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  1. Same here. It tells me I have 3 textbooks to return. It doesn't show me the deal... off to hunt down there textbooks from the kids that came home last night. :lol:
  2. There is no max. From their website: "Ninety percent of each entering class must demonstrate financial need. For only ten percent of each entering class, the financial need requirement is waived." Most of the families I've known with kids who have gone there have two working parents and probably typical median household incomes. Most, but certainly not all, have one parent in ministry. I have one friend whose daughter was rejected after they accused her of lying about their income. They were self-supported missionaries living in the Democratic Republic of Congo, and they really were able to live on that small of an income there, so showing extreme need doesn't necessarily help either :mellow: .
  3. The only thing we ever needed was a camera (a phone is fine). Take lots of pictures. Dh was great about taking lots of shots so we had details of the dorm room, the beds, the bathroom etc. I think I did take a transcript everywhere and it seems like one school had misplaced dd's and took the one I was carrying, but we never showed them anywhere else. We got a few brochures, and often a t-shirt so a small bag was nice, but it isn't so much stuff that a bag is really necessary.
  4. I can't compare with Tabletclass, but I love MUS geometry for non-mathy kids. It is light on proofs, but covers all the geometry found in ACT/SAT testing. It was a very painless way to get through geometry here. I don't think it is a great idea if your child is likely to go on to Calc and needs a more thorough exposure to proofs, but as long as that isn't the case, it was perfect to check the box.
  5. My kids aren't there yet, but I am. I'm only applying to one school with an early March deadline, so I have a little time yet, but the application is done and I'm working on the supplemental materials. I've wondered if my oldest will go to grad school when he finishes his undergrad, but he has another year as a minimum before he would apply.
  6. Ds had a midterm grade of F in a class his first semester. He went to the professor and it was actually a B. Mistakes can happen. The teacher could have entered the wrong grading scale into Canvas or could have manually entered grades at the end of the course. ETA: I'd have her take a screen shot of the grade page on Canvas and email it to her professor with the question. If she gets no response, forward the email to the head of the department.
  7. Maturity and seeing a young adult as an adult was definitely a gradual process. There is no mark they hit that says "Wow, they are an adult now!". PawsforMe represented my experience pretty well too, although one of my has multiple LDs and was a bit slower to mature and was less responsible along the way. I can't really name any rules we ever had in our house. We ran by the general concept of mutual respect. There were never chores, just things that needed to be done and everyone pitching in as they recognized those things or were asked. My kids never had curfews, but in this age of smart phones, they were expected to keep us posted if there was anything out of the ordinary going on. My adult kids don't live here, but when they are home on breaks I still expect them to help out as needed and to let me know if they are going to be gone for any period of time that impacts the family (i.e. I won't be home for dinner tonight). I wondered if it would be hard when they came home after being gone the first year, but it really wasn't a big deal. We're pretty relaxed and they had classes and/or jobs and kept their own schedules. ETA Having reread your initial post, if you are still treating your older teen as a child, it is time to start making some changes. It will be much harder on you and them if the change is a switch that flips giving them complete control. Let them begin to take control of smaller things so they are ready when the full responsibility of adulthood hits.
  8. You might also check AR. At least some of the state school in AR give in-state tuition to residents of all border states and their costs are low to start with.
  9. If/when my kids change majors, it is their concern as long as they recognize the financial limits we have for them finishing school :). Ds started with a writing major. We research schools based on creative writing programs. After he started, he realized he didn't like creative writing classes because there was too much unwanted structure/ forced topic etc. He'd taken all the creative writing classes required already, so he kept the major, but added multimedia production which was in the communications department. This used to be a journalism/production degree and while he loved the technical classes, he hated the journalism focused writing. So, he dropped that major and decided wanted to add a Graphic Design major - but by then couldn't finish that in 4 years, so he added a graphic design minor instead. He did add an English major to his Writing major because it was easy to do. His minors have been a crazy ride too. He started thinking he would minor in Asian studies (he took Japanese at the local state U DE during high school). Then switched to philosophy just because he enjoyed it and was taking the classes anyway, then got tired of philosophy (2 classes short of the minor) and added the graphic design minor. I think I'm leaving out one minor somewhere there, but you get the idea. Through all of that, he will still graduate in 4 years with a double major and a minor and he is happy. That's all I ask.
  10. I've been really happy with Chewy too, but I met a breeder that told me that she had an auto order for 10 cases of canned puppy food, then realized she wouldn't have any puppies that needed it the following month. She went to change the auto order, but was too late, so she called Chewy and asked if she could return it. They told her they would refund it and she should donate it to a local shelter. It was a couple of hundred dollars worth of food.
  11. I considered that option for the same reasons. Ds ended up on campus but only 45 minutes from home. I provided far more than typical support, but he was able to step up each year. I made the deal with ds that he would try one semester and if he hated it, he didn't have to go back. At the end of one he wanted to go back for spring. At the end of spring he wanted to quit, but it turned out there were some specific struggles and I was able to help him overcome them and he decided to go back after all. The next year was better and he never considered quitting again. This year has been the best yet and I haven't had to give any extra support. You might see if you can convince your ds to try one semester. If it doesn't work, the military options will still be available in January :).
  12. I have two different perspectives on this. One is my ds who went through similar struggles, lacked confidence and almost backed out of college with cold feet. He is ASD and one AP was enough and he and I both wondered how he would do full time college. The first year was a little rocky, but he survived and now he is a junior bringing in great grades and thriving. It was necessary to push him a bit. It always has been. On the flip side of that coin is my nephew. He has no disabilities, but is a hands on kinda guy and really didn't want to go to college. He considered firefighting and law enforcement. He joined the Air Force reserves and was trained as an MP (they call it something else in the AF but that's what he is) and has served in UAE and in Puerto Rico after the hurricane (as base security). He has loved it and is now going to college with the plan of going into LE. I know my sister prefers AF to LE because it seems safer these days, but either way. The AF has been great for him. All that to say, I have one close to me who has done it both ways. It worked both ways. If you or he wants to hear more about ds's experiences going to college with struggles, feel free to pm. I don't post details here. But he is glad he did it. Nephew is glad he did AF and will get that degree eventually. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer.
  13. Congratulations on your new venture! I love to see homeschool moms who have already been generous with their time and expertise here, start teaching online and offering new options for homeschoolers! I wish you and your students great success!
  14. We didn't find the honors program to be worth replacing the few electives that nursing students get, not to mention that dd, like all the nursing students she knows, spends nearly all her time studying without it. One of the great benefits of honors programs for most students is early registration, but at dd's school, nursing students are assigned a schedule, so there is no gain there either. I don't think an honors degree would make a BSN more employable or receive higher pay after graduation. Unless your dd would really enjoy the time spent in the required honors courses, I'd be quick to let her skip it.
  15. I lost mine, but in my defense, it required a 3.75 to keep. Ds needed a 3.0 to keep his when he started college, then they lowered it so that as long as you are in good academic standing (not on probation) you keep all merit aid at his school. I think this is fantastic. It is a private college and many people would have to leave if they lost their scholarships.
  16. As someone applying for an Grad Assistantship, this was bad news. However, I'm applying for that assistantship at a local state U, where the tuition value is relatively low and we can handle the taxes. For many kids getting an assistantship at an expensive private college, will mean having to take out loans to pay the taxes. For some, it will mean they can't accept the position because the taxes will be more than they can pay. This is sad and it is a ridiculous place to find tax money.
  17. I recognize that for certain professions, school prestige matters. However, I think this is the exception not the rule, particularly here in the midwest, where there are no prestige schools. In fact, regionally, I would say that prestige is scoffed at more than it is valued, although again, there are professional exceptions. Dh and I both went to a state University. It has never held either of us back in any way. One of my kids is in a private school and one at a State U, but neither are prestigious. The idea of attending college hundreds of miles away to gain a degree with prestige never entered their minds and particularly for my BSN major, would make no sense at all. I guess whether or not prestige is overvalued depends on how it is valued. In my area and in my experience, prestige has no value at all. Someone might say wow, in response to a diploma from an Ivy on a job app, but they are no more likely to hire that person, and I have seen cases where they are actually less likely to do so.
  18. My family all loves pecan pie and I make it every Thanksgiving. I will also make pumpkin because I love it and rarely have it any other time. Last year I made a turtle cheesecake as well, but I haven't decided what my third dessert will be this year. I do know with the number I have coming, two pies is probably not enough.
  19. I actually had a friendship that I found difficult to maintain because the other mom's child was too perfect. She was convinced her dd's perfection was all her doing and that everyone else's kids were horrible because their parents were doing such a lousy job of parenting. My oldest was autistic and he was HARD. She always made me feel like such a bad mom, but when kids weren't around we were fine. Things did improve dramatically when she had a son about 7 years later. She suddenly realized that all kids weren't quiet and patient and couldn't be forced into that mold. Some kids are loud and clingy, rough and wild, and most of them are boys. If you can't enjoy time with your friend with kids, look for what time you can with your friend without kids or in locations where rowdy boys can't hurt your dds' things. Recognize you have no idea how difficult her life is or just what she is doing to try to work with the kids and their behavior when you aren't around. Give her grace when you can and keep yourself out of situations where you know her kids will exceed the limits of your grace, if possible. The friendship will suffer, but odds are, her kids will improve. My sister's kids were undisciplined terrors. I thought they would be nightmares forever. They grew up. They are wonderful adults and I'm very proud to know them and glad that they never learned how much I hated being around them when they were little :lol: .
  20. I didn't set parameters outside of my financial contribution for my kids. They set all the others. Each had their own set of parameters based on: majors/program quality location school size dorm options community size/type I don't think that parents should set any of those parameters though. A college student is an adult. The only thing I put limits on was how much I could pay. The education they wanted, where they wanted to get it, etc was their choice. I was happy that one of my kids stayed close to home and the other is just 3 hours away (still fairly close). I think they both chose colleges that were a good fit for them and they are both thriving in the environment they chose.
  21. I had one that did this with no regrets, and one that later learned something about her first choice school that made it fall from favor. She then did a late application elsewhere and it cost her scholarships. I would encourage one backup application "just in case" from our experience.
  22. This is exactly what I did with my kids. Meningitis is non-negotiable for my college students. Our family isn't big on going to the doctor and we tend to try to sleep off illness or wait it out. Usually, this means we avoid unnecessary antibiotics and exposure to the other germs that are in doctor's offices, but it is a potentially deadly behavior with meningitis, and meningitis is just too high of a risk in a college dorm! Dh is the only one in my family to ever have had the flu. I seem to have a natural immunity and so far it appears I may have passed that to my kids as well. Dd who has asthma is the only one who has ever had a flu vaccine. She chose to skip it this year despite her doctor's and my suggestion she should have it. She did get HPV. Ds has had neither, and like the OP's son, at 20 he thinks he will never have a girlfriend or be at risk of HPV. He too is ASD. These are grown-up decisions and people over 18 get to make them for themselves.
  23. Professor RobBob was how ds I and learned when he took AP stats through PA homeschoolers. The video lessons were much more helpful than the typed lessons provided by the teacher. Pairing his lessons with a book (you could ask him what he uses so you'd get the order the same) would give you a good introduction without any exam prep jammed in.
  24. We did it, but got no reward. Dd's school does have a transfer scholarship that is automatic with PTK membership, but they wouldn't give it to her because her credits were DE, so they didn't consider her a transfer. She decided against the honors society membership she was offered at her 4-year university.
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