Oh gosh...Hot Lava Mama!!! driving between two big rigs!!! That's the stuff that scares me!!! I have to take a deep breath and let...him...go.... Thank you ladies for your support. I've been feeling a bit isolated as a parent and it helps to know that my fears are not unfounded. I have to let the boy be a man! Thanks for your replies..One day at a time..

My 19 year old now has his driver's license. We live in CA. Freeways are terrible here. Fortunately in our city, he doesn't have to drive the terrible drives...But I am still afraid to let him drive. His CC is 30 miles away and it's a long dark stretch at night, sometimes foggy. We have one car and I want to get him his own car, but even then, it still doesn't take away my fear of him getting hurt driving. I know it is irrational and I don't want to hold him back!! He needs to drive to become an experienced driver. Has anyone had these fears or am I just one crazy mom? I feel like I am crazy for having these fears. I just want to be able to let him go and have his freedom, but I'm afraid for him to get on those freeways. I appreciate anyone helping me to get over this fear. I just don't know how to stop being fearful. I feel like a terrible mom for this.

Thank you for this advice. We have set informal study times, but I will try the approach of planning solid time blocks. The other thing he struggles with is distractions. He always says that he was distracted and couldn't get his work done. I'm not sure what to do about that. Maybe if he only has to stay focused for 45 minutes, he can look forward to a break. But then he will have to be disciplined to get back on work after the break. I try to text him throughout the day. He's gotten into a rut, I think..

I have not finished reading this thread, but it's very informative. I have struggled to make ends meet through my children's childhood and homeschooling (I was a SAHM for all these years), and we lived on a very tiny income that most people I knew would not live on - we lived a very barebones and simple lifestyle. I finally divorced (for my health and sanity) and my kids have been much better off for it, and I went back to work full time, which broke my heart because I so loved homeschooling. My oldest is now attending CC now and my youngest is using Univ of Nebraska's high school program. It's very difficult alone just trying to get the work done and deal with the finances, let alone worry about college. I have one car and we have to share it. Their dad contributes nothing. I am terrified about how I will help them get through college. I know I must sound scattered right now, but I guess I do feel scattered. My boys are everything to me and I want more than anything to help them get through college. PinkyandtheBrains, I hope you find financial stability soon. I am sorry you are going through that and hope you do not end up homeless. It could happen to any one of us. Right now I am trying to face our situation head on with honesty. My oldest wants to attend a private Christian school and my youngest wants to attend our local state university. I have been afraid to deal with these things, but I have to. I have no idea how I can possibly help him get into a school that costs over 41k per year. sigh... Thanks for letting me vent a little here. I appreciate the wisdom here. I am trying to be brave.

Hi, My high school student is taking independent study classes through University of Nebraska High School. He really likes the courses, but struggles with time management. I have to work full time, as I am a single parent, so I can't be with him all day. His syllabi outline everything he needs to do, so it is very manageable. I am eager to hear from others who have helped their highschoolers conquer the difficulties of self discipline. He wants to succeed and is very smart, but right now I think he is in a rut. I want to help him, but besides nagging, I'm need something more constructive. I appreciate helpful advice. Thanks! Susan