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  1. Thanks! We could always use the local CC, though I think they will still be online next year. I tried to apply to the Pre Collegiate Studies but the application was closed -- even though it seems to imply you can apply year round. Hoping that doesn't bode ill. The CC doesn't have the courses listed yet, so I guess we will just bide our time and figure it out later. There has been in the past a local 4 yr Uni professor who came to a local high school to teach linear algebra to our district students, but he did not offer it this year. That would be my first choice, as it would be all high schoolers AT a high school.
  2. We have attendance but it's for very low points compared to the rest of the assignments. So 1 point per day, while assignments are 5 or 10 points.
  3. I would think AP geography would be also related to his interest -- its focus is on the impact of geography on communities and I think it addresses things like food production, pollution, etc. I might be wrong, but I would definitely not take it off the table. APUSH, AP English, World History, etc are pretty standard. AP stats is supposed to be pretty easy. Seminar and Research I think are all about constructing your own research topic, doing the research and presenting it. I have only heard of it being implemented poorly and with little depth of learning. Our last school district was all about the gold seals on the diplomas, and the counselor's were aghast that my daughter chose not to take chemistry at all, thereby getting only a standard diploma rather than an advanced. She still got into a top school even if she didn't follow the prescribed path. My daughter did 10 AP's. None in 9th grade, 1 in 10th, and 4 each in her junior and senior years. It was a heavy workload those years, BUT it was mostly humanities and she is a humanities kid. She loved it and those were her favorite high school years. She also chose classes based on teachers, and the best teachers taught AP.
  4. Just chiming in with our experience -- my mathy son took Clover Valley Hon Chem in 8th and had a fantastic year. What it doesn't really have is much of the social aspect -- I think there are class "office hours" but he never went to those. He had enough math, I'm assuming, since the math never really gave him an issue. I still think the set up was better for him than the AP Chem through PAH, though that is a highly recommended program as well. He is currently self-studying for the AP chem exam, as the Hon Chem through Clover Valley covers almost all the same material. One should know that it is a full courseload. It and math (AOPS) were the primary focus for my son last year -- together they took up usually four hours a day. He would often do the labs on the weekends to give himself breathing space. He is now taking her Intro to Organic Chem because he enjoyed the class so much, and especially appreciated the fact that her classes are so well organized. He likes predictability, and there are absolutely no surprises in her class:) I don't know that there are any downsides to taking high school chem in middle, unless the more casual approach is working for you. It was not working for my son -- he gets too much anxiety when things are too loose, and prefers to have deadlines to work towards and homework to turn in. He's probably going to just take a turn through all the AP Sciences year by year (chem test in ninth, AP Bio in 10th, AP physics in 11th) and do a college level of one of those his 12th grade year. So he hasn't really gotten too far ahead by starting early. My daughter loved taking it more casually in middle school. She read a ton and took a great course in zoology and an easier biology class. It suited her.
  5. Something like this? https://www.amazon.com/First-Course-Mathematical-Logic-Mathematics/dp/0486422593. I picked up a copy after reading some of @Kathy in Richmond 's lists of resources, but we have never gotten to it.
  6. Based on where the academies end up being located, it's probably a common experience anywhere. We went to the Vienna location in Northern Virginia for an AMC 8, and the majority of the kids took classes there and were public or private schooled. I think my son was the only homeschooler.
  7. Trying to plan for next year post Calc BC and the above mentioned are what I think we have narrowed our choices down to. Has anyone had good or bad experiences with CTY online? I know @Arcadia had her kids in the pre-collegiate studies, but I think it was in person and this would be the online classes. The instructors look like they came from EPGY, so I am assuming they are been familiar with teaching in an online environment. I cannot tell how the course material is presented in either one -- this kid has been solely AOPS for the past four years, so ready to branch out, but having lots of prerecorded snippets of videos isn't something I think he would be excited about. I mean, recorded lectures are fine (he's in Connie's Chem and all her lectures are recorded and that works great for him) but if it's going to be five minute videos teaching each tiny concept, that would not be ideal. We would also have the option of community college, or UCSD extension courses, but I think those are going to be online too, I don't know that they would be any cheaper necessarily, so my gut feeling is that the above two choices would be better for this kid. Cost is not a factor as it's only one class and none of them are as expensive as, for instance, the actual Stanford Online High School.
  8. You are not the worst. Birthdays don't have to always be celebrated perfectly or even well every year. If it were me, I would just acknowledge that Covid has made the usual gifting impossible yet again and give them money towards whatever they might want to do when things are more open again. I will say that for our 15 year olds, we bought the adventure quest scavenger hunt (website is urban adventure quest I think). It was 40 bucks after a coupon, it has one for a lot of the major cities, and it got us out of the house for a few hours. It wasn't super challenging, but it was something different. My daughter asked at Christmas for a wetsuit and a surfing lesson. I gave her both but I don't think she will use them til next year.
  9. Oh the trains! I used to visit my mom in Orlando and the first night or two would wake up at 12, 2, and 4 or thereabouts bc of the trains going through. But after that I would sleep through it.
  10. So you would be close to a landfill AND the 95? Interstate traffic might get annoying. I honestly wouldn't if I had a choice.
  11. My kid (not homeschooled) argued with me about everything. She had severe anxiety which came out in fighting and blaming me, and she has adhd. She refused to go to school MANY days. She's on Vyvanse, Strattera, and Lexapro now. And she's 21, so no more fighting.
  12. At my high school (40% dropout rate) we had teachers bribing kids to come to class. "Just come 1 day a week and I will give you a C". My brother in law surprised his mom with the news that he would not be graduating unless she wrote him notes excusing his absences for the semester. He had 40. She declined and he graduated the following semester.
  13. Hugs. Agree, in a lot of ways I feel like I'm always walking on eggshells with my teen. We've got an appt in a couple of weeks to start the process towards meds. Meanwhile just trying to fill time with positive interactions at home (constantly spending time with them, playing games, going hiking, etc) just to keep the brain from retreading old negative thoughts. It's exhausting.
  14. 9k on one house, around 3-4k on the other (two different states, roughly same tax percentage)
  15. I grew up with a mom with pretty strong generalized anxiety. (my dad has pretty bad anxiety too, but it manifests more with his own rituals and rules whereas my mom's was pretty strictly about the house). I do have a decent relationship with her now and I know she loves us and the grandkids and they try really hard in other ways. But her anxiety was such a powerful force and permeated my entire childhood. The bad memories are pretty ingrained -- memories of me as a teen sobbing as I scrubbed my white tshirt clean of spaghetti sauce because I knew she was going to get upset that I spilled on it, or being so afraid of hitting the barstools (which swiveled) against the table top because it might rip the fake pleather on the stools (why get swivel stools when you have kids? I don't know). When I visited with my kids when they were little I spent a large amount of energy trying to protect my oldest undiagnosed adhd daughter from her wrath. I remember the drama when my daughter, who kicks in her sleep, kicked the wall so that a cheap 10 dollar vase fell off the shelf on the other side of the wall and broke. It was SUCH a huge deal, and then every night after that she would take every thing off the shelf and then put it all back on again the next day. I think our upbringing really affects our own standards. I was determined never to have that level of control ruin my family relationships, and since my husband grew up in a moderately cluttered house, we just went by his standards. Dreamergal's story of family cleaning sounds much more lovely. Ours was driven by fear and anxiety.
  16. My two cents with very little actual knowledge behind it: My husband and I threw around the ODD label for my undiagnosed ADHD kid. She held it together during school but at home our relationship was pretty horrid for years. She usually fought against everything we asked her to do, even sometimes if it was something she wanted to do. I feel looking back that if she had gone the opposite direction (shutting down) it would have been PDA. She had SO much anxiety, struggled so much with school and social anxiety and executive functioning, and she was constantly in fight or flight mode. (She usually chose fight, though we did have a gash in her bedroom screen that shows she also sometimes used flight)
  17. We lived in 1100 square foot townhouses for two different duty stations in a row when my husband was active duty military. They were two stories, so 550 feet on each floor. They were ALWAYS tidy and organized because otherwise it would immediately become non functional or someone would get hurt tripping over something. I could feel the anxiety rise in me anytime there was clutter.
  18. One other side note about differences in expectations -- living in an apartment vs living in a larger house with more land might contribute to the relative importance of having every space clean vs letting bedrooms get messy. I know when we lived in a smaller house, I felt like I needed everything organized - otherwise it was visually overwhelming. Our last house in a semi rural area was HUGE and did not really have an open floor plan. You could have multiple rooms messy and you couldn't see them. I never cared what the kids' rooms looked like, and they also barely got cluttered as they were so big. Now we are in an in between house so we have an in between amount of clutter. It's all relative.
  19. Sorry, that really frustrates me. No teacher at any time mentioned anything about my daughter. She flew under the radar, was very quiet during class, was smart enough to pull off good grades, but the sheer amount of effort it took was destroying her. No one would have known except someone that lived with her and saw how much effort she had to put into daily tasks. She got a 4.2 in school and took 12 AP's and passed all of them. But she also hit three cars (going five miles an hour), has lost or broken nearly everything she owns, had severe social anxiety for years because she would irritate her peers, and has panic disorder now. Days that she doesn't take her meds she might forget to eat, miss appointments, lose her keys, leave her car running over night, etc. No teacher would have known any of these things. It's not called an invisible disability for nothing.
  20. I see this as akin to not pursuing a medical diagnosis even when he might know it's adversely affecting his kids' quality of life. I didn't know my daughter had polyps growing in her nose and sinuses for years, even though she was constantly stuffed up and struggled with post nasal drip and constant infections. When we did finally get it diagnosed, we got surgery and she can breathe so much better. I would never have just said eh, you can breathe alright, you're getting by well enough, and just let her exist with her quality of life impacted by something that is fixable. The statistics for people who have untreated ADHD are not good. Addiction, car accidents, divorce, unemployment... the risks are all much higher with untreated ADHD.
  21. Update, my daughter got accepted to Richmond, so she will be heading there for five weeks this summer. She is beyond excited -- not only will she get to do something in person, but she will be with her best friend for five weeks. I am so excited for her!
  22. Another Vote for Ever After. Or Hoodwinked! Seriously such a funny movie, even my college student still enjoys it's quirky humor. Something for all ages.
  23. I have three kids (one away at college). They are all so different in their rooms. My son has very little -- it's easy to take care of but he doesn't really bother. Thankfully since he has so little it doesn't get messy. Computer, desk, bed, empty storage baskets in a Kallax type cube, bookshelf, dresser in closet, and a few things that do need to be purged (old costumes, a few old toys) and a shelf at the top of the ceiling for all his lego architecture sets. His twin has little treasures EVERYWHERE and her closet is crammed full. It's all reasonably organized and she cleans regularly on her own because she likes to keep it neat. My oldest was undiagnosed Adhd until 18. Her room was a disaster. Like, Hazmat suit disaster. Food wrappers and bowls and spoons under bed, clothes in piles, stuff constantly being broken. She'd wear her clothes dirty or wash them but leave them in the washer for days and they would still smell. In the last few years she has done all the hard work herself of bringing her life and her room into order. She still crams everything out of sight in a mess rather than purging stuff, but the things she leaves out are the very basic things she needs. She knows that she can't find anything when it's messy so she cleans every day. Her clothes are always clean and her sheets are always washed.
  24. In our case it is harder bc my husband is so extremely neurotypical -- so these invisible disabilities he just doesn't understand. My oldest dd (adhd, combined type) is so smart, and she was able to inconsistently do what was right. So he saw her succeed sometimes and assumed the other times she just wasn't trying hard enough. As opposed to what was actually happening, which was the times she did succeed came with an extraordinary amount of effort compared to a neurotypical. You can't see the struggle inside someone. Same with my son (recently diagnosed ASD). He recently had a meltdown which should have been totally predictable and avoided based on his diagnosis. (He had an event to go to, he was involved in something that absorbed him and we forgot to get him moving to get ready until 5 minutes before leaving, and two other issues that just ended up overloading his circuits). My husband just looked at the situation not understanding -- he wanted to tell him to just suck it up and go and be late. But he at least followed my lead, my son went to calm down, and then we debriefed what happened afterward. We talked about what to avoid the next time and how my son can set his own alarms to give him extra time to get ready, and now he trusts us even more that he have his back. My dh is glad he didn't push him like his first instinct was. My side is definitely the non neurotypical side, so it's a lot easier for me to put myself in my kids' places. Dh has never had those huge intense emotions that can cripple you, he's got excellent EF... my side of the family is a little bit of a mess!
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