Wow! Congratulations!

"For if you suffer your people to be ill-educated and their manner be corrupted from their infancy, and then punish them for those crimes to which their first education disposed them, what else is to be concluded from this, but that you first make thieve then punish them." Thomas More Utopia Crime and race is a multi-faceted problem. There is nothing inherently lacking in blacks to make them extraordinarily subject to law breaking, those statistic are a symptom of a huge societal problem. Many people are quick to point out the statistics of the end result of a country failing its people while glossing over the cause.

Exactly. Maybe it's my growing up in the real world along with those closest to me that make it hard to relate to the distant but not too distant utopia. Nor am I coming from the down and hard trodden life of the oppressed. Being biracial the man I love more than life itself who showed me how I was to be treated in this world is white. Him and his culture is also ingrained deeply into who I am but I still lived with my eyes wide open and keep wondering when this magic time that also includes only one lynch mob and no acts of abuse. I guess there would be no whining in that space and time.

Well not really ALL of "we" were better off in the good ol' days. My grandfather probably remembered those time a little different. Praying in a school that was subpar because he wasn't allowed to mix with whites. Getting spanked not only by his parents but also other adults who never stopped calling him "boy" no matter how old he was. His wife stayed home with other people's children trying to supplement the less than fair wage he had to live off. Putting out the burning cross on the Church lawn every Sunday before service. Friends and family systematically raped and hung from trees to thwart anyone who wanted to take too much pride in their country and dared to fight to protect it. Putting the his equally valuable life on the line in military service with those who made it their mission to show he was not wanted. Crimes were punished 100% of time whether or not they actually had the right suspect. Teens killed many other teens, toddlers and parents usually under the guise of a white hood and school bombings were often more common than shooting and usually the victims were treated like criminals. Too bad he never got to see those wonderful days you mentioned I'm sure he would have loved them

DH has been out of town for 3 weeks now and DS2 just asked for popcorn. I'm about to be the best mom ever..... :rofl:

I am Ok with the swift reaction of the public and the Commissioner. The country was made aware, players were made aware, fans were made aware and the next generation was made aware of his beliefs. Every generation in America has borne witness to racism and every generation has been progressively aggressive with their response. All the way from "Yes sa boss" to this incident. Whining by definition is to protest or complain in a child like fashion. I personally don't see standing up for racism child like. For those who have never know oppression intimately it might be kind of hard to understand the satisfaction when at the end of the day after the ugliness was put out there to sit back and see that not only does the affected community not agree but neither does most of the country. The minor irritation of those who are not even affected is a price worth paying for forward progress.

I can wait to see it. I loved the book. Is it as much of a tear jerker?

I did and I got reformed Judaism. I am willing to look and read into it, ironically enough Judaism did interest me when I first began to question my Pentecostal faith.

This subject REALLY bothers me. I want to believe everything in the bible so much. I was raised in church and my father used to preach to prisoners and my brother is now a literalist waiting for the rapture like a spiritual prepper but it didn't rub off on me. When answering my children's spiritual questions sometimes I even feel silly trying to explain subjects like heaven and hell and the holy trinity. Taking a religion class only made it worse. I can't get past the scripture "Jesus Christ is the same yesterday today and tomorrow" its what I go back to every time I see the changes that have happened to the Christian faith since its conception. The same the same the same. That means it doesn't change, the books in the bible don't change, the requirements don't change and cultural adaptation should not be changed, Catholic stances on subjects don't change. Something 500 years ago might have landed you in hell for eternity but now its ok, so in theory there are poor souls burning forever because they were born in the wrong century......or if they do get a pass once its deemed acceptable, do we get passes when 300 years from now the moral Christian compass changes yet again? So if all of it isn't 100% true I cant help but think non of it is. Also, humans are not as smart as we think we are so why couldn't we be granted the luxury of skipping all the stories that shouldn't be taken literally since we are most easily a literal race. I mean its our eternal souls on the line! He had his son killed for us but we were not granted a straight to the point way of insuring its not in vain. Just spell it out exactly how we should save it. Still I believe in a God and still fear hell because it was so ingrained in me growing up even though I'm not sure I believe in it. Such and odd place to be lol

Yes, this sounds pretty accurate. I just couldn't step out of the situation enough to see it. I was too hung on the fact that (slightly to my chagrin) she never rocked the boat at school. She had to move down a color 1 time in Kindergarten and cried until she hyperventilated, thus ending her brief stint on the wild side and then went to the complete opposite spectrum regardless of the issue at home.

DS is almost 14 and within the last year or so impulsiveness has become an issue even though it really hadn't been in the past. Im guessing hormones might be playing a bigger role than we thought. At this stage we recently considered going back to meds but have been so slow to act trying to see it will work its self out while we drag our feet.

Also, are woman allowed to pray in front of their husband or any man?

Do you have to wear that when you pray at home too or out at a mosque?

The first time DS tried focusing on math while on the medication and his face lit up, it broke my heart. I felt so bad that he was just then experiencing what most of us take for granted. I got tears of joy seeing him believe finally that he was in fact not stupid like he previously insisted.

Thank you for clarifying! I truly speculated over that for awhile.

After years of trying nearly everything we went ahead with meds for my DS. He is ADHD inattentive so there was no change in his behavior but the first week he was over the moon when math was "easy". We (us, the school, therapist) just used the time he was able to give undivided attention and helped him hone skills that could help long term. He only took them school days and for about 3 years then he felt he could manage without them. I wish their had been a more natural route that had worked but his self-esteem improved tremendously so I will never regret our decision ETA The only thing that I ever felt got at least some results were these tables from whole foods called calmed child.

Are you allowed to own a dog? And is wearing a hijab an absolute must? (I'm guessing it is but I know converts who don't and I never knew how to ask them if they are in fact completely Muslim or just practicing certain aspects of it)

Flummox- to confuse I was looking up words while playing bookworm lol

I watched a documentary that said how much blood flows to that part of the body is directly linked to heart health and not age. The guy/Dr. explaining it was in his 70 and boasted no issues down there lol

Thank you for all for your insight. I think I will try and be more clear when it's a choice and when it's not. My goal with the tentative schedule was not to be arbitrary or petty but to give everyone a sense of what can be expected through the day. I'm new to this and still have a ton to research but haven't found a satisfying way to make math, spelling and LA something that doesn't require my attention. Doing all the reading for LLTL right before DS goes down for his nap really works for us because he is usually content with sitting in my lap and DD does the copy work while I go lay him down. Today math got put there and it was less than stellar trying to keep a cranky child away from the manipulatives that were in use. I respect HSing can be tailored in every area but I also would like for her to learn understand during this time that being part of a family means to give and take. It's not always going to be what she wants when she wants. So right now I will try letting her pick the order she does non teacher intensive activities but math, LA spelling and science/history will be pretty set.

There is and can be some flexibility in her day but with a VERY ALL BOY 2 year old its not plausible. It works best when it switches from a teacher intensive subject to non teacher intensive etc. or a couple of non teacher intensive subjects like handwriting and Latin then math. I have to juggle between the two of the them and leaving the little one to his own devices for too long spells disaster for all. Subjects like science really only works when he is sleep especially if there is an experiment. In school she had NO choice and was completely fine here she has some control and its not enough.

She will be 7 the end of July

Sort of but not nearly as bad. She is trying to have a greater aversion to not getting her way.

My DD had a great attitude during the time she was in public school all of Kindergarten and the entire part she was in first grade always came home with her behavior folder on "green". She wasn't challenged at all and afterschooling became a pain so we cut out the middle man and started homeschooling. It's been almost 2 months and she is constantly exhibiting bratty behavior. For example, today she wanted to do art first thing in the morning I say "OK" She started out drawing then switched to water paints. I let her know she had 20 mins...then 10...then time to get started. She wanted more time to fold the paper :glare: 3 minutes later. I'm insistent we get started. instant sulk face and attitude. I ask she get out the Latin, but she wants to do spelling "OK". Next, I ask she get out Latin, no she wants handwriting "OK". Then I try again with Latin and she cuts me off looking for anything else to do instead. Not because she doesn't want to do Latin just to be contradictory. Latin is MWF so yesterday wasn't a Latin day and as you guessed that's what she asked to do when I asked to get out a different subject. We've had a parent/teacher-child relationship since forever being she was one of the 3 going on 5 kids who started K ahead of the curve and afterschooled since K to keep her challenged so its not a getting used to the new roles type thing (I don't think). At school always bright faced and eager to please, here the sulk face at the first "no" and constantly going against the grain just because. I don't get it. I've suggest she go back to PS and she said she didn't want to. So why the attitude?

No, I did not know that...but now that I do I think I will go off into the world today feeling intellectually superior!!