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  1. I think this is a good point. When I was a teen back in the late'80s, I wore things maybe people would have considered sexy, but I wore them because I was fed up with being objectified. I know that sounds odd, but I also wore things that made me look like a stoner or rebel. My point was that it didn't matter what I wore, you should respect me because I'm a person! I had gotten a pretty clear message from society that it didn't matter what I wore, I was still treated differently because I was a girl, a thin girl with b00ks, blond, big hair and a sweet disposition. Guys leered at me and cat called me no matter what I wore. Grown men made inappropriate advances. It was just gross, and these clothing choices were very much my way of fighting back and also a part of being a rebellious teenager. I think it's appropriate to talk about clothing choices with our kids and how those choices can be perceived. But it's equally important to discuss how people shouldn't use those first impressions to judge an individual. You don't know the motivations behind why someone wears something, so don't pretend that you do.
  2. I still fail to see why a child who is agnostic or atheist can't benefit from this. If specific teaching about spiritual beliefs is left up to the parents, and children are encouraged to grow as people through communing with nature and service to the community, why are agnostics and atheists prohibited? Growing as people through connecting with nature and through service can be done without having a specific spiritual belief. I still fail to understand why having a specific spirituality is part of scouting.
  3. OK, this confuses me even more. Do the groups chartered by churches who practice prayer and rituals particular to their own faiths have to accept a Hindu or Morman, or can they discriminate based on the fact that the group was chartered by a particular church? And if they have to accept said child, do they change their prayers and rituals to accommodate everyone since all spirituality is welcome? ETA, I'm further confused that a public school can charter a scouting troop but then not welcome everyone.
  4. But this is exactly why I'm so confused. Your son's den accepts all of these groups but not atheists or agnostics. Why? I know it's in the rules of the scouts that you have to have a spiritual belief, but why? I'm not trying to be snarky. I just don't understand the reasoning.
  5. This truly confuses me, too. I'm fine with religious schools and groups excluding others who don't share their beliefs. That makes sense, as sometimes you want to be around like minded believers. But this spiritual mandate of the scouts just doesn't make sense to me. What is the core that is binding you together? A belief in something spiritual? I just don't get it, and I do think it's exclusionary.
  6. Do Scouts really teach, discuss, or talk about spirituality at scout meetings? What does that look like? How do you do that in a group with so many different ideas about spirituality? I really don't understand this and why it's part of scouting.
  7. But the truth behind these catastrophic plans is that they usually only covered the treatment associated with the initial diagnosis. They didn't cover the long term care for the condition, which is the costliest part of the care. That could've been as simple as covering the ER expenses, but not the expenses once one was admitted to the hospital. At least now, because of the ACA, people are covered for the long term care.
  8. Believe me, when someone has a health crisis and has to use their insurance, they will be grateful that these essential health benefits are covered! Some of the 10 essential health benefits: Prescription drugs (one of our son's cancer drugs was $600 without insurance) long term care for chronic conditions (covered our son's treatment for 9 yrs and will cover any new conditions that result from long term treatment) No lifetime maximum (our cap used to be $2 million. Our insurance has already paid out $1.5 million. Our son can stay on our insurance until 26. He's 11 and has a high probability of having other chronic conditions. You do the math) Who isn't using their insurance if they are experiencing a medical crisis? I don't understand this. Speaking from experience, I'd rather pay the deductible than the hundreds of thousands of dollars that cancer treatment costs. We've spent about $5000/year for 9 years for long term treatment for cancer. That's way better than the almost $1.5 million that our insurance has paid out! This is why I am so passionate about everyone having relatively affordable access to health insurance. Everyone will experience a health crisis, if not personally, then a family member. And people shouldn't go bankrupt as a result. I'm not arguing that we all shouldn't be doing our best to help save some money and pay for a portion of the costs, I'm just saying that the playing field should be leveled. It's unfathomable to me that other families have experienced emotionally everything we have and then have also faced bankruptcy on top of that. Experiencing a health crisis is difficult enough without suffering a monetary crisis at the same time!
  9. This! I could say so much, but I will get into trouble, I'm sure. I'll just say that I sure hope that Senator McCain has met a few children in the waiting room at Mayo. You gain a little perspective after talking with families of kids with cancer.
  10. Isn't it so frustrating?!? It took us about 8 months to get our money back, and that was with us starting the process talking with the right person.
  11. This! The only time we ever paid ahead of time was to receive a 50% discount, and even then we only did it because we knew who we would have to call in the billing department when there was an issue (yes, of course there was an issue! The estimate from our insurance company was too high, so we ended up overpaying). But like I said, we knew who to call to get our money back. Not easy at all...
  12. We have an Ektorp corner sofa and a loveseat. The depth is just fine, and they have stood up to two boys and two dogs for 9 years now. The covers are easy to wash, too. I'm assuming that the length of one section of our corner couch would be equivalent to the length of the couch. My 6'4" husband can stretch out just fine on one section.
  13. This is what I think is a huge part of the problem. People who are against gun control laws think that those who are for them are anti-gun. I am not anti-gun. I just think it's ridiculous for people to own military style weapons. Is that really so out there as a concept? Why does it have to be such an all or nothing thing?
  14. I actually get what you are saying, and I'm glad that you've posted in this conversation.
  15. A few months ago, I went to get my oil changed. I live in a very large city. A worker, a white woman in her thirties, greeted me at my car and arranged for another employee to come and get my car to drive it over to the oil change area. That employee, a young black man, came over and got in my car. As he drove off, the white employee said, "oh don't worry, he's not stealing your car. I can vouch for him. He's my friend." Then she laughed and said, "oh, can I say that?" I was stunned! She kept laughing as she walked away. I know I should have said something, but I was just too shocked in the moment to mutter a word.
  16. I never denied that things other than protesting can't effect change or bring people to the cause. My argument is that I think it takes both. I will edit my previous post to be clear
  17. The above example about the pastor is not a form of protest. He is actively working to change the status quo, and that is important work. It is extremely effective. But I would still argue that protest needs to occur as well, otherwise some of those who are unaware will never be inspired to take up the cause. Protests are extremely effective in that regard. I see the two as both being vital to encourage change.
  18. Can you share more about this local program? Is there a link?
  19. I agree with your sentiment, but I still don't know what that looks like. They are protesting police brutality. How do they/we protest in a way that builds what we should all want for all people in terms of police restraint? I'll look for more examples from you. Thanks.
  20. So I am truly asking, what would work better? And a side note, I wasn't directing my post at you. I was using your post as a starting point to continue the conversation. When I stated "There are those stating" I was referring to people in society, not you.
  21. I don't agree. The point of protest is for people to see it and ask why. That is the effectiveness. One will work as hard as they want in order to learn more if desired. Then more will join the movement, and the voice becomes louder. I still struggle with understanding how peaceful protest is unAmerican. I can think of nothing more American! There are those stating that we should all salute/honor the flag because it is what binds us together as a nation. I again disagree. What should bind us all as Americans is our freedom to protest, share our ideas freely, and disagree! I am shocked at how many patriotic Americans disagree with this.
  22. I'm having a hard time understanding this. Historically, haven't there always been people offended by protests of any kind? And why is it the responsibility of those protesting to make their protest as effective as possible to reach those with the most deaf ears? Isn't the point that even one act of protest, no matter how small, is effective because it had the ability to inspire more protests, and that can eventually start a movement? And isn't the end goal to make that movement so mainstream that people begin to talk about it at their kitchen tables? If a protest offends someone, then I think it's been very effective. It's caused someone to think and reflect, even if they don't agree. And this is what America and it's freedoms are all about.
  23. Again, she shared her viewpoint.
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