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This is the month we finish school. So that will be my primary goal. I REALLY need to be done so I will pushing hard to be finished by our scheduled date of May 26/27.
My other goals will be to finish spreading the mulch in my flower beds and average an hour outside a day.
I think that’s all I can handle til school is done.
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I’m planning 11th for DD3. She has no real goals for after high school which makes things difficult. She does whatever I assign and generally does pretty well at everything, just doesn’t have any idea what she wants to do when she graduates. I’m trying not to worry about it. She’ll graduate a few months before turning 18, so she’s still young. My plan for her is to just cover the basics while she figures things out.
Math - MUS Pre-calculus
History - Notgrass US History
Science - Apologia Chemistry
English - Writing With Skill. She’s doing IEW this year and it’s not the best fit. Before that she did LLATL. We’ll start with WWS Level 1 and move through it quickly. She won’t need a lot of it but there’s parts I want to cover. I’m hoping to get about halfway through Level 2 by the end of the year. We’ll be doing some of the literature included with Notgrass and I’ll fill that in to make it more complete. She’s also been slowly working through Analytical Grammer. We don’t spend much time here, just use it as a review. DD has some undiagnosed language based learning disabilities and wasn’t able to read or write til around 11 years old so she’s a bit “behind” in English. She improved tremendously over the past couple of years though and I think I’ve finally found some affordable options for addressing things.
ASL - mix of things we find online. We had a wonderful in person class taught by a friend’s grandmother, but the other girls were all older and moved on to other things when they finished school so the class ended.
Other electives - not sure yet. DD likes artistic things. She draws and is taking a painting class in co-op. She’s also started sewing. I’ll probably try to find something along those lines for her.
Extra Curriculars - Piano, co-op (she always chooses enrichment classes like art or music), speech club (she’s not happy about this but DH is insisting), karate (hopefully getting black belt by the end of this year or early next).
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6 hours ago, Quill said:
Gonna organize all the photos….
Ooo….me too! Let me add that to my list of things that I’ll totally (not) do this summer!
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48 minutes ago, GailV said:
This is me pretty much every week.
Sometimes I mix it up by saying this month is busy but next month should be pretty calm.
Oh yes. I try to mix it up like this too. My current favorite variation is to say that once we’re busy now because of school but this summer we’ll have plenty of time to catch up on things around the house. I really live in a dream world I think.
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Another….
That this week is busy but next week my schedule will calm down a bit. Ha! This will never happen and yet I continue to delude myself thinking it will.
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That I will get my whole house deep cleaned, decluttered, and organized this summer. This has been a goal for years and never actually happened. Parts, but never the whole. It is the goal again for this summer and I’m eagerly looking forward to the end of school when my dream will become a reality. My kids aren’t in denial. Every time I mention our summer cleaning project they are quick to point out that I’ve been saying this for years and never actually done it. 😒
I’m also in denial that my summer clothes will fit. Or I think that I can get a few pounds off by June and they’ll be fine. It won’t be fine, but can’t a girl dream?
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I’m planning for my youngest this year. We’re calling the year 8th/9th with a graduation date TBD. He is quite young for his grade with a November birthday and has had some struggles along the way. I would say it’s only been within the past 6ish months that he’s able to read fluently and his comprehension is still lagging. We think we’ve finally discovered a reason and he’s begun vision therapy. We’re only a few weeks in but I think I see improvement already. So for those reasons some of his work will be at an 8th grade level and some will be closer to 9th. So he’ll have somewhere between four and five years of school left depending on how things go.
Math - MUS Algebra 1. He’d like to double up and do Geometry too but we’ll see. Doubling up always sounds like a good idea to him until it comes time to actually do the work.
History - US History with Notgrass.
Science - Apologia Physical Science
English - IEW Level B Year 2, Fix It Grammar Level 4. This is a middle school level but that’s where he’s at. Writing has been very difficult for him but he has made tons of progress with IEW this year so we’ll stick with it. Literature will be taken from the Notgrass and IEW suggestions and I’ll piece it together from there.
Spanish - Duolingo and EasyPeasy
Extras - Karate, Speech club, piano and cello, hoping co-op offers robotics again, might be adding Trail Life
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This will be my second 12th grader. She plans to go into the mental health field so we’ll be exploring that as she figures out where she wants to be. She plans to start out at the local community college after she graduates and then move on from there once she has a better idea of what she wants to do.
Math - MUS Pre-calculus. Math isn’t her strongest subject. I’m going to encourage her to do some review over the summer with Khan.
Social Studies - Notgrass World Geography
Science - Apologia Chemistry
English - Whatever is included in Notgrass, finish an Analytical Grammar review book, hopefully an advanced writing/literature class at co-op. Class options aren’t out yet.
Spanish - Easy Peasy/Duolingo/etc nothing too intense. Just enough to set her up for success in CC.
Psychology - We have a text that she’s started this year and she’ll finish next year. She’ll also be researching possible career options in the mental health field and conducting interviews with people we know in the field. We have connections at a residential program and we’re hoping to have her spend some time there volunteering and participating in training programs.
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Speech and Debate club. She’ll definitely compete in speech. We’re still deciding about debate.
Piano lessons, possibly adding voice
Karate
I also need to figure out the SAT and/or ACT for early fall. Right now she wants to do both but we’ll see. Not necessary for community college I don’t think but might be helpful later.
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I haven’t forgotten about goal setting but April has been rough. It’s been insanely busy with kid activities and jobs. I’m also dealing with a personal issue that I thought was close to being settled but isn’t. I’m in survival mode and just trying to keep my head above water. Hoping to jump back in with some small goals in May. For now, my goal is just to get outside whenever possible, even if it’s just to sit on the patio grading papers. Being outside quiets my mind.
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My oldest DD absolutely HATES to write and always has. We were still working on the concept of a proper sentence in 9th grade. For her senior year I gave in and had her do a year of IEW. It’s so formulaic that I never thought I’d use it. My mom used it for us when I was in high school and I absolutely hated it. I swore I’d never use it with my own kids. But then I had this 17 year old with one more year to get her to be to put some coherent thoughts on paper and I was desperate. We used IEW and it was the best thing I’d ever tried with her. Her writing is still nothing spectacular but it’s MUCH better than it was. I had my second DD do it too and it wasn’t particularly helpful for her. Third DD is doing it this year but we won’t continue next year. It’s not a good fit. We’ll be switching to WWS which I think will suite her much better. Youngest DS is doing level B of IEW this year and will absolutely be going on to year 2 next year. We’re calling next year 8th/9th for him (November birthday). Last year I’d get a “paragraph” of three sentences and a total of 15-20 words. This year he’s able to write five paragraph papers with much more complex sentences. Still nothing great but a significant improvement.
DD2 joined a speech and debate club this year and the outsourced instruction in speech writing has been wonderful for her. Next year DH and I have decided that all three kids will be doing speech. I think the instruction from someone besides me, in combination with what we’re doing at home, will be extremely helpful for all of them. I’ll just have to brace myself for the inevitable complaining.
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I have my plan set for next year but haven’t bought anything yet. Usually I would have by now. I don’t really feel any urgency this year. I think because I’m not really changing much so I already know how everything “works”. Most years I’m eager to get our books so I can start liking through them. This year….eh. I’ll probably order early in the summer.
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I’d absolutely take it! It can be cleaned. We live in the country and have occasional “visits” by mice. We can’t throw out everything they touch. I’d throw the stainless steel bowl in the dishwasher on a sanitize cycle and wash the rest well.
We actually did something like this recently. A group we’re in had a bin of supplies chewed into. The people who supplied the items tossed the whole thing and didn’t want to even consider cleaning any of it. But some things were in their own separate plastic boxes inside the larger bin and hadn’t been touched by the mice at all! So I brought it home and we sorted through it. Anything edible and/or unable to be washed went in the trash, anything that could go in the dishwasher went in on a heavy duty, sanitizing wash. We got some nice stuff out of there that one of my daughters is really enjoying. I do feel a little bad for the loss for the others in the group but they refused to consider cleaning it.
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This is what we do. DH leaves for work at 2pm so we eat our largest meal around 12:30/1:00. His days off rotate each week too so to keep some form of a routine going I will often still make our big meal at lunchtime even if he’s going to be home in the evening. The biggest things that help me are having a menu so I don’t have to think about what to make, and thinking about lunch the night before so I can do any necessary prep work (pull meat out of the freezer, marinades, etc.). The kids work on schoolwork independently while I cook. This is much easier now that they are teenagers than when they were younger.
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My mom does this for grandkids. Grandkids age 10 and under hunt eggs in their assigned color. Grandkids ages 11+ get to hide them for little cousins. The idea is to “hide” the ones for the toddlers by basically scattering them on the ground and make the 8-10 year olds have to work a little bit. (That’s the idea. Sometimes a large search party is recruited to find missing eggs that older cousins hid a little too well.) Color coding also allows mom to have toddler safe eggs and allergy friendly eggs where needed. After the little kids have their fun there‘s usually a special something for the big kids who have “aged out” of the traditional egg hunt. This works for our family and the 20+ grandkids.
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13 minutes ago, gardenmom5 said:
We have a friend who donated a kidney to his relative.
The recipient - immediately feels better because they now have a kidney that works and they aren't reliant upon dialysis.
the donor - goes from two working kidneys to one, the recovery was long and he felt like crap.Yes, I’d forgotten about this. Dad came out of anesthesia feeling amazing and wanting to eat. To be fair, this is quite normal for him. Cure for the stomach bug in his opinion is food, and something good like pizza. It‘a not normal. Ha! Mom had a bit of a harder recovery but that also isn’t outside normal for her. But I don’t remember it being particularly difficult. I’m fuzzy on some of the details as I had four kids under the age of 6 at the time, but there are no major difficulties that stand out.
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56 minutes ago, Rachel said:
@TrulySusan I remember watching a movie with one of those. My nephew is why kidney donation is on my radar, but the reality is I wouldn’t likely donate to him.
@2ndGenHomeschooler thanks! I know I could back out at anytime, that’s one reason I felt comfortable even going through the initial registration process. Has your mom had any long term health issues as she has aged?
No issues for mom so far. She was just a couple weeks over 50 when they had the surgery so they required extra testing of her health before they would give final approval for her to be the donor. She’s now 62 and still very healthy and active. That’s to be expected for her genetically. My grandparents are still quite healthy and active and are in their mid 80s. So donating a kidney doesn’t seem to have changed any of that for my mom so far.
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My mom donated a kidney to my dad. It’s one of those “one in a million” things for spouses to be able to donate to each other. It’s been a while (12 years?), but I seem to remember my mom being asked multiple questions from multiple people to confirm that she really wanted to donate to my dad. Even right up to going into surgery. Of course her answer was always an unequivocal “yes”. Donating an organ to another person is a big deal. Especially if that person is a stranger. You should be completely aware of all potential risks and be 100% ok with them. The process for being approved is long and covers not just physical health but also mental and psychological readiness. You should feel free to pull out at any point in the process if you’re unsure, whether that‘a now or later. It’s also fine to stay in the process for now to gather more information and change your mind later.
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I haven’t been keeping up with goals well this month. I’m on my second virus of the month which is extremely frustrating. Just colds I think but bad ones. They wipe me out for a couple of days. This past week was our spring break week and I had big plans. But then I spent half the week in bed. At some point I need to focus on my health and building my immune system but it’s hard to find the time and/or energy when I’m constantly exhausted keeping up with four teenagers.
Small goals for this last week of the month:
- 15 minute walk every day. Slow, easy, just to get some fresh air, sun, and movement. Another 15 minutes of stretching outside.
- Take vitamins every day
- Eat fruit/vegetables at each meal
- 64 oz water a day
- In bed by 11:00pm at the latest, afternoon nap each day it’s possible
My goals are basically just to help me recover from this latest virus. I still need to get school done (9 weeks to go. Yay!) and the kids have things going on but I’m going to drop whatever so can for this week. We’ll have a couple of warm days so I’m going to try to get outside whenever possible too.
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3 hours ago, El... said:
I think I'd briefly mention to the person who runs the list, or the pastor if it's a free-for-all, that it was only a cold and you hadn't given permission for "Suzy" to put you on the prayer list. I might drop the term "gossip" into the conversation.
And then that person will probably pat you on the hand and tell you how they and God care even about small needs, but at least they will be slightly more wary of "Suzy" or will consider tightening the rules for broadcasting stuff without consent.
This is exactly what this person would do and say. Right down to patting me on the hand. Ugh. Actually, probably no tightening of the rules would occur.
Found out this morning that the info sent out was that we have the stomach bug. I said nothing that specific. Just that we were “sick” and I had lost my voice. It irritates me that information was sent out at all and even more that it was false information.
The responses here have been helpful. It’s good to know that I’m not the only one who would feel this way but also that this is just a church culture thing and maybe not worth being upset about.
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5 hours ago, Shoeless said:
If I was sick with something concerning, I'd appreciate the effort. If it was something minor, I'd be embarrassed and hope that everyone didn't think I was being a drama queen and requested prayers for my tummy bug or cold.
Yes. This too. It is a bit embarrassing. We just have colds. It’s not life threatening or life altering.
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37 minutes ago, HomeAgain said:
I would not be okay with that. At all. Common courtesy was thrown out the door, it seems.
I think you should say something to the person who posted it and reinforce boundaries. I'd also request that the prayer chain organizer double check to make sure when someone brings a request about a third party that it was authorized by the third party first. It's a quick as "have you asked Sue if this is what she wants?"
When a boundary is broken, and normalized, it makes it harder for those who come after to have their feelings taken as valid. It sets up a snowball approach to steamrolling people into doing things they may not agree with or have bad feelings about, but will go with the group regardless. And it's the little things that become a pattern to normalize bigger, worse, things.
49 minutes ago, marbel said:It would bother me. I consider it an invasion of privacy. I know it's well-intentioned but the person who sends out the list should ask; the burden shouldn't be on the person who is sick to tell them not to publish or otherwise "announce" an illness.
The church doesn’t have a system that formal. Basically, anyone who has a request just shares it to the group themselves. A decent enough system so long as everyone is only sharing about themselves. I’m sure it was well intentioned. But this person’s good intentions continue to make me uncomfortable. There’s a very long and complicated back story that I won’t get into, but ultimately, I won’t be confronting this person. There’s a lot of reasons for that and it may change in the future if circumstances change (which I doubt), but I think for now I will just be even more guarded with what I share. This is the complete opposite of what this person wants but….oh well.
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The other part of this is that someone else at the church is also sick. I heard this from the person who posted about myself and DH being sick. But that person’s illness was NOT shared with the church. (I can’t imagine that they specifically said not to, but maybe.) I get the feeling that many at the church know I have one foot out the door and there‘s a constant attempt to pull me back in. But that’s just a feeling.
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3 minutes ago, Shelydon said:
That is standard operating procedure for a lot of churches, especially those that are very small. I'm assuming that that kind of thing gets shared on the church prayer email list frequently. If I attended that type of church, I would specifically tell someone if I did not want them to put out information.
In your particular case, if it doesn't bother you that other people know, and you know everyone on the email list, then no it should not be a problem. I would imagine that the person you told knows that you don't care if other people know that you're sick and you know everyone on the list and would assume that it wouldn't bother you for it to be shared unless you specified such.
A larger church likely would not do that simply because of the numbers involved, at least that has been my experience.
In the future, if you don't want things shared, then you need to specify that in conversation.
3 minutes ago, Arcadia said:My husband’s brother and wife would do that because that’s how they roll. It’s just their normal behavior regardless of who is sick. They are evangelical.
Thanks for the perspective. I’ve been at this church a long time but haven’t been comfortable there for a while. The person who shared is someone that has a hard time, IMO, with boundaries and my relationship with them is strained. I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. But I think I will be much more careful what is share with this person in the future. I’ve recently started spending time with people from another church and any time I share “prayer list” type things with them they ALWAYS ask if I would like it to go on the list or not. Sometimes I say yes and other times no. I like that. It feels very respectful of my privacy.
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My DH and I are sick. Not horribly, just coughs, colds, and generally feeling pretty lousy. I canceled some activities for today and probably the rest of the week and in the process told a few people that we weren’t feeling well. One of these people went on to share it on the church prayer text thread without asking if I’d be ok with that and now I’ve gotten texts from other people regarding us being sick. This bothers me. But I’m not sure if that’s because this person is someone I have a hard time with or because sharing really crossed some sort of line. I don’t mind people knowing necessarily. I wouldn’t even have minded if this person had shared with someone else in casual conversation. But posting on the whole church prayer chain without our permission feels like a violation of something. We’re not horribly ill and we plan to stay home til we’re feeling better so it’s not that I want to “hide” that we’re sick. And the church is very small so it’s not like 100s if people now know. And I know everyone there pretty well. But it bothers me. So since I’m lying around today with not much to do I thought I’d ask the hive: Is it inappropriate to share something like an illness on a church prayer chain without permission? Even if the person knows all the members well and doesn’t really mind if others know?
protesting property taxes? (how do mere mortals find comps?)
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I was able to find this information on Realtor. Our town just did a revaluation and our assessment went up a lot. Good in some ways but it means our taxes are going up 40-50%. And we live in a state with already high property taxes. I was hoping to find that they valued our house too high but that doesn’t seem to be the case, unfortunately.