My experience has been that "inclusive" generally means "we believe various things, and you can believe various other things, as long as we all agree to be polite." "Secular" means unschooling, consensual living, rabid attachment parenting, and, generally, "anything's OK except Christianity." Obviously, this is only here, and I don't feel like these designations are applied as I would like, but that's what they are. We have more in common with the people in an inclusive, but doctrinally oriented (different from our own) group, than with the "secular" group, b/c the lifestyles of that group actively conflict with our own. Best of luck to you in your search!