Math woes in The Learning Challenges Board Posted September 25, 2019 1 hour ago, Lecka said: What happens also ------ is if something is too hard, the child just doesn't benefit. There's a few reasons. Let's say she's bogged down adding 3+3+3+3. She gets to 3, hhmmm, haa, hmmm, gets to 9, hmmmm, okay it's 12. At this point she has forgotten what she was doing and why as far as ----- making a connection to "here's what we do to convert between feet and yards." That is just gone. It's totally gone. Second, things have to be a little easy for there to be that process of "here are the steps I'm doing and how they connect." If you are just doing the steps, and that is taking up all the energy and attention, that other process just is not happening. It's just not happening. Third, it's demoralizing and can develop a really passive "mom will tell me what to do next" mentality. Ask me how I know this. Yikes. This is her in a nutshell. Skip counting is still adding - not automatic at all. And DH thinks she's definitely trying to get me to just lead her to the answer so she doesn't have to do it all herself.