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  1. I don’t think I would bother telling her that she might never get to come home. If she has memory issues, it may just be more traumatizing to keep going over it. If she asks, I would focus on what she needs to be able to come home if that possibility is still open. At least that is what we did with my MIL, even though we knew she was never going to meet the milestones to go back to living on her own.
  2. No, he was already convicted on a lesser charge of manslaughter which is still a felony. Since he was convicted of a felony, he will lose his law enforcement license (or that is the way it would be in most states. I don’t know specifically about MN).
  3. Yes. The court ruled that what he did didn’t meet the specific requirements for third-degree murder.
  4. I haven’t been in years, but just the Smithsonian buildings could keep you busy for 3 days. Since you have never been, I would suggest doing one of the paid on-off tour busses at least for 1 day.
  5. We dealt with this type of holiday schedule for years combined with evening or night shift. There was no holiday traveling unless vacation time was used and vacation time selection was also tied to seniority, so it was not likely that a person with less than 10 yrs on would have the option of taking time off on a holiday. I attended many family holidays without DH, and weddings, and ….
  6. I did not think this was appropriate to bring up on Scarlett’s recent thread, but reading it brought up some old feelings that I thought were long past regarding how shift work of one spouse impacts a marriage-especially an already struggling marriage. My DH is in law enforcement. In many, or most all, big departments shifts placements are based only on seniority. When I had very young kids, like baby-toddler age, my DH worked variations of evening shift to include 3:00-11:00 and 6:00-2:am. Those shifts were the hardest for me. I would wake up at 5ish each morning to leave for work at 6:30 to drop kid(s) at daycare and then go to work as a teacher where I usually left school just in time to pick up before daycare closed. DH was gone to work by that time. I had to deal with all the baby/kid stuff by myself all the time on top of not getting enough sleep when kids had their own sleep issues. DH worked extra jobs or overtime on his days off, and he didn’t have weekends off for nearly 20 years. I spent much of my young marriage feeling like a single parent. It got so bad at times, that I often thought about divorce. I went so far as to actually pick up apartment rental magazines (remember those). If our marriage had been shakier in any other area, I don’t think we would have survived. I know so many law enforcement marriages that ended up in divorce. In fact, I can only think of one other couple that is still on their first marriage 20+ years later. When or if other of my kids get married, I think my biggest piece of advice will be to do whatever they can to work the same shifts, or at least live on the same shifts. I do know families who make it work for them by having the rest of the family follow a similar schedule- the kids stay up late and sleep in t match the working parent, and weekends become whatever days the parent has off.
  7. I go with the idea of getting a ticket to one and it can always be changed later. Maybe she files into Dallas and rides with you to Houston and flies back from Houston.
  8. Like you, I would guess it was a scam. Can you call the hospital to find out if they actually need that information?
  9. It sounds like you did a wonderful job and handled the situation beautifully. As you have discovered, some adults in BSA can be rather militant in their beliefs about the “right” way do do scouting. It is best just to go around them, and do what you think is right.
  10. If they are old enough to deal with it, you could share stories like this
  11. I have a Kirby the I bought maybe 12-15 years ago. I would never spend that much on a vacuum now, but it has been a real workhorse. I used to use the carpet cleaning feature a lot when I lived in a house that came with light colored carpets. I have had to replace belts, but it hasn’t needed anything else done to it in all these years, so I do think I am getting my money’s worth out of it.
  12. I think it depends on the family. If you (or other adults) want to attend church, then the kid needs to attend at least until they are old enough to stay home. If your beliefs cause you to want the child to attend even if they don’t want to, then make them go if your beliefs out weigh any battles. (Not making any judgements towards anyone’s beliefs or behavior). Perhaps there are ways to think outside the box to make it more enjoyable for the kid or the parents. It is harder when the main parent doesn’t have strong religious convictions. If there is not a religious purpose to attendance, then I would not force a child to attend if they really didn’t want to do so and was old enough to stay home. There are other was to build a social circle, and if the child gets 0 pleasure out of attending, I doubt any social connections will continue outside of the church setting.
  13. This may sound strange, but I really like our new Ryobi rechargeable battery weed eater and lawn mower. I do most of the yard work, and the electric stuff is much lighter weight and much easier for me to use.
  14. I heard lots of stories about unemployment fraud early on in the pandemic. Many months ago my DH got a call from his HR department to verify that he was still employed as they has received notice that he had filed for unemployment. He had not. HR was able to invalidate that claim for unemployment. We’ve been watching, but we haven’t found any other evidence of identity theft going on. In his case, I feel like the system worked to find and prevent a false claim. Today I received a debit card in the mail so that I can access my unemployment benefits. At first I was confused. My DD lost her job last week and did apply for unemployment. I thought maybe that there had been a mix up of some kind in her account, but she double checked and that was not the case. So I called our state unemployment office. As I was on the phone reading the information off the card to the agent, I realized that the card was using my maiden name which I have not used in 30 years. The agent was able to freeze the account and will turn it over to their fraud department. She did verify that my correct Social Security number was not used on this account. This brings up additional questions for me about our unemployment system in the US. Obviously there is a lack of oversight somewhere. I’ve never held a job using that name in this state, and I haven’t used that name for any employment in 30 years. I don’t understand how that could be a valid claim. I assume that a previous employer of mine never bothered to verify my employment, or possibly false employment information was given. Also, how could a claim be made with an incorrect social security number? I’m not surprised that there are many attempts at filing false claims, but I am surprised at how easy it was for someone to get the false claim approved. If I had been a different kind of person, I could have gotten the money off this card even though I was not entitled to it, or even asked for it. I wonder if there is a way to improve the system and still get timely help to the people who do qualify while weeding out all these fraudulent claims. (I am making a police report to document just in case there may additional identity theft issues later)
  15. I think this law is terrible for many reasons.I see it being used to the point that the court system becomes so clogged up that the system becomes useless for much of anything. I don’t think that the people that supported this law really thought through the consequences just to the legal system.
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