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  1. Has anyone ever had a kid who couldn't figure out the carrying rule about re-grouping with 9's until the end and then a 10 at the very end (e.g., when subtracting something like 598 from 1234)? We moved on when she got stuck on it last year, and she finished the rest of Singapore 3, but I tried revisiting it this week and she's still completely stuck on it. She can get there on her own by a series of regroupings (e.g., turn 1 into 0 and 2 into 12, then turn 12 into 11 and turn 3 into 13, then turn 13 into 12 and 4 into 14) but it seems like WAY more work (to ME!! lol). This is the only way she can do this that makes any sense to her. I've tried base 10 blocks, drawings, trading in money, etc. all to no avail, and I'm out of ideas. She does often forget to actually *add* the 10, as well, and frequently just replaces the number with 10 (i.e., instead of turning 1 into 0 and 2 into 12 in the first step above, she'll turn the 2 into a 10. And then she'll cross off the 10 and put a 9, and cross off the 3 in the tens column and replace it with 10.) When I ask her why you put the 10 there, she can fix it on her own half the time, or so. I feel like she *does* get the idea, but her EF skills and very low working memory are working against her here. How do I know when to move on or if I need to hit this until she's solid?
  2. 5 more weeks until feedback from the private psych! Feels like eternity!! lol,
  3. Sigh. Don't even get me started about dd7's testing... When I mentioned her appt with her the day before, she brought me paper and asked me to write down what she wanted to remember to tell her psych. It went like this (and I know for sure, because she made me write it down!): It's hard to understand people. In public, in a group, I'll say stuff like, "Yeah, yeah, totally!" But I'll walk away from the group thinking, "What just happened? I don't understand what's going." When I get in trouble for being mean, I don't understand how or why I got in trouble and I'm sad that people don't understand. I'm having a good day and all of a sudden I'm in trouble, but I feel so left out because I don't understand what I did or why they're so upset. It's hard because my brain just doesn't understand things. I feel left out because my brain doesn't understand things that other people understand. And even the things I do understand, I can't do in public because my brain gets so confused around people. Then, there was right after her ADOS: Me: So what'd you talk about with the Dr? dd7: Oh, you know, I just told her about all my friends and how great they are and how much they like me. Me: .... ..... Why? dd7: Oh, I don't know. The other stuff is kind of weird to talk about. Suffice it to say that I'm not holding my breath about her ADOS testing showing anything...
  4. So I had my 3 yo's ADOS done with a private person and not gotten results back. Simultaneously, I had her evaluated through the schools, and it turns out that they do an ADOS too (though I didn't know that before hand). But now I'm confused. Here are the results the school gave me: ADOS score of 2 -> not even a little autism, despite BASC-3 percentile scores of 1st %ile in Adaptability, 1st in social skills, 99th in withdrawal, 97th in atypicality, 94th in anxiety, and 89th in aggression. So they very nicely (and I really liked this team, so don't get me wrong!) told me that it stinks she has so many problems at home, but at least she did great for them on the ADOS! I'm interested to hear if the private person got the same ADOS results or not (maybe it's wrong to think that maybe the school wasn't as good as the private person? Or maybe it's wrong to wonder if having two ADOS's administered in one week might have skewed the results on the second one? I'm not sure). But -- assuming the school is right, and the ADOS says no autism, despite the BASC flagging all those sort of "autistic traits," -- what do I do with this information?
  5. Well, DH backtracked on sending her to school and is just strongly encouraging us to take a break and go for bike rides and hikes and spend time together outdoors and having fun. I need to figure out how to “take a break” in a way that’s meaningful to me while still having the structure that my kids need. So I doubt we plop her into school this year (school by us is out in 7 weeks anyway), but I will keep thinking about and mulling over all of this as I think about what would be best for next year. Thank you all so much for all of your advice, encouragement, and wisdom.
  6. I don’t know what pairing is? i have a few friendS that step in when we really need it, but no family or anything that could step in more often. A few older church members have tried to offer us childcare for us to take a break or go in a date or something on occasion, but my kids are enough of a handful that they usually don’t offer to watch them again after that.
  7. Mostly zones of reg stuff. Problem was that dd knew all the right answers to say, but can’t apply them. So they told me at this point, the balls in my court to make her implement the things she knows. Thanks for this. It’s helpful. Thanks foR the encouragement that any change we make might be a good one, and that we do have more options than I was previously considering. I’m honestly not sure who would tynhrive in school and who not. Part of my hesitation in trying to sort this school stuff out now is that we are likely moving out of state this summer, so anything I do now doesn’t really carry over to next year anyway. She’s by far my most difficult child, though, but st least two other kids do also need significant support, which makes me feel like a juggler who’s constantly dropping balls because people keep adding more balls to my rotation. Lol. And we actually do know it’s dyslexia, from having an SLP administer the ELLA and looking at phonological processing and phonemic awareness. Weve completely stopped VT for now because it was such a struggle, but now we have the same level of struggle for reading! 😛 I haven’t checked RR in the last four months, but as of for months ago we had integrated all that weren’t previously. I like our OT. She has advanced training in sensory stuff. They went through the zones of regulation material. But there was definitely nothing challenging that she asked of dd. So dd spent the whole time smiling and laughing and joking and otherwise have the time of her life in squeezy swings and other stuff like that. 🙂 No genetics, yes evals. Dx: anxiety, depression, dyslexia. In two weeks she also has an ADOS scheduled. This was my husbands other idea. Just break from work and focus on building relationship up again, since it’s taken a real beating from so much conflict. It’s true. And I guess end of the year stuff gives us a short trial at least without committing to a full year.
  8. Any suggestions on how to convince a therapist that she's sweet and well-behaved in their office, but a holy terror at home? lol. They somehow tend to think it's either an imaginary problem (because I like taking her to therapy several times a week and depriving my younger kids of their nap just for fun...) OR a behavioral problem that I've brought on myself by rewarding her outbursts....
  9. That is what I'm concerned about. She is/was in therapy and OT for the anxiety and depression. But they felt like she was so much better that they released her from OT last month and her therapist only wanted to see her every month or two. I wonder if that decrease in supports led to the most recent month of panic attacks and not sleeping.
  10. I post a lot about dd7, I feel. She has a number of diagnoses (dyslexia, anxiety, depression, vision issues) and a number of things people sometimes ask about and/or suggest (bipolar, ASD, adhd, apraxia) that have not been evaluated yet. School with her is a nightmare. Every day involves crying, refusal to do her work (reading exercises, vision exercises, etc.). For every 30 minutes of work we get done, I think we spend 2ish hours crying and refusing to do it. She was in a full-on panic attack a few days ago, unable to stop scratching at my and her clothes while shaking. She's also back to waking up 3-4 times a night with panic attacks, so I feel like I have a newborn again, I'm so exhausted during the day!! I'm at my wits end and my DH has suggested it may be in everyone's best interest to send her to PS next year. I spend so much time with her that I feel like I'm completely neglecting my other children. I feel exhausted after dealing with each meltdown. I think it's true that I could school my other three kids so much better dd7 went to PS. I also think that she *does* do better for others and would not have nearly the tantrums at school that she has for me. On the other hand, she has major sensory issues, is overwhelmed by people, and struggles socially and reading people and situations. (Summer camp last year left her crying for three hours straight but insisting she return each day and she already complains about not being able to make friends.) And she's very much 2E, so she's really bright and able to fly on a lot of people's radars, so I doubt her dyslexia gets remediated well at PS, because she *is* reading on grade level. But the idea of going to school puts her into even more of a panic and she becomes incoherent and unable to even talk about what she's feeling. DH is hopeful that sending her to school would give the rest of our family back our sanity. I'm fearful that it be the straw that puts her over the edge. I'm not sure what I need, honestly. Besides a clone (one for dd7 and one for the rest of my kids). 🙂 I don't know if I'm looking for permission, reassurance, or a sound cuff over the top of my head. I guess I'm just looking for some sort of input/thoughts.
  11. In that case, I would definitely approach it the way that I mentioned above. My child like this responded relatively well to it, but I had to be very firm going into a situation, because the authority figures were usually flustered or unsure how to respond to questioning. So before we went pretty much anywhere, I would review what I expected from them with regards to doing what people tell them to, and how much conversation is appropriate, And especially that bickering for the fun of it wouldn’t be tolerated (and we’d have to just leave if I felt like they were being disrespectful.) They still push boundaries sometimes, but they are smart enough to figure out that I mean it and that the consequence for them will be losing out on fun activities that they actually do want to participate in.They still push boundaries sometimes, but they are smart enough to figure out that I mean it and that the consequence for them will be losing out on fun activities that they actually do want to participate in.
  12. Ha ha! I have a kid like this! The best the best defense I have found thus far Is just to respond, equally matter-of-factly, “well, they are still wrong. Please correct them now” or “Well, it is annoying to everyone else, so you need to quit anyway.“ or whatever fits your particular situation. 🙂
  13. Just to be clear: you're certain he really needs clarification? Or does he just like to argue, bicker, challenge authority, and get the upper hand, since he probably *can* in most situations, because of his giftedness? In the absence of a diagnosis (since you said he'd been eval'd), I would just draw a line and say that he needs to stop asking annoying questions. Period. There's a time to ask questions and there's a time to be respectful of other people by keeping quiet. If he needs to know these things, write down his questions and bring them home where you can research them together. I don't know your situation, of course, but this sounds less about a kid really needing information, and more about a kid needing to understand what's appropriate and how actually do it.
  14. Aw! I just had my math students read this in a class I’m teaching! The problems are so fun (on two men breaking bread is really interesting and unexpected) and it’s always fun to share how the Fibonacci sequence was actually really not the main thing he contributed to the field of mathematics! 🙂 PS. There are free online ones as well, I think.
  15. It was just so random. Here we are driving home from ballet rehearsal and she’s eating a snack while looking out the window, and out it came. And then more silence while I tried to think of an appropriate response. Lol.
  16. Dd7: I often think that I'm not real. The world is just a giant head and I'm just a thought. "Wake up!" I shout.
  17. And thanks. 🙂 It's still a fair bit of work for him to narrate something like that and actually use google to edit/correct the mistakes that come with voice typing and a slight articulation issue still, but I feel like taking away the physical barrier of writing has helped him exponentially to be able to express himself, and it's also really helped his confidence. A few months ago, he dictated (with google voice) a simple slide presentation in German even. It had far more mistakes, but he was SO, SO proud of himself. I think this thing was taped up on our window for a months straight! lol. (The actual presentation had a big picture on each side/page.) 10 Fragen über Roboter 1. Genau was ist ein Roboter? Antwort: Ein Roboter ist eine Maschine die Arbeit für Menschen übernimmt. Ein Roboter ist nicht wie ein Staubsauger, weil er viele Jobs auf einmal tun kann. 2. Ist mein ferngesteuertes Auto ein Roboter? Antwort: Nein, ein Roboter kann Dinge ohne Hilfe der Menschen tun. Mein ferngesteuertes Auto kann nicht von alleine fahren. 3. Was alles kann ein Roboter tun? Antwort: Ein Roboter kann viele Dinge machen, wie Vulkanen zu erforschen und dein Essen kochen. 4. Kann ein Roboter laufen, sprechen, oder Musik spielen? Antwort: Ja, und vieles anderes. 5. Hat ein Roboter Gefühle? Antwort: Nein, es ist eine Maschine. 6. Kann ein Roboter denken? Antwort: Nein, weil es vorher programmiert ist. 7. Kann ein Roboter hören? Antwort: Ja, ein Roboter kann hören, aber das kann mein Computer auch. Das ist warum ich das hier schreiben kann. 8. Hat ein Roboter ein Gehirn? Antwort: Nein, es hat kein echtes Gehirn, aber eine kleine programmierte C.H.I.P. das lässt es Logik tun, was wie denken sehr aussieht. 9. Kann ein Roboter essen und schlafen? Antwort: Ein Roboter kann nicht essen aber manche Roboter wie Aibo, der Roboter Hund, sehen aus als ob sie schlafen, wenn ihre Batterien lehr sind. 10. Gibt es Roboter Tiere? Antwort: Ja, wie Aibo der Roboterhund. Du hast eben über ihm gelesen. Es gibt auch Roboter Katzen und Roboter Insekten. Manchmal nutzt mann die Insekten für spionieren.
  18. He had just read most of the Horrible Histories book about Rome. 🙂 I was most pleased with his perseverance and his transition, "But even though..." He's never done something like that in his writing before!
  19. Yes, we've started separating out the actual physical act of writing part. So just this week, the same kid "wrote" this using google docs and voice-typing, and even EDITED it himself. It took him right around an hour because he kept stopping and re-dictating things about 10 times before finally giving up and just typing that one problem word himself (he can't yet say /r/ well, so voice typing does have a few challenges for him still). None the less, I feel like this is pretty decent for one hour worth of "writing" : (( ))'s fun facts about The Ancient Romans The Romans are fascinating people. For instance, can you imagine having to beat 100,000 Celts with only 10,000 Romans? How did the Romans do it? The Romans were very organized in battle, while the Celts were not. The Romans became excellent shipbuilders and sailed all over the sea conquering islands. They were excellent fighters and were soon the greatest Empire in the ancient times. Julius Caesar helped expand its Empire but he was power-hungry and was soon murdered by his own followers. The Romans had Gladiators that fought together in an arena against lions, bears, and other wild animals, and sometimes even each other. The Romans liked to see blood so they made it so that the gladiator who lost was killed by the other Gladiator . But even though the Romans were cruel, they built many amazing structures.They built aqueducts that would carry water through the cities to houses. They built huge public baths so everybody could get clean and they also built huge sculptures of famous Romans . Thanks for reading (( ))'s fun facts about Romans. If you like this, then read more of (( ))'s fun facts about the ancient worlds. See you next time!
  20. My ds9 got an arduino starter set recently and has been loving it. But it’s very parent intensive for me, because the guide is very much not written for children and often leaves him somewhat lost.
  21. I’m still going to keep my appt at the diagnostic clinic but they haven’t even called me to *schedule* an appointment yet, so my hopes are not high that that will be very soon...
  22. Well, I think I'm glad to be keeping both appointments, to get input from different people... The private person who did our intake today was super nice and took lots of notes, but it was interesting to note that she flat out said that the ADOS is where it's at, so she'll do that, but she does not suspect it will turn anything up, and chances are that dd3 is just a moody toddler and dd7 is just anxious. But their ados scheduling is 6 weeks out, and then she said it's another 5 weeks out for results, so we have a while to wait anyway!
  23. To be fair, my kids ARE often in pajamas all day. They’re comfy!! On the flip side, my oldest has usually begun his academics by 6-615am...
  24. My most annoying one to date is definitely this: ”You know, your kid probably wouldn’t be autistic if you had just put him in school and daycare, because then he would’ve learned those social skills early.”
  25. This. I specifically don’t want my kids learning social skills from other kids WHO DON’T KNOW ANY BETTER ANYWAY!! Lol.
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