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  1. NewIma

    Giving Up

    Thank you for this. I've been grieving and processing all week and told myself this yesterday. I homeschooled because it was the best path I could offer my kids at the time. If public school is better for her now, that is continuing to give dd the best situation for her at this time.
  2. NewIma

    Giving Up

    I'm so sorry you guys are struggling with this too. It is so difficult, and so frustrating to keep putting in so much effort to build teen community and not having it develop.
  3. NewIma

    Giving Up

    Thanks for this. It does seems like kids are less invested in hanging out with friends in general. I'm guessing it is screens too... She is in lots of other activities-dance, girl scouts, youth group, etc. But none of those things seem to lead to more intentional relationships. The other kids have school friends they see everyday and another kid they see 1x a week is more of an afterthought. There is no malice in that! Just that they are naturally going to prioritize the kids they see everyday.
  4. I was homeschooled from 3rd-12th. I've homeschooled my kids from the beginning and the are now dd17 in 11th grade, and dd13 in 7th grade. Dd17 will graduate as a homeschooler and wants to become a Medical Laboratory Scientist. I am proud of the education my kids have received and for the freedom homeschooling has given them. Now I am thinking of sending my dd13 to public High School. I am so tired. Not of homeschooling, but how freaking hard it is for my kids to find friends. We don't fit into the large conservative Christian homeschool communities in our area. If we did there might be enough teens in our circle to make friends. As it is, we know 4-6 homeschooled teens and they couldn't really be bothered. They don't respond to texts. They don't make plans. They would rather be home alone. My kid always has to initiate everything. Other parents don't seem to care either. It all feels so forced and awful. My dd17 honestly doesn't have a single real friend. She has tried so hard. She is lovely and welcoming and funny. The other homeschooled teens just can't be bothered with putting any effort into friendships. I don't want to put my dd13 through this. It isn't fair. I always thought I would homeschool forever, but we are going to a charter school open house for her next week. I can give her a better education at home, but having friends does matter. I'm heartbroken, but too exhausted to keep fighting this fight. Thanks for listening.
  5. My dd12 and I still like to get cozy and enjoy Christmas picture books together. We have, however, one problem. She doesn't like Christmas stories that make their readers teary. Her favorite is Mr. Willowby's Christmas Tree and we read that over and over last year as she doesn't want to read my other favorites. For those who like emotional Christmas stories, my list of favorites is below! Please share any suggestions you have for books to expand our Happy Christmas repertoire! Picture books through middle grade novels all appreciated! Fabulous Emotional Christmas Stories: The Clown of God by Tomie dePaola Christmas Tapestry by Patricia Polacco Uncle Vova's Tree by Patricia Polacco The Miracle of Jonathan Toomey by Wojciechowski The Christmas Day Kitten by James Herriot The Gifts of the Magi by O. Henry
  6. I've put together my list of materials that I've used to teach my children American History, and thought someone else may find it useful. It contains living books, documentaries, novels, and films to engage kids 3rd grade-8th grade in US History. I hope it helps someone! American History Upper Elementary/Middle School Book List Indigenous Stories: Turtle Island: The Story of North America’s First People by Yellowhorn Birchbark House Series by Louise Eldrich Kaya American Girl Series Jamestown-Early Colonists: Written in Bone by Walker 1607: A New Look at Jamestown by Lange Pocahontas by Jones Colonial Period: Bound for America by Haskins Building a New Land by Haskins Women of Colonial America by Miller Fort Moses by Turner Revolutionary War: King George: What Was His Problem? By Sheinkin Shh! We’re Writing the Constitution by Fritz Yellow Fever: An American Plaque by Murphy Lewis and Clark Expedition: Lewis and Clark PBS documentary War of 1812: The War of 1812 PBS Documentary Star Spangled by Grove Slavery: Jefferson’s Sons by Bradley Harriet Tubman: Conductor of the Underground Railroad by Petry The Life of Frederick Douglas by Walker The Civil War: Two Miserable Presidents by Sheinkin Pink and Say by Polacco Gettysburg: The Graphic Novel by Butzer The Address Documentary Suffrage: Rightfully Ours by Hollihan Child Labor: Kids at Work: Hines by Freedman Newsies Movie Counting on Grace by Winthrop David Copperfield Masterpiece Theatre World War 1: The War to End All Wars by Freedman Treaties, Trenches, Mud, and Blood by Hale Prohibition/20’s: What were the Roaring 20’s? by Mortlock The Dragon’s Child by Yep Against the Odds: The Artists of the Harlem Renaissance PBS Documentary Harlem Stomp by Laban Carrick Hill Poetry for Young People Langston Hughes Depression/New Deal: What Was the Great Depression? by Pascal Bud, Not Buddy by Curtis Wild Hearts Can’t Be Broken Movie World War 2: Attack on Pearl Harbor by Shelley Tanaka What was Pearl Harbor? By Demuth Who Were the Tuskegee Airmen? By Smith What Was D-Day? By Demuth Diary of Anne Frank Civil Rights Movement: My Story: Rosa Parks Autobiography Through My Eyes by Ruby Bridges Who Was Martin Luther King Jr.? by Bader What Was the March on Washington? by Krill The Cold War: What Was the Berlin Wall? By Medina The Wall: Growing Up Behind the Iron Curtain by Sis The Butter Battle Book by Seuss Balloon (movie) Vietnam: What was the Vietnam War? By O’Connor Space Race: Who Was Neil Armstrong? By Edwards Hidden Figures film Apollo 13 film with Tom Hanks 80’s: Who Was Ronald Reagan? By Milton What is the AIDS Crisis by Medina 90’s and 2000’s: What Were the Twin Towers? By O’Connor What Was Hurricane Katrina? By Koontz President Obama’s Victory Speech Dream Big Dreams by Souza Who is Hillary Clinton? by Alexander
  7. I hope it went smoothly today. We just discovered my dd15 has a huge lip tie. We had a horrible time for the first 3 months of nursing and now I wonder now if this lip tie is why? We discovered the lip tie, 15 years later, because the lip tie was so strong it has pulled the gum down off her bottom front teeth. She had gum grafting done last week to repair the damage. I'm glad this is on your radar and that you are getting it checked out!
  8. I am on my second Mirena and will encourage my kids to get one. Insertion is easiest during your period, as the cervix is slightly open. Both times i had a brief sharp pain (2 seconds) and then mild period like cramping for less than 24 hours. My periods started getting lighter immediately and after a year I only had very very light spotting for a day, every 3 or 4 months. I no longer have PMS or cramps. It has been glorious! The Mirena is more effective than even a vasectomy!
  9. Sending huge hugs your way. I have lived that struggle and it is heart wrenching. It feels like drowning 24/7. My dd16 struggled from severe anxiety and extreme unsafe meltdowns from the age of 4. I was afraid of medication and intervention, and didn't seek outside help until she was 11. She should have been on medication from the age of 8 at least. It has not been an easy road, and she still struggles with anxiety, but she is now a happy kid who enjoys life. Medication literally gave her a quality life. I know it is scary, but I remember holding dh 2 weeks after dd started medication and crying in relief that our child was having this painful burden lessened. One thing to tuck away is that there could also be a mood disorder component in addition to the anxiety. It took us years to figure out that piece, and it has made a huge difference for dd. ...
  10. I've thought about this too. If the friends were in public school, 1x a week would feel to them like they were acquaintances for sure. These friends are also homeschooled and I know the affection goes both ways. Dd is not a fan of texting, but they do do some. There was some conservative parenting book a while ago that was all about how to keep your kid more bonded to you in their teens than to peers. I never read it but I think it was discussed here. I never wanted that, but somehow I ended up with their ideal scenario. LOL DD still needs a lot of scaffolding in most areas of her life-academics, social, etc and I beat myself up that somehow that is my fault and that somehow I created that situation. In my kinder (to myself) moments, I think, this is where my kid is at, and she is just going to need a little more time, and that is ok.
  11. Thank you all. She is happy. I will hold onto that and work on letting my anxieties go.
  12. I was homeschooled from 3rd-12th and was very social. I was always making my own plans, talking on the phone to friends, etc. My dd16 has mental health struggles, including severe anxiety, which she is in ongoing treatment for. That, along with covid, has gotten us to a point where she takes almost no initiative to see friends. She has two good friends we see once a week so no arranging is needed. She is busy with Girl Scouts, Youth Group, and dance classes. She enjoys these activities but makes no effort to build relationships with the kids in her activities outside of the programs. She seems happy seeing her 2 good friends 1x a week and otherwise hanging out with us. For a long time I kept trying to organize friend events for her, but I've stopped. Is this within the realm of normal? Should I keep worrying or let it go?
  13. I am holding you all in my thoughts. One option to explore for quick cash is donating plasma. Unfortunately, you wouldn't qualify, but your husband and daughter might. The 1st month you can usually make close to $1000 with bonuses, and after that around $500 a month.
  14. Do you have any further insight on what they mean by this? How is equity compromised by learning after testing?
  15. Do things that bring you joy. That about sums it up! Thank you
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