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  1. On Christmas Eve we noticed fuel leaking from our car. Today the mechanic told us what the issue is. It could be a $300 fix or $3000 fix depending on what happens when they remove the gas tank to get to the line that is leaking. This is an old 2004 Corolla with less than 90,000 miles on it. The big fix isn't worth it in terms of the value of the car. But dang I don't want to deal with not having 2 cars right now. Replacing the car isn't an immediate option. More like a few months from now. So, just pray that it is a $300 fix and not $3000. Just needed to vent! thank for listening
  2. no it wouldn't be horrible, especially if there is already a spot for things you don't want/need. That is what that spot is for. I understand the feeling guilty but one can truly appreciate and love the expression of love without loving or appreciating the gift itself.
  3. But it took me years to be able to speak up when dh gifted me things that just weren't me. I lived with a Kuerig, which I hate, for years after he got me one for Christmas. Then one day I put a french press on my Christmas list and announced I hated the Kuerig. I made a point of saying I didn't hate that he got it for me. He solved a problem (our coffee maker broke.) I just didn't like the product he picked.
  4. You are not a grinch. I too have no issue getting rid of gifts. But I also have no problem returning things that just aren't my thing. For example, I'd likely return the pickle ball stuff and spend that money on something that is more me. I'd let my dh know that I really appreciate the thought and would love to find something else that we could do together, since pickle ball isn't something I'm interested in. I would absolutely keep the thing your dd made if one of my kids made me it, even if it wasn't my style. I'd hang it up for years and then eventually take it down but maybe not get rid of it. That is a tough one.
  5. Not us. In my 37 years of life I think we've gotten a white Christmas twice😭
  6. Already showed dh the link. We may make a purchase very soon. Thanks
  7. Well... we had fil and his husband over yesterday for a low key present exchange before the girls and I had to get ready for The Nutcracker. Tomorrow is Christmas celebration with my side of the family at my house with homemade ravioli, that my dad and I will be constructing tonight. Then Christmas morning is just for dh, the kids, and me. Then we have lunch at mil's. Home by 3 for a new family tradition of figuring out Christmas evening because usually we do my family's celebration Christmas evening
  8. We have considered doing this. We paid $70 this year.
  9. I really liked all three episodes. My mom watched Dr who when I was growing up so I was pretty familiar with it when they brought it back with Christopher Eccelston and fell in love with the show. It is such a fun show. The David Tennant doctor is my favorite doctor and I really loved when he was paired with Donna. Amelia Pond was my favorite companion but Donna Noble is a very close second. The 3 episodes were all so different but great in how well they fit in with the Dr Who universe. I need to rewatch the 3rd one because I was pretty distracted towards it so I didn't follow it very well. Spoiler alert: I am so happy with the ending they gave David Tennant's Dr. It was fitting and well deserved
  10. I'm still trying to get through my oldest's birthday tomorrow and 2 more Nutcracker shows this weekend. In between those things we have to get a Christmas tree(probably tonight,) decorate it, clean up the house for my family Christmas on the 24th, wrap presents, finish getting stocking stuffers, and make sure I have enough presents for everyone. All of the actual grocery shopping is on my dad and we'll make fresh raviolis the day of the celebration.
  11. Gifts seem odd to me for our anniversary Dh and I don't even get each other gifts. Some years we've given each other gifts but mostly we just celebrate it in other ways.
  12. With all the added info. I likely would visit them. At least not with my kids. And i would not stay at their house under any circumstances
  13. I really would help too. It is one of those things that I know people hate doing and get overwhelmed with all the decisions of where things go. But I don't get that way so it is one of those acts of kindnesses I do for others that doesn't feel like a burden to me
  14. Fun! I love unpacking. Today, I'm helping backstage during a Nutcracker performance and then coming home to celebrate my oldest's 15th bday with mil. His actual bday is Tuesday but she is busy that day
  15. Jason Momoa. If I find out he's in a movie I was excited about I instantly groan and lose interest entirely in seeing it
  16. This is the first year of my entire life that I do not have a pet at Christmas. It is strange. So, I will live through all of you and find happiness in reading what your pets are getting
  17. I set a specific total amount that we will spend on our kids. Then I figure out what each kid really wants and figure out how to fit it into that budget. Most of the younger kids gifts are like new from consignment or goodwill. For example, dd4 is getting this calico critter mansion that I found on Facebook marketplace for $80. But I sold some of the vintage furniture piece that came with it and that covered the whole $80. last year she got a like new toy kitchen set I found on marketplace for $15. Shopping like that leaves me able to spend more of the budgeted money on the gifts I can't find that way. Dh and I set a separate budget for each other. And we set a 3rd budget for anyone else we need to shop for
  18. That's good. I'd just keep sticking up for them or when she complains merely say, 'we've already discussed why they don't want to spend time with you. *insert new conversation topic here*'
  19. With the additional info, I'd not only support your kids in whatever they decide to do, I'd stick up for them when she complains about their absence. I'd be blunt and honest with something like, ' they don't care to spend time with you because you are too critical of them.' Or, 'well you haven't really fostered the type of relationship that encourages them to remain involved.' But i'd be doing this more for my children then for any hope that it would help Angie do better. I'd want them to know that I don't just support their choices but I'll proudly and loudly support them even if it makes me and the other people who have ignored poor behavior for years uncomfortable.
  20. mom and dad are not names though. They are just simply nouns that identify a parent's relationship to someone else. So, you really have no right to expect someone else to use those terms as names. And for an adult child who has cut contact with the parents it is an outrageous ask. With that being said, I'd still sign it Mom and Dad because that is what I'd continue to call myself in relation to my child unless they explicitly asked me not to
  21. Yes, I think it is rude to dominate a conversation to the point where other people can not get a word in. It is one thing to dominate a conversation because you are with people who are not good with holding conversations. but if people would talk if given the opportunity it is rude not to leave room for them to talk or to have your story be so long that it takes up unreasonable amounts of time.
  22. In that situation, I would not serve alcohol at all. Everyone will survive a night without it. I'd also have a stack of games for people to play so they can decide how they want to avoid the unpleasant person. But as long as Angie isn't being rude to people I wouldn't try to steer the conversation. But if she is rude, I personally don't have a problem with pointing out rude behavior to people.
  23. I think you're right. On the pic you can see the red scarf and his black arm and leg. Sure is creepy looking at night though
  24. I've never heard BFE before. Here, if you are in the middle of nowhere you say bumble f*.
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