:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I know this seems scary but cuddos for being so proactive and helping her make it through for so long. 80, I realize, may sound depressing but honestly as I understand IQ tests it is not the end of the world. I think you need to take some time to process and maybe plan on spending this summer and this next year kind of detoxing, resetting things to bring some joy back into the process of learning for both of you. I don't mean dump all academics but maybe approach things very differently this year, give yourselves a breather and a more engaging focus while you study where to go from here. Does she have any outside interests, anything that you two could pursue together? I would not be fretting about college right now. She is young. It may very much still be an option if that turns out to be a good path for her. Right now, though, I would be working to bring some joy into the learning process and to help her pursue her interests in some depth. She may have some talents that you haven't even tapped yet. Give her a chance to find and pursue things that matter to her. Those areas of interest may turn into an unexpected career. If not, they may at least give her something that keeps her interest alive in learning and may provide her with skills and knowledge she can use later in life for career options.

Oh, and in case anyone was interested, here is a list of math based board games from Soror's Relaxed Math thread: Math Card/Board Games Muggins Math Games Age 4- Nuclear Physicist :)- Zeus on the Loose Albert’s Insomnia 7 ate 9 Lab Mice Game Math Noodlers Number Ninjas Sum Swamp Sleeping Queens Math Dash Game- practice adding, subtracting, multiplying and dividing Money Bags Board Game Pizza Fraction Fun Dino Math Tracks Buy It Right Head Full of Numbers Hogwart's Shopping GAme HP themed shopping cards and lists along with suggestions for various games to play Real World Math: Unexpected Events by Teacher Created Resources tri-FACTa Multiplication and Division Gametri-FACTa Addition and Subtraction Game

Clue. Love Clue. :)

Oh, and as for your husband resisting evals, I get that. Mine did, too. We should never have waited as long as we did but we waited because my mom and my husband thought evals were a bad idea. They both agree now that we should have done it much sooner. You might read The Mislabeled Child by Brock and Fernette Eide. Homeschooling Your Struggling Learner by Kathy Kuhl might also help. This website might also be of benefit to you and it is run by a woman that used to post on here fairly frequently. She has written some books that might also be of benefit. http://learningabledkids.com/

FWIW, I never successfully memorized my times tables but ended up running the financial end of the family business. It may have slowed me down a bit in High School but it did not negatively impact my life beyond that. Now that I am teaching the kids and working with concepts and other ways of approaching learning math facts I find that some of those facts are finally sticking. Just rote memorizing never helped me, though. Good luck, OP. You are not alone. Hugs.

So are you going to sell your current home? Or rent it out? Are you are just renting this other home for the time being? Or do you see this as a long term move? If you were planning on living in this rental house for an extended period of time, and are very, very happy with the location and the house itself, then I think I would approach the landlord again with some requests in writing. Normally I have always had walkthroughs after taking possession of a rental property where I fill in a list of things I see that need repair. That way I am not charged for things that were not working to begin with. Are you going to be doing something like that?

I would be leery of living across the street from the landlord, especially if you are already getting some bad vibes regarding boundary issues, the level of clean that was promised is not even close to what was delivered, and the promised painting never happened. However, I would also want to make sure that I wasn't getting into some sort of legal/financial quagmire. If you don't want to consult a lawyer, I would at least very carefully, line by line, reread my contract. Were any of the things you had asked for included in the contract?

Good luck Amy! :) Oh, so that decluttering and culling down isn't so overwhelming, I found I did better if I first went through, picked a room and made a list of things I KNEW I would need before moving, things that are also going to need to stay in the house, not in storage. I kept that list tacked up in the room so something wouldn't accidentally get packed that shouldn't. I tried to be very realistic but also cull down as much as possible to the bare essentials. Then I started with three boxes and a big sturdy trash bag and just picked one room to focus on at a time (so I wasn't looking at the whole house and getting overwhelmed). Box 1: Stuff I know I do not want and intend to donate/sell. Box 2: Stuff I know I want to keep but I don't need right away. These are things I could keep boxed until the move. Box 3: Stuff I am in a conundrum about and can't decide. This is important. Without this box I may get bogged down and not make much progress. I set this box aside and don't think about the contents for a few days. I return to this box later and sort again. Many times the decision has become easier after having to sort through other rooms. And LABEL YOUR BOXES. In fact, I highly recommend writing up a list of contents for the boxes of things you will be moving with you. Have one of your children do this, maybe. Then make a copy. One stays with you and one is attached to the box. Moving companies have great clear pouches for this and they are self-adhering. Do you have a friend living in the city that might be willing to lend you their garage/driveway for a garage sale? I borrowed my SILs once. Her driveway/garage layout was way more conducive to a garage sale than mine and she was in an area that was also more attractive to garage sale hunters in general. I split the money with her for helping me out and she decided to have her own garage sale at the same time. Worked out well for both of us.

DD has been whipping out the cards and having me play Speed or Gin Rummy every time I sit down at a table lately. I do well with Gin Rummy but she smokes me with Speed. She is so darn fast! :)

I responded on the LC board but for the sake of anyone else who may read this I highly recommend getting an evaluation through a neuropsychologist to determine the specific issues and strengths your child is actually dealing with. Hugs. I know this is challenging. Getting solid answers can get you both on a more productive path.

Agree with above and I would add does your student have a strong area of interest that would tie in well with either American or World History?

Maybe a few months after we started (kids were going into 6th and 3rd when we officially started) but just because it popped up during a search for info. I got my info and left. I did not realize how much info was actually here or that it was a community or that the community is made up of many people from all over the world or that it is a huge supportive resource for homeschoolers, not just educators in general. My mom read WTM but she never found this site. We didn't connect her book with this site until I finally started hanging out on the LC board fairly often and realized what an amazing resource and community this really is. I had already been homeschooling maybe a year before that happened.

Hugs. I know this is hard for both of you. You need to get her evaluated. You need answers to her specific areas of strength and areas of weakness. Hopping curriculum won't net much without those answers. Right now you are only guessing. There could be a ton of things going on, all affecting how she is capable of learning and what approaches may work and which won't. If at all possible start with an eval through a neuropsychologist and try to find a good one. You want someone that will give you details, and analysis, not just numbers, and someone that is homeschool friendly since I assume you are homeschooling?

Decluttering and culling down on furniture, etc. will definitely help. Another thing you might consider doing is getting a house inspection. Normally the buyer will do it, but since you want to get the house sold pretty quickly once repairs are done, and you are going to do repairs before you put the house on the market, it may help to have a house inspector do an inspection. They can point out all the things that will probably come up in the inspection done by the potential buyer. You can then decide which things you are willing to repair right now, before you are dealing with trying to negotiate with a buyer and which you aren't. Knowing these things up front can really speed up the sale. It can also help prevent a sale from falling through because a buyer finds out something needs repairing that is time consuming and costly and they don't want to do it but you are out of time and don't want to do it either. We did that with two houses and even though the buyers went ahead and paid for another inspection, we had already taken care of 99% of the little stuff and with one house we also took care of two major things we didn't even realize were issues. There was very little the buyers could use to try and drop the price, there was nothing that they were unhappy enough with to stop the sale and since we showed them the results of our own inspection and what we did to address the issues, they trusted us and appreciated our efforts to make the house sell-able.

Agreed, an "as is" foreclosure means ALL repairs, no matter how serious, are the buyer's responsibility. Foundation issues can be enormously costly. You want a really, really thorough inspection of the foundation, not just a house inspection. You need a professional with a good reputation. And once a foundation has serious issues, it may be hard to repair for the long term. You will need a company that will warranty their work for an extended period of time and won't include a ton of clauses so they can wiggle out of that warranty. If you did end up buying this house, do the foundation work first. It may cause additional damage to the walls, etc. Once the foundation is repaired, THEN you can go back in and do whatever other work may be needed. I would have a thorough inspection of the plumbing and electrical wiring, too, by the way. If the foundation is shifting it can cause damage to other house infrastructure as well.

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Great-Aunt had Alzheimer's, paternal grandmother had Alzheimer's and maternal grandmother had micro-infarc dementia. Dementia of any kind is awful but especially Alzheimers. Hugs to all who have dealt with it and to all those who may face it themselves someday.

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: You are on a challenging journey. You have had some great advice from parents who have been where you are. I, too, highly recommend finding another professional to help you with your child. I made the mistake for far too long of listening to those who said they had my kids' best interests at heart. Lots of impressive degrees tacked onto their names. But they only saw a very narrow world and were completely unwilling and unable to see other possible paths. We waited far, far too long to change paths. Homeschooling was part of that new path and I am grateful. It has not solved every issue, but we are in a much better place than we were before. In other words, homeschooling is not a cure all for anxiety but it absolutely may help buy you time to find a better path for your child. If the professional you are seeing is pressuring you and not even considering homeschooling then they don't actually have what you need, which is an open mind and a willingness to explore other options. Have you looked into homeschooling groups in your area? There may be homeschooling parents locally that could recommend a more open minded professional. They may also have local support that could help you in other ways, too. Best wishes.

Another vote for Settlers of Catan and CHESS. Maybe Forbidden Island. And maybe he would like doing the electronic Monopoly where he plays the computer. If you are really bored what about inviting other kids over and having board game training day? Everyone learns how to play the games then your child has others he can play with?

I agree have you looked at prices for houses in CA? Shudder worthy. Prices dropped for a while in CA when the bubble burst and banks were struggling as people defaulted on loans but the market, as I understand it, is swinging up again. And it never dipped down terribly low to begin with.

What level? This really depends on the child/age/level/developmental stage and how they do with the lesson. Sometimes they may breeze through. Sometimes they may struggle. And some kids do better with shorter lessons, once or maybe twice a day while others may do fine with a longer lesson. Until you actually start using it you may find it difficult to pace it out. Good luck.

Amy, what you might consider doing, if you haven't already, is take tours of other houses in your general area and see what they have to offer since that will be your competition. Have multiple real estate agents come by to give feedback and see if one in particular "gets" your property. They might be able to make some solid suggestions. How rapidly do you need the property to sell?

Math facts memorization and deeper problem solving skills are kind of two different things. You may need multiple resources. For math facts, honestly this can take a LOT of time. Rushing doesn't usually do much good. She is only 7. CLE has kids practicing math facts through 5th grade because it really can take that long for them to become automatic. That being said, she may need work on basic subitization skills (number sense). I HIGHLY recommend getting the Ronit Bird ebooks if you have an IPad or IPad mini. They are excellent for helping with number sense. The ebooks were originally designed for kids that have serious struggles with math (dyscalculia) but I think they are excellent for any child that needs a bit of work on subitization. Get the subitization skills down solid while you continue to move her through CLE and math fact practice. Using Ronit Bird coupled with the daily drills and flash card practice in CLE, as well as all the application problems, math facts should solidify just fine. As for deeper understanding of math through game based activities, you might look at resources on these two links: http://forums.welltrainedmind.com/topic/499692-looking-to-do-some-relaxed-math-here-want-to-share-ideas/ http://mathfour.com/ Also you might look at buying one of the Math In Focus enrichment workbooks on Amazon and see if that works well as a supplement. We used MiF as a supplement for quite a while.

Using it here, too. It has been a really good fit both for typing and reinforcing the spelling/reading instruction DS is getting through Barton.

Thanks so much!

The reason I suggested a private talk first instead of a public response was to hopefully open up a real dialog instead of putting him om the defensive. I would hope they would then be more open to removing or modifying their post. If not I think I would post a public question as Dialectica suggested. Hugs and best wishes.