multiple physical, menial jobs to k
  13. I didn’t attend a prestigious school, but I did also work several jobs throughout college & emerged with little debt (around $10k). My spouse, on the other hand, had always been told that it would be “taken care of.” It was decidedly not. Fortunately the risk paid off, but six-figure debt was quite the mountain to climb straight out of school. Many of his peers have not shared our good fortune & are still struggling a decade later.
  14. It is striking, but in a way I don’t find it all that surprising. There seems to be an odd sense of complacency when it comes to the inner workings of one’s own “machine”. I can’t tell you the number of times I heard that we’d visited more areas of Hong Kong in our first year as Expats than locally-born friends had in their entire lifetimes. Cost wasn’t a limiting factor & there was ample opportunity... they just... didn’t seek those things out. (There were plenty of Expats who stuck to their bubbles, too - but usually for different reasons). It reminded me a lot of people back home
  15. I’m not so much enamored by the list as intrigued by it. We probably won’t pursue much on it, but I’m interested to learn what it all is. I find scholastic opportunities interesting whether they pertain to us or not. 🙂
  16. Reading that list, my school / area didn’t offer anything above a 3 for females or a 4 for males (at the time, females couldn’t be Eagle Scouts; that has since changed). I had heard of precisely 5 of the items ranked above a 4 prior to joining these boards: being a D1 athlete, going to State for athletics, being Class President, appearing on Jeopardy, & having a patent - which I didn’t think was possible for a minor. Even now, I have no clue what many are referring to. Looks like I have some research to do! 😅
  17. Things like this make me realize how incredibly different my high school experience was compared to others’. I mean, I knew - I’m not a dunce - but I didn’t truly comprehend. I’m so thankful for these boards & the wealth of experience in them. As hard as I’m working to give DS better academic opportunities than I had, I would be entirely unaware of 90% of what’s out there if it weren’t for the conversations here.
  18. Even this, to me, is unfathomable. That list is huge! Did she get to visit each of these schools? How much did they spend on application fees? I had to get a job to cover the cost of SAT & AP tests. The only campuses I could have visited were those within 30min of home; one a state flagship, the other a “party school”. My mom couldn’t afford to take off work even to travel the 1-3hrs to other in-state universities or colleges. I only applied to a couple of schools, due to the cost of applications. It wasn’t worth $50-$100ea - that was a week of groceries.
  19. Unfortunately, the US is all about that pressure. My high school (which wasn’t even competitive - a typical public high school) publicly posted the GPAs of every single student every 6wks - to the 6th decimal point. It turned a few kids really nasty & vindictive. Made the perfectionistic kids downright neurotic. Many gave up their passions because those classes (athletics, the arts, computer sciences) were ranked on a 4.0 scale as opposed to the 5.0 or 6.0 scale of honors & AP cores. I imagine a huge number of lower-ranking students were convinced that there was no use even trying.
  20. Ugh, that is SO frustrating! I’m sorry 😔 I’m glad he doesn’t appear to be in distress. I know you’ve mentioned before that his attention span is pretty severely truncated; I imagine it must be difficult to get much out of things when you can’t ever really dig into them. Easy, passive enjoyment must be such a relief & the type of rewards that would encourage perseverance may seem impossibly elusive - if he’s even really aware of them. With his mind constantly flitting from one thing to the next, it may honestly not occur to (& therefore, potentially bother) him. Does
  21. I do not (to my knowledge) have ADHD; my 2E is a different flavor. It’s hard. Sometimes just background-noise hard; other times crumpled-on-the-shower-floor-sobbing hard. I coped & self-medicated in a variety of unfortunate ways over the years while those around me were largely oblivious. DS8 has ADHD & I share many of your concerns. We try not to speak to him negatively. Too often, we fail. We do our best to apologize. We all struggle, & we all try to remember that the others are doing their best. We’re adding ADHD-specific tasks to our homeschool days once we return f
  22. Right? I’m often disappointed by our inability to swing particular classes, camps, or extracurriculars - but that isn’t the fault of those offering the services! More power to them!
  23. I agree. I’ll post a quick inquiry on occasion, but the depth & quality of discussions here far exceed those of any FB Group.
  24. Sounds good. I think we might dip our toes in with Mathematical Poetry; both are subjects that DS8 enjoys & the class is only a half-semester. ☺️
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