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My daughter showed signs of OCD staring at about 7 but wasnt diagnosed until she was 19. Her OCD also manifested as food issues and also slid into eating disorder with four relapses before she was diagnosed with OCD. She was on meds and began intensive ERP at the same time. Seven years later she is off all meds, is happily married with a one year old child and has firm control of her OCD. It takes daily practice to keep that control. We were just discussing that she still has intrusive thoughts everyday and that she has learned to acknowledge those thoughts and let them slide by or just sit with the discomfort that they cause until they pass.
attending the national OCD conference was life changing for both her and us as her parents and caregivers
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11 hours ago, mindinggaps said:
Hi all, I've posted previously about my daughter who has been diagnosed with anxiety and OCD and several months ago started treatment with Prozac. The medication has been life saving. It has helped her control obsessions and anxieties to the point where her struggles are minor. She is integrating well with her peers are largely just living life.
We want to ensure she is in therapy to build coping skills over the longer term and so that perhaps one day we are able to rely less on medication. However, this hasn't been going nearly as well. For a few years she was engaged in play therapy and frankly, it never really translated to much. She's now doing ERP therapy which is apparently the best option for OCD, but again it seems like she's not really getting that much out of it. I'm not sure she is able to fully grasp things at her age and build to coping skills. We'll stick with it for now, but just wondering if anyone has seen therapy become more useful over the long term? Are we missing something here? We've tried different specialists and different approaches but at the moment it just seems to be a total roadblock.
Right now, if I'm being honest, we're pretty much totally reliant on the Prozac for treatment. Not sure how realistic it will be to rely less on this moving forward and if therapy can be part of that transition. -
Calendly we use it for parent teacher conferences and appointments with trachers/admins
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I would absolutely go and and absolutely take a gift. My husband is retired military. When our first and second child were born we were living far from family and just arrived at a new base so we really didn't have any friends and I never got a baby shower. In my mind a baby shower isn't so much about getting everything you need as about celebrating new life with a family.
Fortunately for me, when my third child was born, we had been in our community for a while and had friends and they hosted a lovely baby shower for me and it was so welcome and appreciated. Not because of gifts but because in a world that asks mother of three if they know what birth contral is, it was great to finally feel that other people were happy for us.
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I took a few years off heirloom sewing/smocking and made some hand embroidered quilts. But I have a 8 month old grandson and I am back to seeing for him.
My sewing instagram
sew_long_for_now
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At my oldest daughter’s homeschool co-op graduation I said in my speech that if anyone ever deserved an honors designation on their high school diploma it was the first born of a type A mother.
6 years later I said that my son deserved it because in his high school career I “fixed” all the “mistakes” that I made with the first two.
today, all three are happily functioning self supporting adults with a good relationship with me and a desire to homeschool their own offspring
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a site that makes kits to add LED lights to LEGO sets, really cool looking. I got one for my son and one for my son-in-law
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The Mrs. Pollifax adventures
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My mom was one of five and she is the only one that had kids. My dad was an only child. I have no first cousins and due to my dad'd military career I do not know my second cousins at all.
Four of my five siblings had children (I had 3, one sister had 4 and the other 2 had 2 each) and now my first grandson is three months old and my other two children would like to get married and have children so our family is growing. we are up to 25 for Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter.
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A Saturn Wagon repair manual for our new car
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1 hour ago, MercyA said:
I have done this when truly desperate, followed by cold water. It does work for a little while. I've never had it work for 8 hours.
It worked for me for about two hours at a stretch. I had poison ivy from hip to ankle all the way around both legs and from wrist to shoulder all the way around both arms.
(We lost fourteen trees in our back yard during a hurricane. We cut them all into logs to drag out to the front for pickup. My husband conceived of the idea of clearing the mud off them with a power washer. The sprayback that I spent the day washed in contained poison ivy oils)
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from health central.com
This was very successful for me when I had poison ivy.
A hot bath or shower often produces relief in that heat releases histamine, the substance in the skin that causes intense itching. Therefore, a hot shower will cause intense itching as the histamine is being released. The heat should be gradually increased to the maximum tolerable and continued until the itching subsides. This process will deplete the cells of histamine, and the patient will obtain up to 8 hours of relief from itching.
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My oldest (27) would dearly love to marry and have children and homeschool. She has not found the right husband yet. She may adopt or foster if the man doesn't appear.
My middle (24) got married in June and cried last week because she isn't yet pregnant. Her husband comes from a family of 10 children. They plan on 5-7. They plan to homeschool
My youngest (boy) (21) wants children and would be glad to be a SAHD and homeschool. He is planning on children but is not currently in a realationship
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Does anyone have experience with the Freestyle Libre? My husband has been using this continuous blood glucose monitor for the past few months. Right now we have had about 50% not work right. One wouldn't boot up at all, one was reading way too low and when we pulled it off the "needle" was bent. He just put a new one on this morning and it has been reading way too high so he just pulled it off, the "needle" was fine. The company has been good about replacing them free of charge but it just seems wrong that so many have been bad.
Anyone else have the same experience?
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you can use PayPal to ship first class even without an eBay sale and you still get a discount!
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I am 49 and graduated my youngest from homeschool 3 years ago. I got a job teaching engineering and physics in a Catholic high school and just finished my third year there. I was just selected as the science department chair. My middle daughter just got married and she and her husband plan to have a baby ASAP. My youngest lives with us while finishing school but plans to move out in 6-12 months.
My husband is 55. He plans to work until he can take full social security at 67. I don't know what I will do. I think that I will continue teaching at least until he retires. My children are all currently local to me so I can see them on breaks. I am building an engineering program at my school and am very fulfilled by my job. If I retire when he does, I will have been teaching for 15 years and I will be eligible for a full pension at 20 years, so woking those last five years might just make sense. I think that if I am having fun I will.
We plan to spend the next 12 years where we are. We are going to travel on my breaks. I think that when my husband retires I may work another 5 years. we would spend those years building a home on some land in a nearby state and visiting on weekends. When I retired we would move there full time.
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(I am 49) I tried the lash extensions (applied at Amazing Lash Studio) and I thought that they looked very fake. I did get the curled and have considered going back and trying the straight ones.
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1 hour ago, DeainUSA said:
I don't know how you don't allow sex. Just because one is CI doesn't mean they don't or shouldn't have relationships. I feel like maybe you aren't familiar with an IQ range of 55-75? I am speaking specifically to that, because it is where my son and his circle falls and what I know.
There is a whole CI range that a person can go to school, work, take transportation, be involved in groups and sports, and have a whole fulfilling life. While assistance, training, planning and supervision is needed at times, that doesn't mean it is 24/7 under the eye. All of this takes years of work I can write a book on, but the goal is as much independence as possible, even with not being able to live on their own, drive, and so on.
My son is 18 and in his last year of high school. He will get a certificate of completion. He has an IQ of 60. He cannot drive. He reads at a 2-3rd grade level. He could not fill out a form, make an appt, goto an appt by himself, etc..We have guardianship, to clarify on his level of need. He cannot take care of his own needs, never will be able too. I live in fear of us dying and what happens to him.
That said, he is in a work training program this summer and will have a simple ob this fall. After job coaching he will be on his own there like any other employee. He will take special needs transportation. He is on his xc and track team and went to states. He can left alone for a day (not overnight). He can cook with us home.
He can do many many thing, but have a child is not one. So again I ask, what do I do?
I realize it's a tough subject. I'm not incredibly touchy over it. Just trying to offer a different perspective. It doesn't sit great with me and my friends who have to make a decision like this either. There's just not awesome alternatives either.
My daughter and I are conservative Catholics. we do not believe in or use artificial birth control. My daughter is a special ed teacher who works with high school students with ID (students with an IQ of 50-75) in the past she taught in a post-secondary (college) program for these students. The program had a sex ed class for the kids and they were definitely having sex.
She would like to adopt a child with Down Syndrome one day and this is a hard topic for her. She is of the opinion that she would be willing to risk the sin on this one and provide her child with birth control that they do not have to be in charge of (so semi-permanent/permanent).
In order to provide the richness of life that these adults deserve they cannot be supervised every second. Beyond what they will choose to do on their own, the risk of abuse is just too high. (she had a student with an IQ of about 75 who was dating a neurotypical student)
I feel for the choice that you must make and know that many people cannot understand that position that you are in. You are trying to decide on what is best for your child in all ways and this is a really gray/hard area.
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I had an 18 year old whirlpool frontloader with buttons and LED display and we repaired it many times, until we could no longer find replacement parts. I say keep the newer set.
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1 hour ago, Carol in Cal. said:
EMDR is the gold standard for PTSD, I understand.
1 hour ago, BaseballandHockey said:Yes, I am looking into that.
EMDR saved my daughter's life and I have seen it drastically improve the lives of other people as well. A great EMDR therapist is worth every penny they cost
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I am going to be the odd man out. Like you we wanted our kids to be in the same room as everyone else. Rooms had beds and clothing only. We had plenty of other cozy family areas for reading/playing/crafting and hobbies. We never had a house with huge kids bedrooms and they always shared as well.
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5 hours ago, ktgrok said:
Starts with a P? Prusia or something like that? It's pricey, but since we are not asking for reimbursements for multiple gaming systems and TVs and such...I feel okay with it.
Your son and husband will love it! I bought one and assembled it for myself in March and then the school I work at bought one in May and the librarian and I assembled it. They print so much better than anything else I have used!
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My husband and I got married at 20 (me) and 26 (him), 29 years ago. We are very happy. My daughter is 24 with a masters degree and a steady job. Her fiancé is 24, with steady job as a civil engineer and is an Army reserve 2nd Lt. His parents did not want him getting married. They objected in every way the could, on every angle possible. They even, at one point told their son that he couldn't possible be sexually attracted to my daughter (she is 5'8" and wears a size 12, very athletic build).
They tried to prevent the marriage in every way they could (we are Catholic and they convinced the priest who was marrying them to refuse, my D and SIL went around him to the the bishop and got it approved)
My SIL is now totally estranged from his family and getting married in three weeks without his family being present.
Hopefully, your daughter's boyfriends parents will see that they are adults and back off before they lose their son.
We have stayed out of it in everyday we could other than to provide listening ears and hugs along with love and support. It has been a hard road.
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7 hours ago, scbusf said:
Yes. I didn't include all the details in my post. She has had anxiety and suspected OCD for many years. She was also adopted from China at 21 months old. She isn't restricting food due to wanting to lose weight or thinking she's overweight. She's doing it because her OCD thinks she needs to save food so that we don't run out. Or save food so that someone else can have more. She was doing really well and came off her anxiety meds in late 2019. Then Covid hit ...... That sent her back into a hard place.
Maybe, my point wasn't clear. My daughter wasn't restricting food because she thought she was overweight. Her OCD told her that there might be bugs or ground glass in it, or that if she ate then her mouth would be dirty and she might touch her mouth and get food on her hands and then when she touched her eyes, she would get food in them and go blind.
It is common for OCD to worsen in puberty and whether it is worse because of PANS/PANDAS or simply because of OCD, finding a therapist skilled in ERP can be life-changing.
I would give anything to have known when my daughter was 13 that she had OCD. Conventional treatment for eating disorders did nothing for her, three times, we needed to treat the OCD.
She is now 24, has a college degree, two masters, a job that she loves and is getting married in 31 days. She still has OCD but it is manageable.
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When the girlfriend’s parents are unhappy
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This exact scenario is why my Son-in-law is 100% estranged from his parents for the last three years. They were not invited to the wedding and they have never met their almost two year old grandson and won't be meeting the new baby that will be born in May.
We also ran in the same circles and it has been awkward for the last three years.