Yes, but they may not know he is deceased! If she alerts them, and brother isn't as owner, the accounts would be frozen.

It depends on how the accounts are set up at the bank and the brokerage. If it's your dad only as owner, with both of you as beneficiaries, then it should have been frozen until you both show up with the death certificate. If your Dad had your brother on there as a co-owner, then your brother has full rights to the money legally (at least he would here). Do you have any idea how the accounts were set up? If you question anything, call the bank and ask. Call the brokerage and ask.

I wouldn't encourage it because of bad habits. Their fingers aren't very long either. I just wait until mine are closer to age 10.

Did one more closet yesterday- got rid if 2 boxes if stuff, everything is loaded to take to Goodwill and some will go to a friend today- i send her all my little girl clothes and I loveseeing pics of her DD in them. Makes it so much easier to part with the adorable clothes!

It's a new year, so let's start a new chat for those of us with Littles! We are starting back after a long break and I'm deciding what to do for now and starting to look at stuff for next year 🤩 I just bought thecZaner Bloser 1st Grade spelling book- in part for handwriting practice, too. She did 3 pages in that today. I'm not planning to use it as a real spelling curriculum. Overall I'm very happy with it!

I have had family overseas and I would give the couple money to purchase household items in the country they land in. I think it's perfectly fine to say that's what is needed most- money towards household appliances they can use wherever they end up. They may even need kitchen cabinets- those are not standard everywhere;) I'd items are purchased that can't be used, and include a gift receipt, return them. Don't feel guilty! I would not be storing stuff like that for years.

I just need to fill it out for kids already in college- no new graduates this year. I'm planning to wait until February. On the college places I watch, this is a Hot Mess!

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Got the storage area cleaned out- 2 bags of trash and a bunch if stuff for Goodwill packed in my car already. One item I plan to sell. I need to do one more closet today if I can, we are starting school back.

Gently, it sounds like this relationship was something you have clung to when you outgrew her maturity long ago. Talking about touchy subjects in public is not something a friend would do. The fact that she's using THIS example as a way that you were hurting her is just cuckoo.

I'm back already! Had DD go through all the clothes again and we culled several more items that are too little or just don't fit well (different shapes than older sisters). If she won't wear it, donate or toss! Then back to the homeschool closet- all school supplies and paper are organized. I put the give away and sell piles neatly in the bottom of the closet and hope to get pics taken tomorrow so I can list them! My youngest says its her turn now- maybe another day! I'm worn out and need to start dinner. Overall I got rid of 2+ bags of stuff plus several old textbooks no one will ever want. I also reorganized my stuff- looks much better!

I'll join! I've already started ;) Got one closet cleaned out this morning- the college kid. She left at 8:30 and I jumped right in by pulling out the stuff she went through the last few days- think half-full boxes, things shoved here and there. I consolidated her clothes into 2 boxes, moved other junk and just rearranged the stuff in there to make 2 shelves clear for DD12- she puts her PJs and undies in there because she uses that shower. I also have space for coats! I re-folded and organized the extra bedding in there- this closet us a hodge-podge of miscellaneous stuff! Dorm stuff, boxes we will need when we move them back, etc. Moved on to DD12s closet- Lord Help Me!!!!! Threw out one bag of too little stuff, 2 sets of sheets that don't fit any bed and are crazy old. One bag started for Goodwill. Put up the summer clothes (in my defense it's been a warmer fall). Overall I think this closet is about finished. I may need to come back next week to weed out a bit more. And next is my school closet 😬 Right now I've got 2 piles of books- donate/pitch and try to sell. I pulled everything out and now I'm tired and hungry, so taking a break.

I think this is a great idea, and just at the right time in your life. You have a family that is growing up, DH is almost finished with his degree, and the older 2 don't need you as much with their college classes. With it being online, you can work at your own pace when it fits into your schedule. If you wanted to speed it up later, you can maybe go PT at work once DH gets his raise from having a degree!

I also have kids from 6 to 20, and somewhere along the way parents just flipped. I have friends with older kids (high school and college) and then friends with just younger kids. The difference is stark. I have two friends with kids in both ranges, and we just look in disbelief. I don't know what happened, but it's damaging those kids developmentally. They are feral- they cannot play nicely, share, or even just have something not go their way (dont like food, loose a game, etc). Parents don't discipline them- they just try to fix the situation to fit Juniors wishes. Me- play nice or we leave. Sometimes things don't go our way, play or we can go. Younger moms think I'm really strict, moms with older kids think I'm too lenient 🤷‍♀️. I do think the way we deal with feelings has gone way too far. Mental health is important, but learning how to navigate the Normal bumps of life is vitally important to future happiness. Disappointment, fear, anxiety, anger- these are all normal feelings that yoddlers and preschoolers should learn to manage.

It's not just young adults- I think there is way too much gloom and doom on the internet. I've told my 18-20 year Olds to pick a career and get started. The key is to just move forward, not stagnate at one place. Everyone will move forward at a different pace, but they need to be moving forward. One was wanting to rent in a HCOL area, stressing about the cost of an apartment and never being able to buy. I told her she was being ridiculous. Yes, rent is high, but this is temporary. We built right at the housing bust in 2008. Lots of my friends did, too. You just make it work!

Turning 18 does not make you magically an adult. This is not an independent person, it's not even a college student- it's a high school senior who is making dangerous choices. I would absolutely call his mother and share what has happened- she has some responsibility for procuring the vodka that was consumed by minors who decided to drink and drive. People die because of decisions to drink and drive. Families are destroyed. It is the one thing I've told mine to never do! I'd rather go get them or pay Uber.

I made a list, and after having graduates in '21 and '23, I will say that cut-offs and packages do change year to year! Details are usually posted in July or August before Sr year.

I have let my young adults know that the polite thing to do is to follow the flow of whatever home you are visiting. If everyone else goes to bed at 10- go to your room and be quiet after that time. If everyone gets up at 7 and eats, don't sleep til 10 and then mess up the kitchen again.

Today I am finalizing menu for the next week and ordering the grocery pick-up. Most of the housework is done, but I wanted to do a few more things in the kitchen. Most of the gifts are wrapped, but I will have things trickling in the rest of the week. Overall, I'm more ready than normal!

Jacket and tie for men, look at Goodwill or ask around. Some colleges have a clothes closet students can borrow from! My DD has a skirt suit, but she's used the college closet before, too.

I do think good food is one of the biggest obstacles for elderly, so I'd go with restaurant.gift cards and a small snack or homemade meal.

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Neither of my college aged kids have said anything regarding antisemitism. One of mine has an online friend she connected with over a shared hobby who lives there, a Muslim, and she supports Israel because of the way she is treated as a young Muslim woman by the current "government." She and her family do not support a government ruled by Muslim extremists and wish Israel would take over. I think this is a unique perspective, and one not shared online or in the news. Young woman are watching any rights they had erode, while also able to see stuff on Social media from the US and other democracies and the freedom we have to wear what we want, say what we want, and learn what we want. They have been friends for probably 4 years and this has been a continuing conversation- real experiences of friends shared, more real-life than a new story- telling about something that she saw, fears she has, wishes she could leave, friends dissappear. My DD wasn't aware of how bad it was in these countries before, and this friendship has opened her eyes. Our family is usually pretty skeptical, we also aren't joiners and opposed to Group Think - this applies to many things- church groups, politics from both sides, even Black Lives Matter. We do support certain positions in Republican and Democratic platforms. We agree with lots of church group positions. We agree that the lives of Black people matter. But those groups, parties, bandwagons- that's where we separate ourselves. For kids who are used to joining, this is just one more bandwagon they jump on. I don't think most of them know enough about the situation and people involved to have an educated opinion.

Thank you all for answering me. I wouldn't be able to ask around IRL! Answers- I got the Mirena. I had post about this a while back. I was having the ridiculously heavy bleeding and it made me very tired and sick for about 3 days a month. I tried BCPs first and my BP went crazy high! It was Mirena or ablation. I took the iron to try to combat the massive blood loss- I thought that was what was making me so tired. It's been almost 3 months. Bleeding is mostly gone, but I still feel very tired sometimes. My Dr stated me on a low dose BP pill, Losartan, 50 MG once a day. In my case HBP is genetic and runs in my mom's family. From what I can tell it will take some trial and error to get it sorted out. I am supposed to record BP once a day and go back every few months to readjust. My bottom number has been consistently above 90 this whole time, so I don't think this is the right one for me. I'm taking a list of what Mt mom and aunts take with me next time 😉 Hopefully he listens! I've been thinking of switching because he never seems to listen to me.

To answer a few more questions- I am trying to walk a lot daily, outside if I can, treadmill if I can't (I have a little who must be supervised). As for core muscles- I need a tummy tuck to fix that- 10" diastis recti from rib cage past my belly button. I have always had to do core exercises or my back pain was worse. I do have to watch exercises I do because of this. My side muscles are strong! I'd consider myself overweight, but not too big. 155lbs this morning. Size 8, medium clothes. I have not gone to any other type Dr, but I might look into that. The last 3 years it's gotten a lot worse and I have to just watch g every single thing! I don't do any caffeine, maybe that would help? But I don't like soda or coffee????