Calizzy
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I know he's a singer, not actor but Ed Sheeran just annoys me. No real reason, I just can't stand the guy. His face, his hair, the way he walks..ew. Now I'm annoyed again.
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This is my MIL. She texts me and dh horrible things about what bad parents and bad Christians we are. We shouldn't be leaders in our church, etc. Then a week later sends a grocery care package when I broke my foot without a word of acknowledgement of the things that were said.
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I've been inspired by the k-drama love on this board and was thinking about watching some with my 13 and 15 yo daughters over Christmas break. Are they family friendly? Any specifically that would be ok for us to watch together?
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Thanks for the responses. She can walk down there, she just doesn't always keep track of the time to come home. A timer is a good idea. Also, finding new friends is a good idea and on the agenda ♥️
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I am currently dealing with a very awful situation where my husband and I can no longer trust people who were our best friends. Our whole families were very close. We live on the same street. The husbands work together. We went to church together. Their kids are the same age as our kids. Our famlies were very intertwined. However, we experienced a situation in which dh was treated wrongly and friend's dh not only didn't stand up for my dh, but lead the way in covering up the wrong. It has been 2 months and we are no longer friends. The trouble now is what to do for the kids. Mostly it's my youngest. My 7yo really misses her best friend and wants to play together. I think that the other family would be ok with that, and I am ok with that in theory. But I have a hard time figuring it out in reality. I don't want to go over and pick her up when it's time to come home. I don't want to text ex friend to get my dd back. I don't want these children to be hurt in the parental problems. But I can't see how to make it work. The hurt they caused us in so great. We have been in so much pain for 2 months and are just starting to get our feet back under us. I can't bear the thought of seeing them face to face. But I know that my dd is hurting too and so wants to see her friend.
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I just noticed this red bump on my dog's skin. It's probably a cm diameter and tall. She is not sensitive to me touching it. It looks like a giant pimple. Should I have it looked at or give it a few days?
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I am talking about a literal pot, not marijuana! My son bought this small cast iron pot at a yard sale, and now I don’t know what to do with it! I have an induction cooktop and it won’t heat the pot because the feet don’t make enough contact with the stove. It’s just been sitting on my counter for 4 months.
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I was never a coffee drinker until a few years ago. I started drinking decaf coffee about 5 years ago. Recently I have added Harney and Sons Paris tea. Last winter I drank either a cup of decaf coffee or a cup of black tea every day. This season I have been wanting 2 a day. I'm wondering- am I becoming addicted to hot drinks? Even if I am, is that a problem? How many hot drinks do you have per day? How many is too many? In the tea, I put 1 or 2 sugar cubes and some 1% milk. In the coffee I use sugar and 1/2 and 1/2. My concern is not so much the cream and sugar content, more just feeling like I can't go a day without.
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1 hour ago, Faith-manor said:
Same. We bowed out of numerous family events at Mark's parents' home because it required so much money to make the 2800 mile round trip and would have meant that year after year, that was the only "vacation" there was. His parents' marriage was bad so we are not talking about a happy time there. His sister, who lived only an hour away plus his dad who always felt very entitled, were so unhappy with us. We went every third Christmas for a few days. That was it. In those other years, we used our money to go camping and fishing with the kids, to take them to historical places, to see new landscapes. If his sister had announced, "I am taking mom and dad to Bahamas for their 40th anniversary. You can come but you can't bring your family", Mark would have just said " Have fun, I am not spending my entire vacation fund on just myself, and at our income level, we don't give gifts worth thousands of dollars."
To be honest, I think it is great that OP's husband wants to gift his dad the experience. But it is a very, very pricey experience. He should never have even brought it up with his siblings. It is tantamount to flaunting money. "Hey, I can afford to do this for dads and you should afford it too, just don't bring your wife or kids." That is not very nice and I can see how it came across. It should have been, "Hey dad, I want to do this for the two of us. Let's look at the calendar and work out a good time to make this trip." Then let the chips fall where they may in terms of what the siblings each wanted to do to honor his birthday, and gift what they felt was reasonable.
Hind sight, this is what he would have done. That being said, I can see that going wrong also. "How dare you plan a trip with dad and monopolize all his time!" "How selfish that you didn't invite us!" "You think you're the only one who wants to go with dad to Fenway?" I've come to see it is a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. And the one that suffers is FIL because next time Dh just won't do anything.
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12 minutes ago, annandatje said:
Husband should rescind invitations and briefly explain why. Expect some to be annoyed and some to take it in stride. Husband should then take his dad on trip alone. Your husband was trying to do something nice but details got out of hand.
Yes, I think this is right.
DH was not trying to plan a party. He does not feel responsible for a party. Without us planning, I am sure a party would not happen. No one has ever planned a party for any milestones in his family. I don't think he took over party planning from the others. And he is genuinely fine with them not coming. He knows there is a big expense and does not expect anyone to pay to come. He would like to start over again and just take his dad and say nothing to the others. And I am sure they will do nothing for his birthday.
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It has been FIL's dream to go to a Red Sox game for 20 years. They were in Boston in 2004 when they won the World Series after the 86 year curse but couldn't get tickets. So it's not really a "what should we do for dad's bday" situation. It was a "this is what I am doing and I'm opening the invitation if you want to come with us."
Dh's clarified with his siblings that he IS doing this with dad for his birthday. You are welcome to plan a different party on your own if this is not what you want to do. If you don't want to come without your spouse- that is fine, no hard feelings. His brother has responded "You're giving us an ultimatum- just like mom always does."
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The main reason for not wanting spouses is that it makes the group 10 people- which is hard for an airbnb in boston. Also, the siblings are pretty independent and wander off alone a lot. It was going to be a quick 3 or 4 day trip and accommodating 10 people- what attractions do you want to see, where do you want to go for lunch, etc. Seems more likely that people will split up.
Honestly, Dh would rather go alone with his dad. He was trying to be nice by inviting siblings.
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FIL is turning 70 in April. Dh is from a family with 5 kids- 2 are in the midwest, 3 are in Idaho. FIL is in midwest. Dh is the oldest and wanted to take his father to a Boston Redsox baseball game for a birthday weekend getaway. He invited his siblings but asked for it to be siblings only- no spouses. That way they can rent an Airbnb and all spend the weekend together. The siblings are all pushing back that they want to bring spouses. It's a long flight from Idaho and to get their $ worth they want to make it a vacation. Dh said, "That's the point. It's not a vacation for you and your spouse, it's about dad."
1st question- would you find it unreasonable to be asked not to bring your spouse?
2nd question- if that is what they want to do, dh wants to not be involved and just take the trip alone with his dad. The whole thing was his idea. How does he get out of this?
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1 hour ago, 8filltheheart said:
Thank you! This helped me!
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The answer book gave answers to these that I don't understand. Simplify these expressions:
3y/13 + 7y/26
3/2x - 4/5x
What answer do you get?
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House on Mango Street. Each chapter is like a short story so you can just read 1 a night and not finish.
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My plumber charges me for drive time. I find it incredibly frustrating. I have no control over where the last house was.
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We've decided to wait until Monday. She just came to the shelter on Thursday so we are going to give the weekend to see if anyone else adopts her.
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I took dh to see her tonight. He liked her too... We decided to sleep on it. Here is her picture.
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We have a 3 yo chihuahua and are looking for another small dog. I was looking for something about the same age, but today we met the sweetest little rescue mutt but she is 12 😞 My kids loved her, but they are scared they will fall in love and she will die in a year or 2. I loved her too, my concern is incontinence. Just to add, she has 3 legs and when they took her back to the kennel she pulled and pulled not wanting to go 😞 Would you do it?
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DD's Algebra 2 teaches does not check the homework. DD emailed teacher to say that she doesn't know if she is doing it right or wrong. Teacher said, "I don't have time to check answers but you are free to contact me with any questions." DD is frustrated because she doesn't know if she has a question because she doesn't know if she is right or wrong.
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If your high schooler attended class for math, did the math teacher grade the homework? I don't mean just a check mark that it was done. I mean were the questions checked for correctness?
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I saw humans too
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Pick a travel destination with these parameters (XP)
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Not a specific destination, but our family loves Club Med. We love the Ixtapa Mexico location, but if you don't like Mexico they have Punta Cana DR. Or tons of other locations. The resorts are all inclusive and very active- tennis classes, sailing classes, dancing at night, trapeze, archery, etc. We don't really leave the resort when we go.