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  1. This may be a vent post, maybe it's one I could use some advice on, maybe I just need to suck it up, I dunno. My current junior is turning 18 in August. He has always had trouble with self-discipline and motivation...there are verses about the sluggard in Proverbs that have always reminded me of him. It's just ALWAYS been an issue, no matter how much we have forced him to work and continue going. The internal motivation simply isn't there. Because of this, when it comes to school, he just does it halfway or not at all. He's a bright kid, so when he DOES do it, he does great (As and Bs). But often he just doesn't. Due to our family's schedule, I've been giving him assignments for the week on a weekly basis. A couple weeks ago he literally read 2 chapters in The Three Muskateers in a week's time. That's it. We have grounded, we have taken away his iPod, we have lectured, we have discussed. We currently are making him take a leave of absence from work so he can get his act together. He's still not putting forth a ton of effort. Because of all of this, he is very behind on school. The only way he will be able to graduate on time is if he doubles up on a lot of classes and takes a ton of credits next year. (This includes going full-steam-ahead over the summer too.) He knows all this and still is just doing things halfway. I'm tired of dealing with it. Should I tell him hey listen enough is enough...if you want to drop out and get your GED, fine by me, I'm done, and make sure he is well aware that a GED is something high school dropouts get and that it will severely harm his enlistment into the Navy (what he currently wants to do after graduation)? Should I just let him plod along at his own pace, even if it takes him till he's 25 to get all his credits for a diploma? Is there some other test I can give him to see where he is and call it good if he does OK on it? Continue to drag him through high school? (That option is not my favorite...I should not have to do that with an adult...it does not do him any favors, that's for sure.) I will say he does not have an attitude about it. Aside from him claiming he's done work when he hasn't (lying is another issue we have with him), he's not rebellious about any of it. He just cannot get motivated to do the work he's supposed to do.
  2. Yes, the first recruiter that my son went to told him he couldn't join the Marines because he was homeschooled. We knew that was a bunch of bull so we went somewhere else. This office had experience with homeschoolers so it was easy-peasy. I keep thinking my son should waltz into the first office sometime and do a Pretty Woman on them. Maybe if he ever receives a Medal of Honor or something LOL.
  3. This is so how we are. It's like whenever people tell me that some colleges don't accept ASL as a foreign language...then we'll just take our money elsewhere. :lol: In a way I can see the trade school issue. Although it's not true, the prevailing thought is that a student chooses trade school because they are "not college material." I wonder if the thinking is that these students couldn't cut it in high school and either dropped out or flunked out. So to get their diploma they produce a "home school diploma." It wouldn't be the case here, but I can totally see it happening in cases of students who truly weren't homeschooled. I wonder what other test besides the GED might be the equivalent of the ACT/SAT, to demonstrate that a student ISN'T just a lazy bum who couldn't cut it in high school? For these trade schools, would a home school diploma from an umbrella school count? Or would it still be frowned on? I wonder if we can get Mike Rowe to start some pressure on the trade schools to start accepting home school diplomas more? :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: What's interesting is that a home school diploma is accepted better than a GED in the military.
  4. The labs are not scheduled in this, but they do have a list of recommended lab kits. For those of you who have used this course, how did you incorporate the labs?
  5. Yep, that is definitely part of the plan.
  6. My husband is VERY handy, but he's getting very tired of fixing things. So I don't know that we'd want a used one that was in bad shape. We would not get a single-wide. If we did this, we would know full well that they depreciate a LOT.
  7. I'm really liking the idea of having a future guest house. We do want entire families to come visit us, and honestly it may end up being a house for one of our parents someday. We want to offer for them to live near us, if they will. So maybe something like that plus my in-laws' camper would be enough to get us through the building process.
  8. I'm right there with ya. My husband on the other hand...LOL!
  9. I'm not sure my husband would be willing to do some of these things. A free single-wide sounds a bit disconcerting, considering the space we'd need and the conditions. We're already coming from what is essentially a "crap house," and we're tired of that LOL!!! If we got a double-wide it would definitely not be on a permanent foundation since that would defeat the purpose entirely. Knowing what we want is the issue. We don't know yet and may not have the time to get all that together. But it's a possibility, I suppose, if we were to start talking about it (which honestly is hard since my husband will be gone most of the rest of the next month). My husband has built homes with his family before. His brother built his home from cutting down the trees himself to living in it full-time, no help from anyone except himself, in 4 years. So I know our house can be done, especially if my brother-in-law comes up to help now and then haha!
  10. Used for what we need may be tough to find. We won't be in south LA - we'll be in NW Arkansas.
  11. We're also considering getting my oldest daughter a tiny home on wheels as her "bedroom." Perhaps we can do that sooner rather than later.
  12. We've considered campers or a super small home, but we don't want to feel rushed to build and end up with not what we want, if that makes sense. We also want to do as much of the work ourselves as possible (if that's even possible...it may not be with my husband's schedule, but my daughter is REALLY interested in construction as a career so maybe....), so that will take longer. But maybe we could find a floor plan that might work for a guest house later and COMBINE it with a camper or two....hmmmm!!!!! My in-laws have a camper we could probably borrow, and honestly we've been wanting one of our own too. Between the 3, maybe we can get it to work??? Selling off a 1/2 acre or so is a really good idea I had not thought of at all! We are hoping for at least 10 acres (preferably way more but I'm not sure what all is available), so 1/2 acre shouldn't affect that too much.
  13. I'm not sure we'd be able to find the type of house we'd need used, but you never know!
  14. Interesting, thanks! Are they able to be sold and moved off later like a mobile home would be? I guess I was under the impression that modular homes were permanent.
  15. Of course then the issue is where to live while the barn is being built? LOL we're right back to the beginning. Though if it weren't for that I'd love the idea! We would be moving there from out of state, so we'd need something pretty much ready to move into as soon as possible.
  16. We do subject-based transcripts too. So you put the course description right there on the transcript?
  17. Our family has 10 people in it, but perhaps we could come up with something to make it work. We'd definitely use a barn later since a farm is in the future.
  18. Where do you live? We are thinking about doing this in NW Arkansas.
  19. We aren't super concerned with depreciation - we need a place that can hold 10 people for a couple of years while we figure out what we want/need. Renting MIGHT be a possibility, but since it's a longer amount of time we'd rather not. Our family size is also an issue. We would be building on a plot of land that is the size of a small farm.
  20. OK so your vote is a combo? Would you do that for other non-traditional courses also? (I was just using that as an example.)
  21. We are pondering how we might be able to move to some land and have a place to live until we can build our "dream house" on that land. If we were to get a manufactured home that would work for our family for now...is it crazy to think that we would be able to sell it later and have someone come move it off of our land? Yes, I know it will cost money to do that. I'm just wondering if people actually DO that?
  22. In general, no, we do not ground our teens from commitments that impact others like this. However, we recently made our 17yo take a leave of absence from work because he was consistently falling behind on school due to simply not doing his school (not because work and school is too much...one week he literally read 2 chapters in his lit book and that was it). After months and months of trying this, that, and the other, and implementing numerous other consequences, it came down to this. My husband wanted him to quit, but we are HOPING that he will be able to return to work, so I had my son ask about the procedure for going back, and we all decided on a leave of absence instead. I do feel very badly because it does put his employer in a bind, but this has been an ongoing issue for months. And his employer told us at the beginning that if his schoolwork suffered then school, not work, needed to take priority. But this is not our "typical" way of dealing with this sort of thing.
  23. When you have a student that takes a non-traditional course (like the Master Books Pre-Med course) that you're counting as a particular credit (like biology, in this case), how do you list it on the transcript? As plain old biology? "Advanced Pre-Med Studies"? Or a combo of both so it's obvious that while it's not a traditional biology course, it's counting as that?
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