A little overwhelmed but not surprised. I actually feel a bit relieved to have the diagnosis and a clear picture of what is going on. They saw exactly what I was seeing in pretty much every area. The report says that his results might be affected by the impulsivity and behavior issues when things got hard, but he didn't feel like it was worth the expense of doing it again. Mostly I feel like I don't want to deal with it right now. My son is happier than ever since being on his meds and things have really been stabilizing around here. We're enjoying the pool and the beach and camping, and I really really really don't want to deal with it yet.

I'm wondering if this is another typo. The doctor didn't say anything about NVLD and I didn't notice it until I got home. I'm pretty sure they use old profiles and copy/paste these reports, so it is possible that it is a mistake. They also call my son "her" throughout the report, and there was one line in my older son's report saying he has autism when it clearly says in 5 other places that it was definitively ruled out. So maybe I need to call the office and check on that. His pragmatics are fine. My older son is communicatively disordered and may eventually be diagnosed with social communication disorder. I'm definitely familiar with those struggles with pragmatics, and this little guy doesn't have them. Maybe there is another component to NVLD?

Sorry, just saw this. Yes, they said dyslexia. They said the NVLD is for the school system/iep.

Fair Prospects said it much more succinctly: Professional Bias :) lol

I think the dyspraxia might be a typo now that I look at it. He only has articulation issues, no apraxia. And now that I think about it, the medical dyslexia might qualify him for private speech therapy through our insurance, so that's good. I don't know what to address first. LIPS? What is the accommodation for processing speed? More time? I thought the CTOPP results were pretty bad, too, so I was surprised by that the SLD reading was only considered moderate. Maybe because of his age? It might be because his IQ is average so there isn't as big a discrepancy as there would be if he was above average in that area.

Personally, I think this doctor is just a super high achiever and is of the mindset that we have to outsource to the best of the best. He wanted me to send our older son to one of several elite private schools, all of which are so out of our reach financially that it is laughable. There is just a disconnect between the ideal and reality. Either that or he's not accustomed to dealing with many parents who are willing and able to put in the work to learn to DIY. I don't know. Thank you so much for your suggestions regarding his self-confidence. I could get him a Kindle for audiobooks, and I'm sure he would love to have more access to that. I almost feel relief now that I know that I can go way out of the box with this kid. My mind is racing with ideas. :)

DS6 was just diagnosed with moderate dyslexia. I'm relieved to finally have it diagnosed, and I have a bit of a plan from reading these boards, but I would love any help you can give me with these test results. ----------------------------------------------*Deleted detailed testing info for privacy reasons. Thank you SO much for your help!--------------------------------------------------- I'd appreciate any specific recommendations for the dyslexia, as well as help prioritizing where to start. What stands out to you as the most pressing need?

Update: Just got the results of testing. He has dyslexia and pretty severe dysgraphia. Ruled out asd, confirmed ADHD. No real surprises. I am soooo glad to have caught this early! I'm going to post later with questions about the results, but I just wanted to thank everyone again for your help and update this for anyone who stumbles on this later. Deep breath... 😎

Yes! We're military and we move a lot, so we don't even have backup in terms of family or close trusted friends. DH and I are "on" all the time. So I really do need to outsource some things and find *good enough* for the rest.

Yes, this. This is the crux of the issue.

Yes, I'm worried that my kids would be bored silly, too. And that will bring on more behavior challenges. Everything I read about kids like mine says they need more academic freedom and more hands-on learning situations. I just don't know how to work with this and still maintain my sanity. :)

Yes, I do all of this, though I'm sure I could do more. The three oldest kids have their own desks in the schoolroom. I work with the little one at a small table in another room. They have checklists, calendars, places to put completed work, schedules, etc... But like I said, they require constant supervision and direction to make sure they are doing what they are supposed to be doing. I can't do that while I'm teaching other kids and supervising the toddler. But I also can't teach in the same room with other kids because it is too distracting for them. We used to have timers but they lost one and broke two. We're zoned for a great (overcrowded) school in a great district in a great state. I'm trying to compare what I can realistically offer at home vs what the school can realistically offer. Thank you. Frazzled and overwhelmed are good words. We all do really well when I stick to a strict schedule and a super structured environment, but that takes so much energy to maintain that it is hard to stick with long term. How are your kids doing in school? How has it been having one at home and some at school?

Uggh, I keep editing my previous post but I can't seem to fix the wonky formatting!

----------------- (edited for privacy)----------------------------- Right now we mostly do the basics and read a lot. They love science and do a lot of Thames and Kosmos kits on their own. I tried Exploration Eduation with my 6th grader but she left her project and the kit out and her little brother destroyed it. Each lesson and project builds on the last, so science was ruined for the rest of the year. When I'm working with another kid they either disappear (not working on their assignment) or destroy something, depending on which kid we're talking about. :) They just really need a lot of supervision and direction.

My kids need a highly structured environment, and there are just too many of them. :) They crave lots of discussion and mom-time, but there are simply too many disruptions and demands on my attention. DH has adhd and thinks a super structured dvd curriculum is the way to go. I think it might be boring, but IME my gifted side was satisfied with stimulating people and experiences outside of school rather than my gifted classes (or even accelerated or honors classes for that matter). I also think all of the drilling and memory work would be good for their working memory/processing speed issues. But I also worry about an entire year of kids whining that school is boring, too hard, too much work, or too long. (PS is always on the table, but I'm not wanting to explore that in this thread.) I guess I've just never heard of anyone with ld or 2E kids going this route, and I'd like input on the validity of that option for adhd/ld/gifted kids. Thanks!

INTJ. It seems a little anticlimactic at this point. 😋

Try looking for positions as a peak-time teller in a bank. Dental office Office or non-instructional position at a local public school Have you asked around at your kids' school?

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Go with SWB's suggestions. FLL 1-4 followed by R&S. FLL has more memory work and is just overall a lot more pleasant for a young child. R&S is open-and-go and thorough, but it can be dry and tedious, especially if you use it year after year after year.

Do you think another year of Saxon would have been better prep? How does she feel about the switch? I could, of course. ;) I guess I'm afraid to discourage her or destroy her fledling confidence.

You're at that "not normal" point now. Documenting everything is a great idea and I hope it helps your and your husband get on the same page. Your feelings are normal for a situation where things aren't quite right. One of my adhd+ kids is like this. But I didn't see the sweetness much until we got his sleep under control. The kid never slept, even as a baby. He just COULD NOT turn himself off. This past year (5 y/o) a doctor finally started taking us seriously and had us put him on melatonin and a strict bedtime routine. He was a game-changer for us. Now he consistently gets 11-12 hours of sleep at night. He is sweet and fun and cheerful for the first time ever. But he still has adhd and sensory issues. He's still impulsive and emotional. He takes a lot out of us, but it is different now because we no longer feel like we can't cope. At age 3, I think the recommendations are 12-14 hours of sleep per day. If your child isn't getting that consistently, that would be a great place to start. (PM me if you want the recommendations our doctor and sleep specialist gave us.) I don't know where you live, but my state sponsors several clinics that do full-service evals if you have enough red flags for autism or autism-related disorders. From what I understand they have really tightened the range of the spectrum, but there are still kids on the outside with issues that need support. Honestly, I know very little about these things and I rely on my kids' NDP and his team to help us make sense of things. FWIW, I'd drop the word "autism" from your conversations with your dh and switch to more general language. None of my kids have autism, but I do have three with adhd and lots of bonus issues that weren't even on our radar. :) Those evals were invaluable. I completely understand that they aren't an option for you right now, but I think I'd quietly cast a wider net and see if there are any free or low-cost options available to you. I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and I don't think you're crazy. My husband was pretty resistant to pursuing evals for another one of our children until that child got much older and it was super obvious that there was something going on. Even his doctor kept blowing me off. We both really wish we had aggressively pursued help earlier because it took a lot of stress off of our marriage and our relationship with our child. Good luck! (edited for typo)

Don't laugh. :) :) DD has always hated math, even in our Singapore years before she started the Saxon sequence. We've stuck with Saxon through 7/6 and in the past year things have finally clicked with her. She's consistently getting 90%+ on her tests and daily work. I've always taught her conceptually, so it isn't all plug and chug. But obviously she doesn't have the sophisticated problem-solving skills or mental math capabilities she might have had if she'd gone through a different elementary math series. It seems crazy to consider AOPS Pre A for a kid like her, but I'm hoping it isn't too late to awaken in her a love of math (especially now that she's got some confidence). And she absolutely ADORES the RR videos. I've looked at some of the samples and it really doesn't look scary to me. I don't want to throw her in the deep end, but I'd like to try. She's a fun, language-oriented kid with a quirky sense of humor. She isn't math-oriented like some of my other kids, but I feel like she may love upper-level maths if I can get her there intact. :) Anyone done this? How did it go? Thanks!

How is his sleep? Is he able to fall asleep on his own at a reasonable hour? Does he stay in bed at night? Does he nap or rest during the day?

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Go camping/tubing at one of the springs near Gainesville. There are lots to choose from.