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  1. Thanks for writing all of this out. Some of it really spoke to me. I think that alot of my clutter is items with a lot of use value but I have way too much redundancy. I just tackled our tremendous shoe pile. My ds15 built me some shelves. We hauled them all out into the yard and then did a big sort out. We probably had 200-300 pairs of footwear. I'm sure we have more shoes then our local thrift store! We took a picture. I'll upload it later. I pared it back to one pair of sandals, one pair of mud boots, one pair of sneakers and one pair of snow boots for each size. Gender neutral was favoured. Occasionally I kept a pair for each gender. They're now in nice rows on the shelves in storage. The rest is in boxes, ready for the yard sale. Then they'll fill up the thrift store. I think that the source of some of this problem, at least for us, has been that it been years of accumulation and much travelling. When we travel, things break or children grow out of things like shoes and then we buy new ones. When we get home I don't manage to get into the storage to see if we now have redundancy. We also do far too much thrift store shopping. When I find something that this is better than what I'm currently using I pick it up with the intention of getting rid of the old one but then I don't get around to it. That's why I now have five sewing machines. It's really quite stupid. I could probably also outfit two or three kitchens simultaneously. I'll get to the bottom of this. It's just going to take me a long time. I'm excited for the yard sale. I feel so determined to change this. I WILL!
  2. Thanks everyone for your ideas. I knew that getting some advise here would get my mind working and hopefully help me never be at this point again. Yeah that was me. We do live in an exceptionally small cabin (~800sq/ft) but we also have a single wide mobile home on our property that acts like a large shed/shop. I love this idea. I think that it would work for my personality. I'll tweak it a bit. I'm thinking that I might make a chart of all the chores and then list out how frequently they need to be done. Then when I'm home I'll just schedule them at whatever frequency they need to be done. We'll see though. I'm still working through how to handle this. I guess that I should go and get to it. :)
  3. How about a gift card to Hobby Lobby or some place like that.
  4. Here's my story. We've been out of town for several months for my husbands work. We arrived home last week and my eyes were opened to the incredible amount of clutter and filth that my family has been living in. I feel terrible about it. I'm realizing that I'm really bad at ordering my household. It's not as though we have dirty diapers lying around but there are cobwebs everywhere, dust on many surfaces that I've simple never dusted, crayons in the crevices, legos behind every piece of furniture, and just way too much stuff. Most of our stuff is sort-of organized but we're short on space so things tumble together. Both dh and I just hate throwing out stuff that might be useful someday. When I walk around with a cold assessment of our situation, I suspect that I have about a month of intense work to climb out of this pit. We're looking at the possibility of leaving the country for 6-9 months within a few months so I really want to get this dealt with before we would leave. I also have a slew of little children. To add insult to injury, I suspect that I'm on the spectrum with some executive function issues. I've tried fly lady before but it really didn't work for me. I think that I intuitively realized that if I took the advise of focusing on one room each week that I would hyper fixate and the other rooms would fall to pieces before I got back to them. Are there alternative systems out there? I wonder, how do you all remember to do periodic chores like washing your sheets or mopping the floor? Do you just notice that they're dirty and clean them or do you have a system? I find that when I finally notice that they need washing I'm already preoccupied with some other work and then I don't get to them right away. Then a heap of these sorts of chores pile up on me and I feel like I'm sinking but then I ignore them so that my children actually get educated. I've been thinking of making a calendar and scheduling these sorts of chores alongside the daily chores. My older children do a fair share of the chores. I'd like to train my little ones to be more help but they're still really little. Dh is really busy and helps out however he can. I don't think that he has a minute more to squeeze out of his day. Thoughts?
  5. I voted "from the devil". I think that most of them are just nice smelling snake oil. I wonder if I could market that... "Now selling, authentic, essential snake oil." I could offer essential boa constrictor oil, essential rattler oil, essential cobra oil. Give it a 1/2 ounce size jar with a fancy label and have Mercola endorse it and it could be a hot seller. Anyone want to join my MLM company early?
  6. Have you see motherisk.org. That's my favourite site for lactation or pregnancy pharmacology questions. My dh is a gp and uses it whenever needed.
  7. Probably, assuming it doesn't smell funky at all.
  8. I would without any restrictions. I figure that if it could sit on the shelf for six months and not grow bacteria then why would it have in the last six months. Nothing can squeeze in through the walls of that carton to spoil it.
  9. If you're Christian you can also try Wycliffe's Bible and compare it to a more familiar translation.
  10. Heather Hazel Rose, or any of the plethora of variations Willow Brook Meadow
  11. Personally, I would tinker with the cooking times If for some reason your starter is not so healthy and your bread isn't rising as well then you will probably need to cook it longer. Dense bread takes longer to cook. You can just leave the bread in until a meat thermometer stuck in the center read 200F. Sourdough bread needs to get to a hotter temperature to finish. My other go to is to fall back on a recipe that you know works. Usually when something goes wrong for me it's because I've drifted, even unintentionally away from something that I know works. Maybe try my fail-proof recipe to try something different. 12 cups flour (usually I do whole wheat but it rise much better if it's half white) 1 heaping as full as you can go tablespoon salt 7 cups water if you're doing whole wheat, 6.5 if it's white or half white 3 cups active starter (less if the weather is warm) (That's right--no sugar, no yeast and no oil) Directions: Feed your starter mid afternoon. In the evening before going to bed (about 9ish here) mix the dry ingredients together then pour the water into the center, add the starter to the "puddle" and stir everything together. The dough should be just wet enough to incorporate all the flour with a mixing spoon, without having to knead it. Add a little more flour if you can easily do so with a mixing spoon. If you can't seem to mix all the flour in add some water instead. This is not a precise recipe but it works. The dough will seem ridiculously wet if you're used to standard bread but trust me here. Cover it over night. The next morning after breakfast, grease 4 pans and dump the dough out onto a floured counter top. Fold the dough in half to make it easier to work with. Do your best to form 4 loaves. Don't worry about perfection here. Let it sit covered for about 2 hours. Preheat your oven to 450F. Slice the loaves down the top--this make a huge difference to the rise. Place in the oven at 450F for 10 minutes then decrease the temperature to 375F and cook for another 40 minutes. Enjoy!
  12. I suppose that it would somewhat depend on how big or small the church is. In a small church the pastor will have a relationship with the person that he is counseling outside of the counseling session. Generally speaking, a counselor doesn't. I think that this would increase temptation. It probably also has to do with whether or not the minister has training in counseling. A trained counselor would more likely remain detatched. I'm most experienced with being in small churches.
  13. My big problem with the window idea is that it doesn't take into consideration that abuse isn't just a physical thing, iykwim. Much manipulation of vulnerable souls can happen behind a closed door with a window, like sly, seductive speech that can lead to other things down the road. This would be an especially great concern for me in the situation of a woman who is struggling with her husband. If the pastor becomes her confidant then the situation is ripe for temptation, from both sides. My vote is for a third party.
  14. Imo, (and I'm really not pushing it here) I believe in a plurality of elders, not one minister, and then I believe that when the church appoints them, the character of their wives needs to considered as much as their character.
  15. Here's a good article: https://www.thestar.com/opinion/star-columnists/2018/04/23/toronto-van-tragedy-bonds-city-in-blood-but-no-one-will-say-the-word-terrorism.html
  16. Personally, I think that counselling should be done with the minister and his wife. If for some reason he is single then another suitable couple should be found. I think that's why a deacon's wife "must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things." My church functions fairly differently then most standard churches though.
  17. I'm voting for the purple. Anytime it comes up just insist that she's nice now. It'll morph.
  18. For me it would probably depend on how many syllables were in the older child's name and whether or not the emphasis was on the last syllable. I have a boy name Silas and i completely nixed Titus, even though I like it because of this issue.
  19. Maybe. I wonder if the spin doctors will label him as mentally unsound as way of dismissing the attack as non-terror related. Canada is SO pro-immigration and we can't have terror here. It just runs completely against our national image.
  20. I think that it would be funny if she named him Jayden Emmett just to throw everyone off. :D
  21. My dh is ALWAYS the last one to leave after a church meeting. It doesn't matter if it's with our fellowship or we're just visiting somewhere I can count on being there quite awhile. I never really thought about minding it. It's just the way that it is. Usually I just find a lady to chat with or I sit and eavesdrop on his conversation while I entertain the children.
  22. Probably, but probably not loudly enough to alert the authorities. We're the same way and people definitely think that it's weird. It's not so weird for adults to shun social media but I would guess that ~99% of teenagers have some sort of social media these days.
  23. One suggestion that I have is that you try really hard to not say anything critical of a girl friend because you never know if she will become a daughter in law someday. My mil made that mistake and I still remember it today. If something needs to be said then let your dh do the job. A dil can probably handle it better from her fil.
  24. Both my highschooler probably won't be going to college. My ds 14 would make a great engineer but he is so hands on that the academic aspect would kill him. He's also almost certainly dyslexic/dysgraphc. He spends most of his spare time inventing things from trash, desoldering circuit boards to reuse the components or setting off homemade rockets in our back yard. I could see him becoming an electrician or a mechanic. With my 15yo dd, i don't really know yet.
  25. I'm not the original poster but tell me, did you have a negative mri at some point along the line? I had a crazy neurological episode myself this last fall and a negative mri. I still don't know what caused my symptoms and while they're mostly gone they're still there a little.
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