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  1. Haha yeah this exactly. We have a very active group text. Kids all the same ages and have known each other since birth. It definitely feels a little different than just “friends†Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  2. I really didn’t think I would get this many responses, thank you especially for those of you who offered support and hugs! Weirdly enough, I feel fully processed now. Something just snapped into place this afternoon and I don’t feel hurt anymore. I’m heading out to see my friends in about 20 minutes and I feel totally capable of asking how the party went and enjoying pictures and stories and whatever they want to share. And being genuinely happy about it for C. My son also made a cupcake and decorated a balloon for his friend and he was excited about that so even though I’m still seein
  3. Thanks for this post! I think there is so much here that is truth. I know I sometimes don’t know how to handle a situation so kind of just throw my hands up and hope for the best! There are a million possible reasons, but in the end it doesn’t really matter because these are good friends who have my back :) Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  4. Thanks for this, I think you nailed it exactly. It’s like I know no one did anything wrong, but I guess it would have been nice for my friends to make an effort knowing that we’ve been having a hard time lately. I didn’t realize that was the root of why I’m having a hard time letting go. This is like therapy :) I’ll go do something for myself today :) Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  5. Yes thank you for the support. I really do need to get out (he was up multiple times last night crying about it and I’m really tired!) so that’s why I do want to go out with my friends tonight, but I’m not sure I’m emotionally ready not to say something unnecessary if it comes up. Mainly just because I’m mentally and emotionally tired. Getting to talk about it here has helped since I couldn’t take it to my RL friends :) Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  6. He’s upset about all of it :( his friends having fun without him, missing out on games and activities. And especially cake. He loves cake. We are having some today! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  7. This is a lovely idea! I actually offered it to my son and he was upset that other people might hear about the fun time they had and feel sad and left out. I love his sensitive heart .... maybe just a little raw for him to consider right now. We are going to have to have lots more conversations about this! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  8. Yeah we had been thinking about doing an art class with the kids together but then she said she had decided it was too far to drive. It would really have been better if they just said they were busy, or going to a party. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  9. Thank you! I think a heads up would have really helped my son be able to process, he was really blindsided when his other friend shared all about it. I honestly just think the mom didn’t think about it. As my good friend she knows we’ve been struggling a lot with his anxiety and emotional regulation lately (we’ve had lots of conversations even in the last week) so although I wouldn’t expect her to consider his feelings, it would have been nice! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  10. I don’t know if you read the original post very closely, but I specifically said I was trying to work through things in my own head so that it doesn’t affect our relationships or make anyone else feel bad. I also specially said exactly what you did, that it is okay for people to choose who to invite to parties and that we are working through that with my son. I’m feeling sad that my son is sad. It’s okay to have feelings. I refuse to believe that that makes me petty, micromanaging, or in any way a bad friend. Also, it’s just moms hanging out tonight, without kids. I think that gi
  11. I think this is partly why I’m confused. I have a lovely picture of all of them (including my son) dressing up as princesses just a couple of months ago. At this friends house. It so obviously wouldn’t have been a problem at all. I think it would help me to get it off my chest and I definitely prefer for things to be out in the open, but I don’t think it’s worth making my friend feel sad about the party she made for her daughter. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  12. Thank you for this. Could you clarify what you mean by “problem within your own family� I mean my son is sad, I’m feeling sad, but I don’t really know if that’s a problem? It’s just feelings :) I definitely want to be gentle and probably won’t say anything at all just because I don’t want her to have a little raincloud over what seems like a wonderful memory for their family. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  13. Yeah that’s the conclusion I came to as well. I think if we were having our mom get together at the weekend I would be fine, it’s just tonight it’s still a little raw, you know? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
  14. Yep, no boys were invited. I know it definitely wasn’t personal and that’s why I’m trying to get past being upset. My son is only 4 though, and in therapy for anxiety and other issues, so he takes things really hard. We’ve talked about they just wanted it to be girls etc but I still have to deal with the fallout. It will likely be a couple of days before he’s not acting out constantly on his disappointment. And I think that’s what it’s hard, because it makes my parenting week really hard and I can’t even vent to my closer friends about it now! Sent from my iPhone using T
  15. So my son didn’t get invited to the birthday party of one of his best friends (a little girl we will call C). He’s 4 and found out when another of his best friends (we will call her b) was telling him about it yesterday. He is completely distraught and it’s really set off a whole chain of emotions/ difficult behaviors. Right now he’s refusing to go to his therapy because he’s so upset. So yay for that. I’m trying not to be upset. Logically I know that it’s just a kids birthday party and kids should be able to invite (or not invite) whoever they want. Also, the party was a prince
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