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  1. It hasn't happened to me and I agree that it was wrong and strange. This leads me to ask if any of us have been on the other side of this: taking a picture of someone without asking, on purpose or inadvertently. I've seen people post pics and even short video clips of things like an aerobics class they are taking (just to say "hey look at the good time I'm having") and you see all the other people in the class. They didn't ask anyone if it was okay. People come home from mission trips with hundreds of pics of people in foreign countries, did they even ask? How many selfies and videos have you seen that include other people that have no clue they are in them? I remember one of our pastors came back from a mission trip in Kenya and said they saw a group of Masai people walking down the road and started to take their pics but then the people started throwing rocks at them. The pastor was actually offended! I was like how would you like it if you were walking with your family and some strangers started snapping pics of you? They are people, he should have asked.
  2. I try not to get overly offended by other peoples choices in general and this applies to weddings. I feel like what kind of wedding someone wants is their choice but I also ask them not to be offended if I can't come. An in-town wedding for adults only works well for us as a date night since we have grandparents close by who don't mind watching the kids for 2-3 hours, but an out-of-town wedding would be a problem. My cousin who lived in a different state got married and had an adults only wedding and I had to tell him I couldn't make it. I think it hurt his feelings but its not realistic for us to ask the grandparents to take care of four kids (one was a baby) for 2 days while we make the trip. I think the bride and groom can have their wedding how they want but they should also that understand some choices may exclude people and they need to be okay with that.
  3. Most likely a scam. A doctor's office would have contacted you more than once via mail about a bill not call, especially not automated. The rule of thumb around my house is never submit a payment over the phone for a company that calls us. If by any chance we miss a bill somehow and get a call, we tell the person we will go to the known company website a submit a payment or send a check to the known company.
  4. One thing I've learned in homeschooling is that there are many different ways to teach and parent each child. It doesn't have to be one way. Choices don't have to be permanent. You can choose to homeschool for a period then go back to public school and vice versa. I think it would be a good idea to wait at least one semester before pulling your ds. This gives you time to work with dd who needs more attention and to find your rhythm in hsing overall. Dd is in a happy place right now so I wouldn't disrupt it especially if she is sensitive to change. Enjoy these great days you guys are having.
  5. I wish I knew the answer to your question. I just chimed in to say it hurts my heart to see so many people responding to this post in such insensitive ways. A mother and son are going through a horrific time and it just doesn't seem right to leave snarky comments, make jokes about her beliefs, or debate her on scientific proofs. :grouphug:
  6. Ok, who vetoes Danger as a middle name? Ma'am, I'm disappointed. 😂
  7. I'm glad, I worried about the super germs it would lead to. My sister and mom will panic, they only by antibacterial and my sister cleans everything in Clorox. I'm sure she'll try to buy it on the black market :coolgleamA: .
  8. Rose Marie is my vote. I also thought Rose Ann at first but then it made me think of Roseanne Barr.
  9. We rarely have dessert around here (dh is a healthy eating freak of nature) so we would never make a special trip to go get some.
  10. I actually felt like I was the only one who felt dreamless and passionless. I won't say purposeless because that gives people the wrong connotation like I'm depressed or lost spiritually when I'm not. I am a Christian who believes (knows) I was created on purpose with a spiritual purpose towards God. Outside of that, though, I have no strong feeling, desire, or inclination towards anything else. I, too, am struggling through boredom trying to find something to get excited or passionate about. Again, I'm not unhappy or depressed. I don't feel a calling to any profession, I don't have any special talents (well, none I want to hone and pursue), I don't have a goal I'm working towards. I'm actually considering getting a dog to break up the mundaneness :). I do think there is a cultural element to this idea of having a dream/purpose/passion. We have books like The Purpose Driven Life , quotes about following you dreams, to the point were I see it has become a popular sermon topic in churches as well as secular arenas. I think it does come from the mindset of living in a wealthy country where there is free access the education and we are told the sky is the limit. We love to hear stories of the good old American dream of how a person found wealth and happiness by having a dream and working hard towards it. This is not the case in most of the world. I wonder if having a dream/passion is the exception and not the rule? My dh seems to be the opposite of me and has many passions and goals. Many moms in my co-op seem that way too. Sometimes I just want to makeup/randomly pick something to pursue so it looks like I'm doing something, you know?
  11. Its in the couch mom, I'm sorry. And not just tucked in the cushions, I mean it has fallen all the way down to the bottom so you are going to have to cut open the fabric beneath the couch to get it out.
  12. Never knew burkini's existed... I think I just found my new swimsuit.
  13. For me moving isn't the big deal, it's the dh changing jobs. If you want to move closer to dh's job then go for it. But changing jobs without a good reason affects his career. Job hopping never looks good on a resume and he would be starting over as a new guy on the job when he has already invested six years in the current one. At the current job he has built rapport and is, in theory, closer to getting a promotion if he stays put. If the Denver job is not moving him to a higher position I wouldn't do it.
  14. Bullying (in my eyes) - Intentionally and continually engaging in behavior (physical or verbal) with the goal of hurting another person. The "continually" part is important because making a mean comment once just makes someone a jerk not a bully. Now if that person makes it a habit of doing it each day or week, then yeah, they are a bully.
  15. I guess I'm not clear about why he is being punished in the first place. If he has a medical condition I wouldn't want to punish him because he can't control himself about it. My ds had some sleep issues that where truly upsetting to him because he was exhausted but couldn't sleep. He would cry and freak out telling me he's so tired but can't sleep. If this is what happening to your son I wouldn't go through with the punishment. I know I've been in situations where I wanted to (and did) punish my kids for some bothersome behavior because it was an annoyance but when I thought it through realized that it was something beyond their control. I've had to bite the bullet and apologize to my kid and tell them I'm taking back the punishment because it was unjust.
  16. Not sure if you can replace it. But usually its not the battery, I think. My dh was having trouble with his iPhone and was about to go to the Apple store but then he cleaned out his charing port and the end of his charger and all is well now.
  17. Dr. Google should be sued for malpractice :P . Of my four pregnancies I can't remember the morning sickness having an end date, unless you count the day I gave birth. In the end the family ate whatever I could tolerate making. Actually, looking back, I don't remember how I got dinner made. I just know that we ate and my dh doesn't cook so I must have, right? Having a baby has a way of erasing all terrible memories from the pregnancy and the childbirth experience in order to trick you into doing it again :).
  18. This may sound strange but could he be sleepwalking? I ask because my ds8 went through this for a while. He would get completely restless at night like his brain couldn't shut down in to sleep. He'd lay down for a few minutes and then he would be back up and moving (usually headed to the bathroom for some reason). This would happen throughout the night and he was exhausted and distressed at night because he wanted to go to sleep but couldn't. It took me a minute to realize he was sleepwalking because he looked wide awake and was even talking. Of course he would then crash during the day and just fall asleep.
  19. Personally I think of everyone as a potential sex offender when it comes to my kids so life we go on as normal for me. Does that make me crazy or incredibly sane...
  20. I've machine quilted not hand but I'll try to help. Its not very difficult in concept but it will take a lot of time and practice to master. Some blogs that will teach you the basics of quilting are Diary of a Quilter (though she machine quilts, it will give you an Idea about the construction and how a quilt comes together) and Life under quilts, this blog doesn't have much in way of tutorial but she has written two books that I think will be helpful because she specializes in hand piecing (english paper piecing).
  21. I've been in the situation of being one of the caregivers for my grandmother (she lived in our house full time, no rotations) and I have to say that unless someone has been through this it's very difficult to understand the major life changes that occur with a ailing adult, especially when dementia or Alzheimer's is involved. You said that the rotation idea wasn't one you agreed with and you were right not to. Dementia progresses pretty quickly, the early stages go by fast. If there are 5 people (is that right) rotating her for 3 months, she will not be the same person with the last person as she was with the first person. She'll decline and reach a point where she can't be practically moved again. Its a hard thing to see and accept. As far as your SIL, the whole point of the rotation is to give others a break. Its not actually a break if you are committed to come once a week for outings. If your SIL is being reasonable then she can see this if you explain it to her (preferably over the phone, not in email/text ). If she believes that outings are important then its her responsibility to provide them during her time, if thats too much for SIL, then maybe outings aren't such a good idea after all. You are not going to cure her ailments or slow their progression by walking through the mall. Don't get me wrong, being active is good but she can keep her mind and body active gardening at home, talking with her grandkids, etc. At her age and condition, going out can be very draining. I think you are right that you SIL is projecting. At this point I think you all need to sit down with her doctor or another healthcare provider and have them discuss what really is helpful at this stage versus what is not.
  22. The Mysterious Benedict Society (series)...you're welcome ;). What I love about the series is that its a cool adventure mystery featuring children who are incredibly gifted in various ways. I also love that there are multiple puzzle type situations that your 3rd grader can try to figure out along with the characters in the book. I can't describe it in a way that does it justice.
  23. Firstly, the money I save for my child to go to college is just that, MY money. It doesn't belong to the kid so no, they don't get to demand I give them MY money so they can show how "responsible" they are. How about his, if they wanted to show me "responsible" maybe they should have gotten a part time job in high school or over the summer and put money aside for college too. Even now they could find ways to make some spending money with on campus work study or the like if they are truly wanting to show how well they can handle money. Secondly, the mere fact that they are asking for a lump sum is telling me they have something or somethings they are wanting to buy now and want the cash for that, not to show their excellent money management skills. "No sweetie, I'm not going to give you tens to hundreds of thousands of dollars for you to blow on whatever you feel you want, be "responsible" with your own money."
  24. I don't think it is ever a good idea to have a relatively young driver (assuming the guy is about the age of your daughter) and new drinker (again assuming the guy is around 21 and that legal drinking age in your area is 21) to make a judgement call about how much alcohol they can handle and still drive. At that age and experience level their needs to be a hard and fast rule about no drinking and driving. Its too dangerous to make this a gray area at that age. No matter how responsible he is he can't control the effect the alcohol has on him. I also wouldn't want to put my dd in the position of having to monitor what he drinks, telling him he can't have another drink and it becoming an issue. There are other ways to get home, its not worth the risk IMO.
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