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  1. This is our first real year in high school (zoom year last year doesn't count IMO). My twins are in 10th grade. My daughter is in two AP's, one honors and one elective. (block semester schedule) She dances around 12 hours a week, but it's heavier now with winter performance rehearsals. She really races during school time to finish homework, and typically doesn't have more than 30 min to an hour at night. She often has some on the weekend, but never more than a few hours. She is exhausted, but she doesn't thrive on being busy. Second semester will be lighter and she will only have three classes. Hoping that will help. My son has only three classes rn and dropped his AOPS class, so his schedule is light. One AP, one honors, and his extracurriculars are only around 5 hours a week. He could do more, but he takes longer to find his way and really struggled to actually find an extracurricular to do. He was stressed with his AOPS class, however, as it was really outside his comfort zone and was taking up so much bandwidth.
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    My someone who shall not be named just bought the same toy and LOVES it. But he only uses it to blow out the garage, the driveway, and to tease the dogs. Hopefully he won't get any ideas about using in the house!
  3. Thanks Rosie! It looks like Hank Green did a Philosophy Crash Course, so that might be a good place to start. I'm trying to balance computer time (we've had far too much screen time here and it's showing some negative effects) but on the other hand if these videos replaced some of the ones he watches of gaming speed run videos, that would be great too.
  4. I was wondering if there is any book out there about philosophy that would be interesting for my ds 15. He's pretty particular about what he reads -- for instance his favorite books are What If, Math With Bad Drawings, How To, Things to Make and Do in the Fourth Dimension.... books with short vignettes in easily digestible chapters. He's newly interested in philosophy and I just don't really know where to start.
  5. I sometimes make an effort to match someone else's tone while texting and I find it exhausting. How can anyone feel such levels of excitement? But I try since I come off as pretty brusque and irritated sounding otherwise. Then there's the whole tapback on iphones that allow you to "react" to someone's text. I feel like if someone "hearts" your texts multiple times while you don't "heart" their's, then there is an imbalance. I loved texting initially -- especially as it was easier to get in touch with people that I was friends with at different duty stations while my husband was active duty. Now I feel like it's just intrusive. I feel like there's this constant pressure to respond to texts, and guilt if you haven't. And I don't text regularly with many people at all! I have dreams of moving somewhere that magically has all the conveniences of the city that I am used to having, combined with the utter isolation of a deserted island or a lighthouse.
  6. I agree. Yesterday at the hair salon the (much younger) clerk complimented on how good I was at math when I quickly figured out 20 percent for the tip. I just took the first two numbers and doubled it. It made me wonder if everyone else was having to get out the calculator to figure out what 20 percent was?
  7. My 15 year old son is eating alone. In fact he doesn't have to because his twin sister is there too, but she eats super fast and ditches him to go to her next class to read. He is in the process of joining clubs (deadline is this Friday) so hopefully some of the lunchtime clubs will bring him people to hang out with. He does not mind eating alone that much -- he's very wary of becoming friends with people he will find annoying. He would think that much worse than eating alone. I'm just planning to make sure he has a good book with him from now on, so he's not just randomly playing games on his phone.
  8. I was forced to go twice on Sundays and every Wednesday for kid activities and choir. My parents were all about the routine, less about the actual substance, so even if they had known that the kids would bully and tease and have in groups and out groups, they wouldn't have cared. The church was filled with hypocritical people in positions of leadership, and overall it was a very negative experience from 6th grade on. I left the church at age 16 and never looked back. In retrospect, if we had changed churches, maybe it would have made a difference. But my parents do not like change, and I grew more and more unhappy, until I finally demanded to quit.
  9. She uses Tiimo now. She used Brilli before.
  10. My daughter is on Strattera and Vyvanse. She has terrible working memory, and Strattera helps that. So she is "ok" on Strattera, but great on both.
  11. Mine uses an app to keep her on track with a daily routine. She sets up her room the night before with clothes, pills, water, and a protein bar. Then when her alarm goes off she checks the schedule while it dings each item so she can stay on track. This system has only really gotten pretty solid this past year, even though she's been on meds for three. Mine gets anxiety when her dosage is too high - which it was when Ritalin suppressed her appetite, which made her foggy headed all the time (from lack of food) which meant she asked for a higher dose, which suppressed her appetite more... She's on Vyvanse now and it works much better for her.
  12. There's Sluggish Cognitive Tempo, which is not an official diagnosis but sounds to me like ADHD minus the H. Dr. Russell Barkley has advocated for this to become an official DX. My daughter looked very much like this on really bad days, but she has plenty of the H traits so it's pretty obvious she has combined type. Talks really fast, interrupts people, thoughts flying non stop. For her, diagnosis didn't just help with school. Adhd affects one's day to day life very drastically. It's not just avoiding hard work (though that was par for the course -- avoiding anything until the last minute and then fear of failure would kick in to motivate her). But it affects the time it takes her to shower, whether she remembers to go to bed, remembering to eat, realizing that she's actually sick and not just "out of it" again.... and all of those get so much easier with meds. It is so frustrating to hear about kids that take meds to do better on tests. It just makes access to these drugs so much harder for people who really need it just for day to day life.
  13. My ds definitely rates Int Number Theory the hardest. For comparison the Aops calc class was relatively easy.
  14. I think I will look into that for the next course then. Thank you!
  15. I don't think exactly that my son needs the most rigorous, but he does need something to do after AP Calc now, and I just don't know what I don't know. So I figured this class would be commensurate with any other Linear Algebra Class. If it was a choice between this class and a community college class (which are also online) I figured this one would be more challenging than those at lease. He did decide, however, to take the AOPS Group Theory class this semester. Just kicking the can down the road until next year I suppose. Ideally next year we will find something that is in person!
  16. I think that depends on who you talk to. My husband and most of his closest friends deployed there at one point or another in their career - my husband there for a year - and most of them saw this as expected.
  17. Ah, I see. If it stays merely as high school credit (and needing departmental approval) then it might make more sense to take the cheaper AOPS class in the format that he is already familiar with! I'll have to run it by him. He doesn't seem to care either way about the content -- he's more focused on just getting adjusted to high school (since last year was pretty disjointed with only three months in person with half the amount of kids). Right now for him math is just do the next thing.... only there seems to be too many choices of what the next thing would be. He just knows he wants a break from Calculus before going into the next level, and he usually just depends on me to choose. Sigh.
  18. Ok, these are obviously niche classes and I only know a couple of boardies whose kids have taken these. My ds submitted his App to take the Linear Algebra through Stanford University Online Math and Physics, but as a back up I signed him up for the Group Theory class just in case he can't take the other one. I highly doubt he will be rejected -- it's one online class, he got a 5 in AP Calc BC, but I just like to make sure of everything. Plus of course Aops is a LOT cheaper than the other! Does anyone have an opinion on these classes? I think @quark's ds took Group Theory, and @Arcadia's ds took a class through Stanford? Wondering how the class operated, (we know how AOPS run, but not the ULO classes quite as much) if they enjoyed it, if it was a massive amount of work. I am just out of my league here -- I had planned for him to take an in person Linear Algebra class, but it looks like it's not running, and hasn't since Covid. The community colleges here are still all online, so I figured if it is going to be online, might as well choose the provider. The Stanford course has the benefit of getting college credit if the exams are proctored, but right now I don't know how important that is to ds. I am assuming I will just add the AOPS class to the transcript like we will be doing Clover Chemistry's Organic and Biochem class- as an extra class. He's in brick and mortar school so the majority of the classes will be through them, and we aren't really going through their process to get classes approved for high school credit. They will only give two classes worth of credit anyway. Any thoughts, no matter how random? I'm just second guessing my second guesses, as usual.
  19. My husband will sometimes (very rarely) tell one of my kids something along of the lines of "you don't feel that" or "you aren't really upset". It's infrequent enough that I haven't said anything about it to him yet, and I have put in extra time with them one on one talking about their feelings and emotions to make sure they are not doubting themselves. But that is definitely gaslighting -- how on earth can a teen be expected to self regulate if they doubt themselves and what they are feeling in the first place?
  20. My daughter has been training her 4-5 month old labradoodle to ring a bell when she needs to go potty. The other day she rang the bell so my daughter got up from the table to let her out. Then she ran back and jumped on dd's chair to try to get her food! This dog is going to be a handful!
  21. We bought our house last February. Our house value according to both Zillow and Realtor.com are now 230k and 190k more, respectively. Insane.
  22. I knew I was gifted (tested in Kindergarten and put in gifted pull out then) but it wasn't really discussed. My sister and I were often told we were smart, but there still wasn't a lot of emphasis on learning -- it was more about being good in class and not getting in trouble. Well, my fourth grade teacher told my mom I was headed for a life in prison when I forged my dad's signature on a test, I got placed in all day time out for talking non stop, and by middle school I was just the mediocre one between my sister and I. I felt like an alien at school, zoned out during class, forgot homework constantly, and just gave up until high school. When I started dating my now husband I turned things around. Realized I was actually smart - but was just bored and lacked good executive functioning and a reason to do well in class.
  23. My son took the second administration paper exam and got a 4 in chem and a 5 in Calc BC. He is happy with his results and I am happy he took the paper exams! The digital sounds like it would have been a terrible fit.
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