I told the children my doubts and wish I had not. I think the children need to be taught something concrete. They need it to be stable and consistent. If you are having doubts, sometimes, it is best to not pull the children in. We all have doubts at times, and at many times. The kids will have their own doubts eventually. Let them have their own doubts instead of bringing them in to yours. See what I am saying? Give them something concrete to stand on, as a foundation. And if they have their own doubts, let them have them. You can even be there for them, discuss it, and so on. But I do wish I had not shared all my doubts with my children.

Wow! I hope I was there! It sounds fun!

Our cleaning person starts tomorrow. She does not speak English well and works with her sister. She is very good. We only let her go for financial reasons. Now I am supposed to take it easy and managed to convince husband we NEED her now. I am very excited! She has a big job ahead of her. I have been taking it easy for a few weeks and was not that good at cleaning tubs and showers in the first place. :huh: SO...I pay her whatever she asks. Should I just leave it at that? Or maybe get her something like flowers? Or what? Or maybe nothing now (other than paying her) but when we have to stop having her again, get her a nice gift then?

I would get really angry with my husband and make it clear that I am serious. Your son was expressing his emotions and your husband was trying to shut that down. Being a man is not a good excuse for it,

Find a tv show you both like. Or sometimes, I will mention something from a message board and that can be a topic, If there is nothing left to talk about after that, have a cup if TeA.

I am kind of tired of the millennials right now. They are often living up to everything we hear about them. I keep hearing from other parents about their children pulling this stuff. My parents were actual bad parents, and I never would have gone back to them and told them that I blame them for everything in my life. I think I was too busy taking responsibility for my life to run and find someone else to blame. There is a message board...you all know it..reddit. Anyway, there are a fair number of posts from Millennials constantly blaming their parents for everything. I mean, claims that our generation had everything handed to them and they don't think they should have to work so hard. They make memes and post this junk. I just shake my head and hope the next generation is better. It is hard to teach children accountability when so much out there tells them they are victims all the time.

This time, she hit a small American Girl Doll. <cry> At least it was not one of the big ones. No matter how much I put scissors up, she finds another pair.

Today? Wedding day? Anniversary? We don't have expectations. But if someone did..then I would think those days would be the higher expectation days. I expect my TeA when I am desperate for labor. Or if you are TTC, he should definitely be willing to put out during ovulation.

First time you have TeA so he crosses on to your side! My husband and I each have our own different blankets and such. Same sheets on the bed. But the blankets are different.

These are excellent points. I found it odd when every single teacher's child seems to get high grades, with little effort. And the local mayor's child got caught with a gun on campus, with no discipline (it was in the news). The good ole boy network is definitely in place.

Our state ranks the local high school well and everything is pretty there. I do not think it is good. Here is why.... 1) sports run everything. Tons of funding goes in to the sports program, while they claim to not be able to afford enough academic teachers, like foreign language. Sports students run things. 2) kids with IEPs are not allowed to do extra-curriculars and cannot do any preAP or AP classes unless the teacher is willing. The teachers are not required to keep students with IEPs. 3) teachers are not required to do parent teacher conferences. If a parent has a concern, they generally cannot get a meeting. There is very little to no communication. 4) back to the sports. There are often mandatory pep rallies and everything on the bulletins pertains to sports. No one cares or mentions when someone does anything academic, like takes first place sweepstakes in an academic competition. Academics take a back seat to the sports. 5) several teachers do not have degrees in their teaching area. The school does not advertise this. However, it is public knowledge, somewhat. You can look up on the TEA website to see if they are at least certified in their teaching area. 6) "flipped classrooms" which really amount to teachers just being study hall monitors. The teachers who are in the flipped classrooms generally do not know much about the subject matter and cannot help the students. These are the main things. Our school ranked high because we live in a wealthy area where the parents pay for tutors and such outside of the school. And the school looks pretty. That is it. Why should my child go to school all day and then come home to tutors to actually teach the subject matter?

Yes, I read it that way too. It really bothers me, a lot. It adds a terrible stigma for people with ASD and something they have to fight against.

Sometimes, people are just rude. Sometimes, they are just uncaring. It is not a diagnosis. It is just the person. I wouldn't continue to be friends with that person. It is that simple. Giving them a label can make you feel justified to keep the friendship, despite the fact that it is bad. But, those two people are rude and self centered. That has nothing to do with ASD.

No, that does not sound like Aspergers. Aspergers does not mean being a jerk. It also does not mean a lack of empathy.

She also never indicated that she spoke to her parents. AND, she has only personally said they did not have a birth certificate for her. For all we know, this is just a campaign on behalf of the grandparents to attack the family. Grandparents attacking an intact functioning family, and trying to use the grandkids to do it, is way way more common that what is being proposed here by the girl. I am also curious about the date on this letter than has never been shown, where she claims the Bureau of Vital Statistics managed to receive her request for birth records, and review them, and do all these searches, and send back letter saying they couldn't find anything...dated a mere 7 days (5 business days) after she left her parents house. Even if she sent in her request the day she left, that would have given the government 5 business days to process and respond in a written letter. Has anyone even seen a copy of that letter? Regardless of the birth certification...the girl just keeps saying she doesn't have one. But she never mentioned asking her parents for one. Why not? And I have seen nothing "unstable" about anything the mother said on her blog about the girl leaving (I have not read the whole blog, just the portions printed in articles). If your child suddenly up and left like that, you would be heart broken too. No evidence at all has been presented that these parents did anything at all to their daughter. Just a daughter going on to youtube, with the encouragement of grandparents, to make a video to trash on her parents and spread across the world. AND..she refused help from HSLDA in the past? She can make a video to trash on her parents world wide..but she cannot even pick up a phone and speak to them? I think her actions say a lot about HER, not her parents. How we behave is a reflection of ourselves, not the people we attack. And all we have seen is her attacking her parents, with no evidence. Just something written up documenting what she has done to get a license. Funny thing is..she never documents trying to speak or contact her parents even once. She seems to just want to scream at the world ...look at my parents, aren't they bad? ..but she doesn't seem terribly interested in just asking her parents for anything. Strikes me as she is more interested in the fight than the results.

That is where the lies come in from HER. The parents cannot legally just do a name change for then entire family. She would have had to have signed off on it. In one place I saw where she said she changed her name, and in another where she says the parents changed her name. Regardless, she said she had a copy of the paperwork from that. I am unsure how anyone would do a legal name change without a name in the first place. But I do know her parents cannot sign anything to change the name of an entire family in one fell swoop in Texas...and especially not for any child who is 19 yrs old.

((((hugs))))

It is possible. But there is no evidence of anything and this entire thread is speculation. There is proof of things that are not true that the girl says. There is no proof that anything the mother has said isn't true. I am going to stop participating in this thread because there is no point. She states on her FB page that she now has a lawyer. Good. This will all get sorted out. Someone will be proven to be the liar. I have no clue which one. But there is no point to arguing it on a message board when there is no proof of anything.

So do you. You seem awfully invested. Why are you so sure the parents must have committed fraud against the IRS? Have you found anything online to back it up. I am in Texas. Criminal and civil proceedings are online. I found nothing against them.

According to her sister...Alecia is the problem here... Patience Pennington I am Alecia's sister. Two of her older sibling had no trouble getting drivers' licenses and I and another one of my siblings are currently working on it and are having no trouble getting the identification we need. We chose not to file birth certificates for religious reasons. Our parents felt it was best to give us a choice of having a SSN when we were older. There's no reason an infant should have to have one. The reason why Alecia is having so much trouble is that she is unwilling to have any kind of relationship with my parents and meet with them to work this out. Like · 5 · 22 hours ago Patience Pennington Actually no Asia. My parents have been kind and loving toward her. They don't agree with many of her choices but they don't judge her for them. I think you would be surprised how unconditional, gracious, and kind they have been toward her. Loving her like Jesus loves her. They aren't asking her to apologize or submit. They know she has different ideas and they're okay with that. All they're asking is that she speak to them. I'm really not trying to be rude, but honestly 90% of her communication has been either accusations of demands.

I am saying there is no evidence from either side. But the girl's story does not add up. I don't know why you are intent on proving the parents are bad. There is just no evidence, other than this one girl claiming this is going on. In the end, it might very well be true. It could go either way. But if the parents have really been tax evaders that long, why would they file a suit against the IRS? It seems to me that would put them on the radar. Why would anyone sue the IRS who is evading taxes.

I found no record of any criminal proceedings against the family. Do you have anything to show there are actual tax evasion records? I saw something where the dad has sued the IRS for copies of something. I did not read the whole thing though. But the dad is listed as the plaintiff. Why would the IRS have copies of anything if the dad has never filed? Plus the girl is listed in the census records in 2000.

Her FB page. And she would have to have a legal name to do a legal name change.... https://www.facebook.com/882732628415890/photos/a.883164955039324.1073741828.882732628415890/883164911705995/?type=1&theater Plus..while she took the time to post this letter she or the grandparents typed up, she did not bother to post the copy of the letter she claims she has from vital statistics stating there is no birth certificate.

The girl did a legal name change in November. How did she do that with no ID? How can you even do a legal name change if there was no legal name to begin with?

What is BPD/NPD?