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  1. Ahh, sorry to have been confused about the Julie of the Wolves scene. I haven't read that book in quite a while, and I only had the faintest memory of the scene. Whether it was rape or attempted rape, I couldn't recall. Either way, I had it as required reading when my oldest daughter was 10, and we only paid a little attention to the scene, and my daughter knew Julie was being maltreated, though not necessarily the entire context, if I recall correctly. I know my line must be much different for many people. I had my daughter read The Glass Castle when she was 12 and certain we were the worst parents in the world. That gave her a different perspective, and she didn't suffer any lasting ill effects. I wouldn't necessarily provide that book to all of my children, but if they chose to read it, I wouldn't forbid them, so long as we talked about it as they went along. That's how my mother approached me wanting to read Catcher in the Rye when I was 12, and I read Kaffir Boy on my own that same year. Works for me, but YMMV. :)
  2. I would be extremely surprised if that was what she meant. At the end of your previous post, you talked about sexuality in general in Holocaust books (if I recall correctly, unfortunately I don't have an eidetic memory.) I think it's likely that the idea she was working from. A little extension of grace and understanding goes a long way.
  3. I was curious about this book and see that it was nominated for a Pulitzer, but there are no reviews of it that I've seen beyond reader reviews on Amazon and Goodreads. No one mentioned a rape scene. I don't doubt it was there, but perhaps the OPs opinion of what makes a "graphic" rape scene may be different than many readers. Any account of the rape of a child is bound to be upsetting, but it can be done without being "graphic". "Julie of the Wolves" comes to mind, and it is considered a book for younger readers. Anyway, I have no idea which category this one paragraph would fall into (by my own reckoning) but I do see that the book was considered YA on Amazon.
  4. I'm sorry that happened and I hope you will manage it in a positive way that doesn't make this into a tragic, defining moment for your son. Gently: You can't keep your children, always and forever, from hearing/seeing/reading something startling. It's how you manage it afterward. Really, if your goal is to filter and Google everything your children come in contact with, you're going to be exhausted and miserable. As unhappy as this situation is for you, it can be a very important experience for your whole family and not just because you have a new personal goal of Googling, presumably every book/movie/magazine etc. that your children are ever exposed to, but to learn some maturity, even when it comes through a negative encounter.
  5. Here's a gay Evangelical group where you can read testimonies and articles and exegesis of various Bible passages, so you can understand how gay Evangelical (born-again) Christians (and ones who have life-partners, husbands, and wives) understand the passages that are traditionally used to denigrate gay people. These are Christians who are Evangelical, gay, and many of whom are in same-sex relationships, so that may be a perspective you haven't had much experience with. It's very interesting, and you might find it thought-provoking as well, even if you don't agree with it. :) Exciting to look at different sides. Good for you! ETA: Here is the link. http://www.t-e-n.org/
  6. If it were really that easy, there wouldn't be so many denominations that claim to be based solely on the Bible. There would be no disagreements between people who believe Sola Scriptura, and yet.... It's possible that Abba12 believed she was firmly based in the Bible on her first belief and now feels that she was wrong and now she has the correct Biblical belief. (I could be totally wrong, but it's a very very common happening.)
  7. Thanks, everyone. I appreciate the ideas. We had the sleep issues as well, but he takes a half dose of...shoot, I forget the name, in the evening. It's an ADHD med, with the side effect of sleepiness, and it helps him to sleep. I'd like to look at something else, and this gives me some ideas to discuss with dr.
  8. My DS has been on methylphenedate for about a year for his ADHD. It affects his appetite, and he isn't gaining weight properly. What are some other meds, that anyone has had success with for ADHD, that don't have this side effect? Please PM me if you like. Thanks so much.
  9. I grew up in a non-religious household and was evangelized by my best friend in Jr. High. I became a passionate Evangelical Christian through her. I bought "literal, inerrant Bible" "Ye must be born again". I found a lot of peace and hope in Jesus. My family situation was stressful, and I was extremely hard on myself to be the best at everything--grades, sports, etc. Having Jesus was being accepted and forgiven and loved without it being related to my performance. I was a very passionate Christian, helping lead worship, prayer groups, Bible studies etc. through high school. I was very discouraged by other Christians when I was in high school however. Other kids in my church were pretty badly behaved--drinking, drugs, sex, etc. I was incredibly uneasy at this and started seeking out the Plain movements, where Christians seemed to live very clear, distinct lives. I wound up with lots of Amish and Mennonite friends. In college, I started wearing plain clothing and a headcovering. I began dating a man in a parachurch ministry at my college, and while he wasn't plain or Anabaptist, he supported me. We married, and attended a plain Charity Christian Fellowship church occasionally, or a Conservative Mennonite Church, when we could make the drive. The rest of the time, we attended an Evangelical Free Church in our city. Husband had grown up Catholic, but never really believed. He had been an atheist for years and had become a Born-again Christian several years before we met. About 15 years into our marriage, when our children were young and my husband had left the ministry and was pursuing his Ph.D. in a science field, we reevaluated our beliefs so we could be sure of what we passed on to our children, and found that we believed fewer and fewer of the Bible's claims. We were still highly involved in our church, and my husband was asked to be a deacon, but we turned it down. Within the year, we had abandoned religious faith entirely and embraced a non-faith based reality. We're non-religious, non-theist, and we don't promote religion of any kind in our home.
  10. It is extremely difficult to "become" Hutterite, harder than Amish and conservative Mennonite, honestly. I don't think you'll fit in with their type of Christianity either. They aren't Evangelical, and I don't think your understanding of Christianity will fit well with theirs My Mennonite friend and her husband "do mission work" as they call it, when they visit the colony. I don't know exactly what they do, but they're pretty convinced that Hutterites aren't "born again" or had a "regenerative experience." Also, they don't have private property. You'd have to divest yourself of about everything you own to join a colony. When my friend left at the age of 20, they gave her $25.00, which was all the money she had in the world. I once told Ruth, "I don't think I could ever be Hutterite," and she looked at me steadily. "I don't think anyone who hasn't grown up Hutterite can manage it happily." It seems an idyll... but it's not necessarily so. You might be interested in reading about "The Nine" A group of mission-minded Evangelical Christians who left different colonies. http://www.thenine9.com/
  11. A good friend of mine grew up Hutterite in Alberta and left the colony before she married. She is now a Conservative Mennonite. Why?
  12. Got it yesterday. Planning to play this afternoon with family. I've really been looking forward to it! I wish the cards were a little bigger. I'm only 39, but it makes me feel old to squint at the small type :(
  13. I knew my oldest would be horrified if I did anything. She told me during day #3 of her first (she was 14), and I bought her a bag of her favorite mini-chocolates. She liked that. :) Now, she occasionally tells me she needs more chocolate. My younger daughter might think having earrings or going to get her hair cut at a salon (something we only do every year or so--special occasion for her) would be fun. She would be more up for that.
  14. Several times. I did a year through the Bible twice (Gen-Rev) . I read it chronologically another time. I also read bits and pieces almost every day for nearly 20 years. I've read the NT in three languages. French/English/German
  15. My SIL gave me an iphone 4s that she wiped and restored to factory settings. I need to have it "unlocked" so I can put my own provider on it because hers doesn't work well in my part of the US. I was told by my cell provider that she would have to get it unlocked through her own previous cell phone provider, but she's out of the country for the next several weeks, and I need to get this done now. How can I "unlock" this phone? Thanks so much. I.
  16. I've always hated scents and perfumes of all sorts and I've never worn one. Then, a year ago, a Saudi friend of mine gave me a tiny vial of white musk. Outrageously expensive, I know it was. It's freakin' unbelievable. She told me she didn't know if it was deer musk or whale vomit. I don't care, I love it so hard. I wear it on special occasions and...well, I honestly turn myself on it smells so good. Mmmm, me sexy thing!
  17. I'm glad the trip went well and your DD slept well. Calms forte wouldn't have really done anything as there's no active ingredient. Not possible to overdose, no side effects, no interactions. No side effects. They don't expire. (From Calms Forte's own website) http://www.calmsforte.com/home/faqs/ A very good TED talk related to homeopathy. https://www.ted.com/talks/james_randi?language=en
  18. Yep, I'd let mine go under those same circumstances. :)
  19. Ipsey

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    I had a tubal ligation (cut and cauterization) after my final c-section. No problems. No pain. Very happy. If I hadn't had a c-section, my husband would have gotten a vasectomy because of lesser expense, quicker recovery, etc. With any procedure, medication, anything, there are outliers and side effect that affect part of the population, but the risks are often very small.
  20. I am on my parents' plan, and my 14 year old daughter wants a phone of her own (and will need a plan of her own). I'm ok with her having one because she's getting to the age that she needs to call me, etc. but I have to say that plans, etc. are beyond me. She found a used iphone 5 from Verison for $99, but I had to show her that it was just the phone that cost $99, and that she had to sign a 2 year contract (at about $45/mo) to use it. Sooooo, she insists on having an iphone for some reason. I suppose we can get one that is "unlocked" on Craigslist. Then, how do we go about finding a reasonable plan? (Data, at least. We don't necessarily need a phone plan if she can use a calling app.) Any suggestions? This is not my area at all, and I've been researching this stuff for a couple of months and am growing more confused the longer I do. Thanks so much!
  21. I've been so crazy-busy, I forgot! (18 years!) Fortunately (or unfortunately) DH didn't! He's making a nice dinner and raspberry pie! What should I do for him? Thanks for any suggestions!
  22. This kind of seems like the cousin to the other "religious cards/message" thread. About this card, I would do nothing. She wished me a happy birthday in her way. Ok. Doesn't sound like they're interesting in having a relationship necessarily, just promoting their belief. Since I'm not interested in embracing their belief, I would just consign it to the same level as the birthday greetings I get from my insurance agent and dentist. It's not an invitation to a relationship, as far as I would be concerned. I have to take it on a case by case basis. I.
  23. I'm sure there are serious, evangelical, born-again Christians who would also say the same thing about your misunderstandings of evolution. This is not just a "non-Christian" thing. This is would be true for respectable biological scientists. My husband got his Ph.D. in the Deep South and most of his colleagues (in his biology department) were serious evangelicals, believing that those who did not repent and receive Jesus as Lord were going to Hell. Yet, almost all of them accepted the science of evolution and were practically pulling their hair out about the co-religionists who espoused and touted pseudo-science as the real thing. If you only get the "[you're] not fully comprehending what evolution really means" from non-Christians, you need to broaden out into more scientific circles, and then you'll have the experience of hearing that from Christians as well.
  24. I'm so sorry, Binip. Our family feels much the same way. I often tell my children to choose an occupation and education for the money. I encourage them in fields that make a lot of money, and discourage them from service fields, but I don't know that they need the encouragement. My children are living with the reality of what happens with parents with higher level degrees in education and research science. Living hand-to-mouth, we are.
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