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  1. Typically if DH or I are feeling unwell, each of us kind of holes up somewhere anyway. Neither he or I really like to be around others when feeling unwell. As mom, that isn't possible for me, but DH gets it almost everytime he is sick. Usually he and I have not shared illness, but we generally get things from the kids.
  2. It is fine to ask. I think it is a newer thing to request. Currently we do not get the flu shot. If event was happening at baby's house, my family would honor the wishes and stay away this year. If I were hosting or it was being hosted at someone other than baby's house, we would attend regardless of not having the flu shot. I, of course, would not attend if anyone is sick.
  3. I would probably count all the learning of the CAD program and other computer related components as an individual study. However, those hours learning the programs, I would not count towards the project. In my high school, we also had vocational training programs where the students took classes and had internships outside of school (some during school hours as well as outside of school hours) and still received class credit and a grade. One student did earn his Eagle Scout project using school equipment during his shop class. Each student had an "independent project" during their 2nd year of shop that they had to plan, create, and install. This student did "double dip", and received a lot of recognition for mastering his skills to create a wonderful project to benefit the community.
  4. Trying to gather people together can be tricky so getting together sometime within close proximity to the birthday would make me happy. I would still like to do something on my actual birthday even if it's by myself. Now for me kids, DH and I make the actual day special. They usually get the day off from school work, get to pick their dinner, and have birthday treats and presents from us. A party on the other hand with extended family and/or friends is almost always on the weekend around the birthday. It is important to me to acknowledge and celebrate my child's ACTUAL birthday rather than when it is convenient, but this is a hurt I have from my own childhood. When my kiddos become adults or teenagers and wish to do things differently, I'm more than happy to change things up. I would still make an effort to call, drop off a card, meet for coffee. or something on their actual birthday though.
  5. I truly don't know what I would do. At the moment, I would not choose reconstructive surgery. I may go ahead with the double not so much for appearance, but because of lopsided weight on my frame. I'm on the larger side so I would think the more weight and pull on one side of my spine would or could cause some back issues. It would be something I consider when choosing a unilateral or bilateral surgery.
  6. Usually gifts aren't expected in my experience. There are always those that do bring something, but it's usually small and inexpensive. In your case, I would want to bring something nostalgic. A favorite candy or treat. A fun school supply similar to what you had growing up. Socks that remind you of your school uniform. Maybe a hairbow around/in a plant. A homemade card with a picture of that desired toy when you were little. Something that would make your friend think fondly of her childhood.
  7. My husband had one on his last car. We loved it. It was factory installed vs. aftermarket. We didn't choose the option again because we had to go bargain, but it is probably one of our most missed items. Pros: It had the window but also an inside roof cover to block light if desired. It had multiple open options. Tilt open, half open, and full open. When opening the roof cover would recede with the opening of the window. In the heat of summer, my DH get in the car and open the moon all the way.Itt would release so much of the heat upon opening. Never had any leaks. Cons: The back seat could get to much wind. Although it was less than when opening the regular windows. Affects gas mileage in the negative. For us it wasn't significant enough to make a a difference.
  8. We often will watch a movie with a fun snack and drink. I will purchase a DVD, wrap it up, and then the kids get to unwrap it to see which movie we are watching. It's a family gift as opposed to individual gifts. My BFF's family decorates sugar cookies while listening to old records.
  9. My 6th and 3rd grader do, but in honesty, they are still sitting in the schoolroom doing their work. I'm keeping an eye on them as well as there are a few subjects that require one one one with me. It started with my child working on something that they didn't help while I worked with a sibling. They also like to choose what order they complete their work.
  10. My oldest will vomit almost anytime she has a fever. Also, colds generally induce vomitting as well. The colds, I know the vomitting is due to having a very sensitive gag reflex. The draining mucus just hits that old gag reflex. Coughing to hard or even crying to hard will induce vomit as well. Thankfully she is old enough now to anticipate the vomiting and get herself to the bathroom in time.
  11. We just went through this with my MIL. DH and I decided that it was better for our 3 kiddos (11, 8, and 6) to have a their last memory be positive. We were honest about the situation especially since DH still traveled each weekend to visit his mom. In addition to wanting their last memory to be positive, my MIL was staying with my SIL and under hospice care. My SIL house was just so crowded, and my MIL's lucid moments would occur at random times throughout a 24hr period. All the adults were just able to get the call and just come over to my SIL house during my MIL's awake periods, and it wouldn't have been practical with the kids since we couldn't stay at my SIL's house. As my MIL rapidly declined near the end, it got pretty graphic (blood pouring from her neck and mouth) at random moments, and I think it would have really scary/terrifying for the kids. I don't know that there is a right answer, and it was something DH and I seriously discussed and weighed the good and the bad. The night MIL died I got a lot of questions, many more than all the months we had been talking with the kids. Many hugs for this difficult time for your family.
  12. I visit my chiropractor and I sleep with a wedge under my knees. My chiropractor gave me some stretches to do as well. One is to lie on my back, keep one leg flat on the ground, and then stretch my other against a solid upright object. For me it is a doorway. Hopefully you find something that works.
  13. I deal with sciatica pain from time to time as my pelvis will get out of alignment and put pressure on that nerve. My first symptoms are usually a dull ache down my whole leg. Maybe it could be something like this.
  14. Yes I have with both my own children as well as other close friends and family. However, "holding" at 2 or 3 would be different then 7 or 8. The toddler sat down on the couch and I (or the other mama) would sit right next to them and place the baby in their arms helping the toddler learn how to hold and support a baby. Once the baby was very squirmy and wiggly (for me it was about when the baby was 4 months old or a little older) the toddler and I together held the baby. I did this only when a child WANTED to hold the baby. If the toddler asked at an inconvient time (usually when I was nursing), I have allowed the toddler sit right next to me and stroke the baby's head, hands, or feet depending on the situation and my baby's temperment.
  15. We do, but it's often not for a specific time. For example, our washer and dryer are 16 years old. We know that we may possibly need to buy replacements in the next few years so I am squirreling money away in our savings account for it and other larger purchased items. So far we have had the money when we needed it. Rather than saving up to buy X next year, we are constantly saving money for X,Y,Z.
  16. I have attended a few in the past and my daughters have had camp with our scouting troop where the camp ground specifies a dress code when on their grounds. The dress code is not seperated out by boys and girls, but there is quite a bit that does target fashions for females. The only one I refuse to follow is the one-piece bathing suits. Due to fair skin and sensitivity to sun blocks, we wear full body, two-piece swimsuits. So far no one has said anything to us about not wearing a one peice, but we are usually showing the least amount of skin of anyone at the beach despite our two peices of swimwear. And on the topic of one-pieces, I have seen one- pieces that show a lot of skin so it's no guarantee of "modesty." Just saying.
  17. I have found when my kids are/were in the younger elementary ages, schooling through the summer was ideal. School at the most took 1-2hours so often I would do it in the afternoon during the hottest part of the day. Morning and late afternoon/evenings were for being outdoors. With schooling year round, I only school M-Th as a general rule, and in the summer I only did M-W, with a beach day or outdoor field trip on Thursdays. Since the kids were constantly learning new things, I found it helped to not have to long of a break. However, now that I have only one that age, the two older kids as well as I need a longer break so I make sure to take a whole month off. I pair down to the basic, and we actually do school first thing so they have a good chunk of time to get into some creative pursuits or head to the beach.
  18. Frustrating for sure! Better to get it out here. :) My DH is pretty involved, but I still get annoyed that he asks me about our schedule - well the things we do regularly. Every Sunday he asks when we have AHG that week. For the past four years it has been the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd Mondays of the month.
  19. Around my me, "school at home", generally refers to the online school facilitated by the local school district. While the child is doing school at home, it is the public school that is overseeing and administering the required coursework. Periodically the child and/or parent must meet with an adivisor as well as the child is required to take all standardized testing and cover all subjects. Some schools here have daily required work, and when the child has completed it they are done for the day. Other schools here require the chilld to be "at the school" for the same length of time as if they were in the brick and morter school. Not quite sure how that is accomplished, but I do know one friend chose to register as a private school using an online school vs. registering with the local school district because of it. I imagine it will change because the school districts around me have only been offering this option for about 5yrs and some don't offer online schooling currently. Every year it seems like one or two more jump on. I haven't gotten the vibe that our homeschool community frowns down upon it, and children that are enrolled online through the public school system have been welcome to particapte in our activities. We are mainly a social group and offer fun enrichment classes, and we are all over the board with how our families homeschool.
  20. I think what is happening is so unfortunate. Serveral places around here host "homeschool days", it is open to anyone really but it marketed to all area homeschooling groups. Groups of X amount usually get a discount if there is a fee. Some homeschool groups book field trips for their specific group. The organization does not open that up to others though. It is up to the homeschool group to open it to other groups. If we do have a field trip scheduled and the organization is still open to the public, then of course anyone can still use that venue they just don't get to participate in whatever our field trip entails. Different organizations/facilities(both private & public) will rent their facilities as private functions. I do think the organizations should honor the private function and not invite others to participate. Hopefully you will get this all settled and any miscommunication will be corrected.
  21. I chose other because it really depends on the ages of the kids. I think monthly would be reasonable, but certainly the in-laws can make the 45 min trip as well. There is always the option to meet in the middle too. Well depends on what is in the middle. :) My family and in-laws both live in the same general area about a three hour drive. We tried to visit every other month since it would be for the whole weekend. However, now that all the kids are elementary school and have various activities it is not always possible to have a whole weekend free or even a whole day. As much as our families want to see us more, they are not willing to make the 3 hour journey more than once a year and never at the holidays. Relationships are two way streets. The burden should not be 100% on half of that relationship.
  22. I do not, but I have a friend that does work part-time from home. She does a 4 day school week (her oldest is 6yo) in the afternoons. Mornings she works and Fridays she has to be in the office for meetings and what not. So far she is managing well, and it is working for her because her husband works 4-10 hour days which allows him to be home on Fridays when she has to be in the office.
  23. As a new mama, I would have loved for someone to get me a manicure/pedicure, massage, or gift card for my favorite coffee or lunch place. Just something that would be a treat for me and didn't have anything to do with being a mom. I received many, many wonderful gifts that celebrated my motherhood which I appreciated, but no one thought to gift me with anything that celebrated me as an individual. Even for my birthday or Christmas gifts when I was pregnant and a 1st time mom, all those gifts revolved around motherhood.
  24. I don't have encouraging words for you as we are in the same spot. It is close to the "end of the year" for us, and I think we all need a break. I have holding off on starting F until we begin our new year in August. In the meantime, DD is enjoying doing different math. I haven't ordered F or G yet as I wanted to look into or hear some reviews first. We have been happy so far with some hiccups along the way, but overall it has been working for us.
  25. My children are not there yet, but this would be how I would handle it. 1. Children are all old enough that they can in on the solution. Maybe frame the situation, and say hey how can we work this out so everyone can be most comfortable as can be in a small house. Depends on the person, of course, but college DD or 17yo DS may say, "I'm hardly ever home, the sofa is good with me." Rather than feel leftout, pushed out, or a visitor, they have a say in their home. This would be my first choice. 2. I would probably have blood siblings share rooms. I know not everyone is okay with mixed sex siblings sharing, but my family would be okay with it especially since it would not be permanent. Adult son with college sister and then adult son with 17yo. I probably would do bunk beds and which ever sibling is living their day to day, I would let them choose which bed. For the most part, the "visiting" children would not be there, but I would want to make them feel like it was still home to them by having a bed and a spot(s) for their things. In particular I would not want the 17yo to feel like a visitor in my home whether that child was my biological or step.
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